Appears too quick to ask for Skype after chatting hours. Could also be that the girl doesn't look like on her pictures as I noticed several times when I was on the app
Girls get too many choices they don't feel the need to acknowledge every guy. I don't understand the sentiment of talking to people that you aren't interested in on a dating website. You'd be leading them on.
There has been so many times when I'm the only one trying to keep the conversation going. They don't have to be the only one but they have to participate also. What's the point in a one sided conversation?
Well there are a lot more men on tinder than women. This means a bunch of guys for one girl statistically speaking. Since girls are more of a rarity than guys they can be more choosy. Basics of supply and demand. Thats why you shouldn't get too invested into online dating if you are an average joe.
@That0neGuy13 first you need friends and get to meet people in general. most people get to know their future girlfriends by acquaintances or friends of friends etc.. you need to get out there in general at first, take baby steps. don't waste time, your youth is limited. you can do it bro
Let the women come to you by just being yourself and make sure the people you see everyday know you're not seeing anyone. I'm not saying bring it up out of nowhere wait for context.
I met someone recently and I'll give you an example of how it happened. Been working the same job 2 years. I work with this woman. she's super hot but I dont make any advances because I can tell she isn't interested in that way. I'd pick up shifts for her and overall just be nice and have her back as a coworker as she has mine. 2 years go by of this kind of thing and she has a really good opinion of me and introduces me to her single cousin as a result and her cousin asks me out on a date.
There are other ways to get dates but thats how I try to do things. Just build a good reputation and girls will be interested.
@That0neGuy13 ^ to add on to what I said. Women love nice guys but most guys don't prove it to them and actually do nice things all the time even for people they aren't interested in.
When I had it, I was ignored a lot. I think girls just tend to use it for attention and put no effort into conversations. It was a waste of time for me.
Bc of what you said exactly, there either thirsty, have no pictures, came at me in a basic manner, is shorter than me. I reply to guys that catch my attention
Probably they think the guy is just saying things to get laid or cause they have to much matches to go through. But I get where you’re coming from. I don’t understand the point of matching with someone when you’re not gonna reply back
The biggest reason I ignore anyone on anything is if they can't hold a conversation, and if they type like a 6 year old. I can't stand people who can't spell/have awful grammar. I know it's kind of shallow but oh well.
If the question has any depth i answer them in the same manner. Usually when I ask the question back I get a few words for an answer and a question again. If it is a conversation it should have some links between the topics. When they line up ten questions in a row without answering any of mine with more than three words it seems like they do not really want to get to know me, more like they are just collecting info to see if they should even try to talk to me normally. And that feels cold and calculated.
@That0neGuy13 I'm not always scared. I still take chances, and then hide under a blanket waiting for them to respond and screaming what an idiot I am, thinking I probably screwed up. Being scared doesn't mean I don't want to find someone to love. Plus, it's a great way to get out there, and say screw it, I'm doing it.
There was this guy who I've exchanged funny messages with. He kept complimenting me, telling me he really liked me and such when it's just been two or three days that we've been messaging? To think we haven't even discussed anything substantial lol. Some red flags right there. I mean, for me, I would like to know about a guy deeply before making up my mind where I really like him or not. I want myself to like the "real" guy and not the version of the guy I made up inside my head. :)
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Doesn't make sense to me. I have decent pictures on there in my opinion. I try to be nice. I've tried being an asshole too, didn't work.
One time I was talking with a girl for hours and soon as I asked for her Skype she ghosted me.
Appears too quick to ask for Skype after chatting hours. Could also be that the girl doesn't look like on her pictures as I noticed several times when I was on the app
Girls get too many choices they don't feel the need to acknowledge every guy. I don't understand the sentiment of talking to people that you aren't interested in on a dating website. You'd be leading them on.
Guys don't talk with every girl because sometimes they swipe right to all to get a chance at some girl.
If someone can't hold a conversation or doesn't seem interested in meeting me then I'm not gonna be interested either
Maybe you're the one thats not able to hold up the conversation
I can keep a conversation going.
Well then why are you saying that they are the one who has to keep the conversation going?
There has been so many times when I'm the only one trying to keep the conversation going. They don't have to be the only one but they have to participate also. What's the point in a one sided conversation?
There would be no girls left to date of this was one of my requirements for a girl.
Ummm ok?
