Attractive woman has attraction, they have the attention. Ad if you approach such a woman and turned down, it is news, and shame to that man.
Men fear being turned down. If a lady says no, or just ignore when a man approached her, it is bad for their ego. Men just fear the humiliation of being turned down at a hot woman. I always look if she is wearing a ring when making a conversation because then I know the boundaries and back off.
Besides, men believe that hot woman are arrogant and proud, that fear is bigger. But ones they learn that she is friendly and wouldn't humiliate you, then, there is no fear.
Self consciousness. The "she's so pretty, she won't want to be with me" mentality. That'd be my guess. My reason is "generally the 'hot' girls are boringly shallow and vapid" so I just don't care. Oh, I don't necessarily think they're stupid or anything, but I only approach a girl after I've learned a bit about her from how she talks and acts.
Id say it is fear. A strange kind of fear. I feel uncomfortable and fearful when I see an attractive lady.
I sujest going to a party where every one is wearing masks. Then after you have started talking and found the guy is nice or cofertable in talking to you. then take of the mask.
I made some attempts going for what I call a 10, just to keep my own mouth shut, lol...I got blanked..lol..well like Edison said "i didn't fail, I found 10 000 ways that don't work" ...But why blank the guy? ..."Only players got the guts to approach a good looking gal"? ...so they thought I was a player?
I think most guys (me included) are just afraid of getting knocked back.
I'm quite shy when talking to a girl I don't know well, never mind letting her know I like her. I guess a lot of guys just aren't sure how to come out and say it and may think the girl is out of their reach.
A lot of girls are the same and wait for the guy to make a move.
I only talk to 10/10 women I happen to run into, (though job/friends/family) I don't approach them, the average 10 do bite, nice to know that there's one on the planet who doesn't treat people badly, because they can, and still get someone (a player probably) to still talk to them.
It's the guys fear of rejection that prevents guys from approaching you. I have been that guy that wishes he could get a girl like you. I finaly broke that when I started to make allot of money. The reason I became so confident is that I didn't care about the rejection and would just move on to the next girl. Now I'm single again after a 4yrs relationship and I consider myself a normal joe. I'm looking for a pretty girl (ok hot girl) and I don't want to come off as a player so I find myself again not approaching girls like you. It's not so much the fear but at my age we always think the hot ones have a man already. I'd like to ask you a question.. why don't you go up and talk to normal guys? I'm sure he wouldn't say no. :)
For me, a pretty girl will stop me in my tracks. And all of the sudden speaking in sentences, and not to mention breathing, just got sixty times harder! lol. Guys don't want to look stupid, or she may not ever talk to them again. But I figure if you really want her, you have to try.
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like brando said, pics or it ain't true, saying your hot without proving it would be like saying I'm god, but not being able to prove it, since not everyone believes in god anyway. post a pic, then ill answer
btw, I will only approach the 10's. and 9's. theyre easier to get, they already know theyre hot, so you just have to talk to them as if theyre not. haha, uglier girls you always have to keep saying your hot, your pretty over and over again, it gets old
I don't have trouble talking to good looking women. I may not approach a woman based on how she might carry herself, but never on how hot she may be. Wait it out, there's nice guys out there who can handle speaking to hot chicks.
..could it be that lots of guys are conditioned to be afraid of appraoching women... especially in your age group? Also, wish you put your pic on here, instead of hiding behind the anonymous...
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I know you said you don't approach guys (never have ,never will). Are you sure just because you go on "a lot of dates" you're ALL THAT? There's an old saying; you get back what you put out. Maybe the type of guys to whom YOU"RE attracted expect women AND men to approach the subjects of their interest. If not Ms. never have never will, you may simply end up like those guys who "pine" for you.
Nobody like rejection, usually you end up with someone who is around the same level of attraction. The other issue is that pretty girl can have higher standards be more demanding or put on a princess act...
You too have to do something about it man. There are more thing in the process before you go and talk to her. First is the eye contact. Make eye contact and that you have to do first of all. And look in to her eyes. If she is inviting, you sure have to go and start the conversation!
Watch she's out of my league. Even though in that movie the girl who plays the girl that is a "hard ten", in my personal opinion, isn't as attractive as lindsay sloane, who is her best friend in the movie.
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Attractive woman has attraction, they have the attention. Ad if you approach such a woman and turned down, it is news, and shame to that man.
Men fear being turned down. If a lady says no, or just ignore when a man approached her, it is bad for their ego. Men just fear the humiliation of being turned down at a hot woman. I always look if she is wearing a ring when making a conversation because then I know the boundaries and back off.
Besides, men believe that hot woman are arrogant and proud, that fear is bigger. But ones they learn that she is friendly and wouldn't humiliate you, then, there is no fear.
