How do I get a shy guy to ask me out? (Page 3)

Question

I really like this guy and can tell he likes me back we've known each other for 4months but he's really shy and I've been told I shouldn't ask this guy out myself because he wouldn't like it because it would make he feel less of a man. Is there any signs or hints I could give him to let him know I like him and want to go out with him?

heeRain17 · Answer

Being a shy guy myself, I can tell that, it would be extremely difficult for me to ask her out...  I think the girls should also take initiative...

YHL6965 · Answer

It's funny because I live the exact same story from the opposite side : I'm the shy guy and I want to let a girl know I like her and we've known each other for 4 months as well.

Anonymous · Answer

Try: "I'd love to go to that movie/concert/exhibition, but Abby can't go. Betty doesn't like it. Candy has to work. Life sucks!" and see what he says.

sms284 · Answer

Give him ideas about activities you can both enjoy, and if he's interested he'll find a way to go with you. Subtle touches with warm eyes and smiles, those seem to work too. Eventually, he may grab your hand, and thats how you know he's yours

jack4boy · Answer

Just ask him out or tell him you think he is jot its not complicated

SebShaw82 · Answer

You've been told by whom that asking him out would make him less of a man?

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I would say your going to have to break the ice and ask him out.

itsbritneybetch · Answer

Any guy that would get offended if you ask them out is no man worth dating.

Cornchipuniverse · Answer

Just ask him out, if it makes him feel like less of a man then that's his problem and he should grow up.

Likes2drive · Answer

Well unless you have Jedi mind control your going to have to do the asking yourself or he may never ask no matter what hints you do if he is that shy

Spats · Answer

This is the usual nonsense. Men love it when the woman makes the first move. On the contrary... it makes him feel more of a man!

dyaamy · Answer

Well u can ask him the same question u just asked u can make it about this friend if yours who likes a shy guy n see what he thinks

kaylaS91 · Answer

why don't you just ask him out instead?

naraku · Answer

Ask him out. We are in the 21st Century. Nothing to lose and perhaps a new boyfriend to gain.  Good luck ~

Anonymous · Answer

you do it or make it very obvious multiple times till they finally get the picture or feel sure enough work up the confidence etc

yiien · Answer

Just be realy honest with him. And sometime when you are with him, tell him something like "you know what would be great?" "If you ask me on a date, i would love that so much"

mrsingle · Answer

Who told you not to ask him out? The best thing is to ask him out!

Philyouup · Answer

how do you get a shy guy to ask you out? You ask him out...

Anonymous · Answer

Why do you need to get him to ask you? Some guys, especially shy ones, don't like these "games" where it has to be the guy that asks the girl. Just ask him out yourself.

bamf17 · Answer

Look just be honest with him and first chance you get make him dinner. You should be good from there

cuhrmela · Answer

Ask him out. Think of something you have in common, start there.

AllThatSweetJazz · Answer

I don’t see why he would be bothered by you asking him out. Just do it.

TallGuy96 · Answer

If a girl asks me out i'll give her all the respect i have, i am shy too.

readywriter · Answer

yes. Don't ask him out but tell him how pleased you would be if he did.

JSmuve · Answer

Just write on a piece of cardboard "just ask me out already you big lovable dingus!"

yaons · Answer

Simpel you dont make him ask you out. You ask him out. step of that guys have to ask the girl out nonsense

earthchildtearthling · Answer

if you like him just let him it ok to make the first move just don't be to forward you might scare him away

niDaye · Answer

I behave very differently at work and after work. so you should give that man a note and meet him in private.

Vivek133 · Answer

U shld ask him. Actually if he will interested in U physical or mental. We would ask u self. So u should attract him with ur beauty. Give him some extra dose

ChrisHeiland19 · Answer

Well you don't want to come one strong about it just tell him that you have liked him and tell him that you would like to start talking and go from there

Cowboy1331 · Answer

It's 2017, Life's too short, don't let life and love pass you by! If he's too shy to ask you it might be because he's afraid of rejection. Ask him instead, it eliminates rejection immediately.

luccio15 · Answer

Im the kind of guy you are talking about... and if I were him, I would like you to just tell me how you feel and then we ll see how it goes, I wouldn't care AT ALL about feeling "less of a man"

MrA1996 · Answer

Simply ask directly yourself to offer you the treat

Ranick · Answer

Just flat out say man i wish someone would ask me out when its only him by you

WhiteDuck · Answer

Maybe if you just talk to him, then it would be easier for him to approach you or ask you out

CoffeeWC · Answer

I'm a shy guy myself and I know that he probably won't be making the first move

jennyem · Answer

You have to be more direct and give him signals! Good luck :)

klrhunter · Answer

Trust me when I say he won't. you'll have to ask him

Phoenix2480 · Answer

Ask him out anyway. Nobody feels "less of a man" when being asked out.

VerbalWN · Answer

You don't. You'll have to be the one to ask him out.

LegateLanius · Answer

Ask him out yourself. It will not make any guy feel less of a man unless he's got a fragile ego

clampfan101 · Answer

I think sometimes girls need to make the first move if the guy can't manage.

ghostwalker88 · Answer

He's shy so he won't be putting his masculinity first. He'll respond well if you make the first move.

jvv42 · Answer

Just ask him. Put your hand on his arm like you want to feel his muscle. Say hey, want to go xxxxxx xxxxxx?

seabass611 · Answer

Just ask him out, if you always wait for other people to start something you are going to spend all your time waiting.

Ryan964 · Answer

Just go for it! Ask him, no guy feels lessened by being asked out by a girl... Quite the opposite in fact.

Anonymous · Answer

As a shy guy myself I can tell you that whoever told you that you shouldn't ask him out yourself is totally full of shit and probably a woman.

Chris0012 · Answer

You should really just ask him out and take the lead.

bbb10 · Answer

Ask him out, it won't make him feel like less of a man.

ashnomore · Answer

Ask him out Im a shy guy too  Id like to be asked out rather than asking u out

Linusvensson · Answer

Ask him out yourself or try hanging out With him more. He probably dont realise you like him.

Yuhei · Answer

You can ask him out. I don't think he cares about that

Davontheruler · Answer

Slowly let him get comfortable with you and get to know you and then he'll open up to you

AdamHaron · Answer

get to know him on a comfortable level so that he isn't as shy, id say just to give it a bit of time for him to build his confidence.

shrekoneofakind · Answer

Yes suggest him you would be up for coffee. Or suggest that you would like to hear more about what he does or likes over a coffee

hirt60 · Answer

Be honest.. I'm a shy guy as well... I like to be approached... just have a conversation to relax him

TangledTK · Answer

Ask him out and be direct.

Anonymous · Answer

You can't you have to ask him, shy guys prefer girls who are assertive and who are not afraid of taking the initiative.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm in same situation. a girl likes me. But I can't ask her out. She tried to convince it to me via her guy friend. But it made me to feel weak.

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