Well there are a lot more men on tinder than women. This means a bunch of guys for one girl statistically speaking. Since girls are more of a rarity than guys they can be more choosy. Basics of supply and demand. Thats why you shouldn't get too invested into online dating if you are an average joe.
But I dont know how it meet women out in public 😪 lol
@That0neGuy13 first you need friends and get to meet people in general. most people get to know their future girlfriends by acquaintances or friends of friends etc.. you need to get out there in general at first, take baby steps. don't waste time, your youth is limited. you can do it bro
Let the women come to you by just being yourself and make sure the people you see everyday know you're not seeing anyone. I'm not saying bring it up out of nowhere wait for context.
I met someone recently and I'll give you an example of how it happened. Been working the same job 2 years. I work with this woman. she's super hot but I dont make any advances because I can tell she isn't interested in that way. I'd pick up shifts for her and overall just be nice and have her back as a coworker as she has mine. 2 years go by of this kind of thing and she has a really good opinion of me and introduces me to her single cousin as a result and her cousin asks me out on a date.
There are other ways to get dates but thats how I try to do things. Just build a good reputation and girls will be interested.
@That0neGuy13 ^ to add on to what I said. Women love nice guys but most guys don't prove it to them and actually do nice things all the time even for people they aren't interested in.
When I had it, I was ignored a lot. I think girls just tend to use it for attention and put no effort into conversations. It was a waste of time for me.
Bc of what you said exactly, there either thirsty, have no pictures, came at me in a basic manner, is shorter than me. I reply to guys that catch my attention
There could be a few different reasons maybe they don't like your picture or profile or there talking to someone else that there interested in
Again, I said why do YOU ignore people on tinderx not why I get ignored or why people ignore.
Happens to me all the time. I have a match, send a message... and nothing.
Why would you match with me if you don't want to answer?
Even worse, why message a few times then ghost out of nowhere, especially if convo appears interesting? Like did the person die or something? lol
There is no vibe in the messages. Like I made a pizza joke to an Italian guy once and he got offended. So I blocked him. No time for twats.
You sound like a lovely lady.
@jean_A thanks
So he's not going to put his beef in your taco, HEYO@!!!
Gave up on tinder. I go on there now to pick one or two to talk to. I just didn't like the harassment and thirst traps
Probably they think the guy is just saying things to get laid or cause they have to much matches to go through. But I get where you’re coming from. I don’t understand the point of matching with someone when you’re not gonna reply back
I don't know but I've never seen so many triggered people in my life.
The biggest reason I ignore anyone on anything is if they can't hold a conversation, and if they type like a 6 year old. I can't stand people who can't spell/have awful grammar. I know it's kind of shallow but oh well.
Maybe you're the one that isn't making conversation
When they keep just asking questions one after another, feels like an interogation
Do you ask questions back, or do you just answer them? Do you answer them with some depth, or are they basic answers as if you could care less?
If the question has any depth i answer them in the same manner. Usually when I ask the question back I get a few words for an answer and a question again. If it is a conversation it should have some links between the topics. When they line up ten questions in a row without answering any of mine with more than three words it seems like they do not really want to get to know me, more like they are just collecting info to see if they should even try to talk to me normally. And that feels cold and calculated.
I hate girls who state, won't reply to Hi or hey... are they too big for a hello, High maintenance
It's Online. We girls Get Easily Bored with many Choices any Time. xx
Because I'm scared of interacting and screwing up, etc.
Then what's the point of being on tinder rif you think that way? Just curious.
@That0neGuy13 I'm not always scared. I still take chances, and then hide under a blanket waiting for them to respond and screaming what an idiot I am, thinking I probably screwed up. Being scared doesn't mean I don't want to find someone to love. Plus, it's a great way to get out there, and say screw it, I'm doing it.
Yeah I get you, I guess I feel that way sometimes too, not to that extent though.
Lack of attractiveness. I don't reply to fat chicks in general.
I tried it for a bit... Everyone on there is braindead. Just a waste of time honestly.
When he's too interested and he hasn't gotten to know me that well yet. :)
What is too interested?
There was this guy who I've exchanged funny messages with. He kept complimenting me, telling me he really liked me and such when it's just been two or three days that we've been messaging? To think we haven't even discussed anything substantial lol. Some red flags right there. I mean, for me, I would like to know about a guy deeply before making up my mind where I really like him or not. I want myself to like the "real" guy and not the version of the guy I made up inside my head. :)
Definitely too interested, and that makes sense