Self consciousness. The "she's so pretty, she won't want to be with me" mentality. That'd be my guess. My reason is "generally the 'hot' girls are boringly shallow and vapid" so I just don't care. Oh, I don't necessarily think they're stupid or anything, but I only approach a girl after I've learned a bit about her from how she talks and acts.
I would be quite confident in approaching a reasonably attractive girl.. but when it comes to amazin lookin.. supermodel types... Its the fear factor.
1. she's outa your league
2. Do not wana be rejected by the fittest girl in the room like an idiot
3... how would you feel doing the same?
Id say it is fear. A strange kind of fear. I feel uncomfortable and fearful when I see an attractive lady.
I sujest going to a party where every one is wearing masks. Then after you have started talking and found the guy is nice or cofertable in talking to you. then take of the mask.
I made some attempts going for what I call a 10, just to keep my own mouth shut, lol...I got blanked..lol..well like Edison said "i didn't fail, I found 10 000 ways that don't work" ...But why blank the guy? ..."Only players got the guts to approach a good looking gal"? ...so they thought I was a player?
I think most guys (me included) are just afraid of getting knocked back.
I'm quite shy when talking to a girl I don't know well, never mind letting her know I like her. I guess a lot of guys just aren't sure how to come out and say it and may think the girl is out of their reach.
A lot of girls are the same and wait for the guy to make a move.
I only talk to 10/10 women I happen to run into, (though job/friends/family) I don't approach them, the average 10 do bite, nice to know that there's one on the planet who doesn't treat people badly, because they can, and still get someone (a player probably) to still talk to them.
It's the guys fear of rejection that prevents guys from approaching you. I have been that guy that wishes he could get a girl like you. I finaly broke that when I started to make allot of money. The reason I became so confident is that I didn't care about the rejection and would just move on to the next girl. Now I'm single again after a 4yrs relationship and I consider myself a normal joe. I'm looking for a pretty girl (ok hot girl) and I don't want to come off as a player so I find myself again not approaching girls like you. It's not so much the fear but at my age we always think the hot ones have a man already. I'd like to ask you a question.. why don't you go up and talk to normal guys? I'm sure he wouldn't say no. :)
A girl like you? Like what? Uhm...isn't this chick annonymous?
For me, a pretty girl will stop me in my tracks. And all of the sudden speaking in sentences, and not to mention breathing, just got sixty times harder! lol. Guys don't want to look stupid, or she may not ever talk to them again. But I figure if you really want her, you have to try.
like brando said, pics or it ain't true, saying your hot without proving it would be like saying I'm god, but not being able to prove it, since not everyone believes in god anyway. post a pic, then ill answer
btw, I will only approach the 10's. and 9's. theyre easier to get, they already know theyre hot, so you just have to talk to them as if theyre not. haha, uglier girls you always have to keep saying your hot, your pretty over and over again, it gets old
I don't have trouble talking to good looking women. I may not approach a woman based on how she might carry herself, but never on how hot she may be. Wait it out, there's nice guys out there who can handle speaking to hot chicks.
..could it be that lots of guys are conditioned to be afraid of appraoching women... especially in your age group? Also, wish you put your pic on here, instead of hiding behind the anonymous...
I know you said you don't approach guys (never have ,never will). Are you sure just because you go on "a lot of dates" you're ALL THAT? There's an old saying; you get back what you put out. Maybe the type of guys to whom YOU"RE attracted expect women AND men to approach the subjects of their interest. If not Ms. never have never will, you may simply end up like those guys who "pine" for you.
I have to admit, I have the looks! link
LOL!!! awesome
Nobody like rejection, usually you end up with someone who is around the same level of attraction. The other issue is that pretty girl can have higher standards be more demanding or put on a princess act...
I'm just extremely shy and I assume that when a girl is interested in me...she will do something about it.
You too have to do something about it man. There are more thing in the process before you go and talk to her. First is the eye contact. Make eye contact and that you have to do first of all. And look in to her eyes. If she is inviting, you sure have to go and start the conversation!
Watch she's out of my league. Even though in that movie the girl who plays the girl that is a "hard ten", in my personal opinion, isn't as attractive as lindsay sloane, who is her best friend in the movie.
Yes. Mainly because girls DO judge a lot by appearance, sometimes intentional, sometimes not.
However, a lot of guys are the same way, I for one try to get to know people properly first...because I've been judged badly on looks too many times.
they can feel intimidated and scared of rejection unfortunaly
Could it be yur not as hot as you think you are. Any girl can go on a lot of dates.
I gave you an arrow up because I think I know who this chick is. If it is her than you are 100% correct.