Out of all the guys I know - about 60% would mean it as a sincere compliment; 20% would use it as a conversation opener because they'd like to get to know this girl, for whatever reason; and about 7% would say it because they are trying to improve; then the remaining 17% would say it directly because they want to f*** her.
With honesty speaking: Just about all of those men would f*** her but they have no reason to speak about it. If they are giving a compliment they are giving a compliment.
Think about how long you've known this guy and if he is "ballsy" - is he the type of guy to go: "Hmm she's hot!" *Humps her leg*.. Or is he the type to say: "Goodmorning ma'am your looking good today" and walk the other direction.
Me myself and irene - I was the type of guy that would say it as a compliment and hopefully to get a conversation going. Just because I say a compliment doesn't mean someone can't respond with at least "Thank you".. But if I had a girlfriend in that situation, I would probably say: "Hey babe, she's smoking - what would you give her?" and she'd probably say: "Mehhh an 8"..
The point is that you stop worrying - the more you worry, the more stress is welcomed into your life.. If you are carefree and just act according to your own self-image you will get much farther in life than before when you were too scared to step out the front door.
Keep your chin up.
~ ArtistBBoy
Boy, oh boy. Just because I am in a relationship with a girl ,I won't be allowed to complement opposite sex without any intentions (being proud or sharing happy moments with that person)? Screw it. And don't even mention it and stop being jealous.
The answer is going to be different depending on the guy and the context.
Some guys are nice guys and will pay a girl a compliment even if he has no shady ulterior motives. I have a number of male friends who will compliment me even though they have a girlfriend, and my boyfriend will compliment other girls. They say things like, "I really like your dress", "you look really pretty/nice today", "your hair looks great like that". Or sometimes its when a girl admits that she thinks she's unattractive and the guy will chime in with, "No way! You're really hot/cute/sexy/beautiful!" because he wants to make her feel better or thinks she has no reason to feel down about her looks. This is all harmless, in my opinion. It's okay to find other people attractive even if you're in a relationship. It doesn't mean you think they're hotter than your partner or want to cheat on your partner or leave your partner for this other person.
On the other hand, sure, there are guys out there who are shady and compliment a girl as a "come on" when they already have a girlfriend, but I don't think its necessarily fair to assume that any compliment a guy pays to another girl means that he wants that girl more than his own girlfriend or would cheat on her or anything like that.
Ugh oh, I feel the insecurity. Well I think there's a difference depending on the compliment. My married best friend just told me yesterday that I was pretty. But I was especially done up that day for an interview and I know that's what it was, he was complimenting me because I looked nice and that's just what it was. Now if the compliment is "hot", "cute" or "sexy" that usually has a deeper connotation to it. That's more sexual and intimate and that usually means he's seeing you in that light that's non-platonic. If he has a girlfriend though, that's kinda crappy :(. But that's basically the bottom line.
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If this worries you so much, tell your boyfriend that it upsets you and talk to him about it. The relationship will be all the more stronger because of it.
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