Help, I'm scared I'll push him away?

[Anonymous]

I've never been this in love before. I've found the most amazing guy who is so supportive and patient. I've been going through a stressful time recently, and It's made me insecure that I might lose him. I have no reason to think this, I'm just falling deeper and deeper in love with him which is making me scared I may get hurt.

My insecurities/stress have caused me to act a little clingy and get mad over stupid stuff. I always apologize and try to explain why I act his way (I've had a rough childhood). But I'm terrified that I'm pushing him away. Someone please help. How can I get my emotions under control so that I don't lose the best thing to ever happen to me?

[clyde7777]

You are going to have to do just that...get your emotions under control. Realize that you are the one that controls how you act and what you say. You need to put those insecurities away. There is no need to explain why you did the things you did in any detail. Simply say "I'm sorry I have just been stressed out" and leave it at that. As far a clingy goes...a little clingyness is okay but not too much. Don't get mad just because you saw him talking to another girl or something like that...it probably is harmless. Being clingy and getting mad about small things tells us guys that you are insecure, and I personally don't want to be with someone like that. Show him that you are confident in yourself. Be confident in yourself and let the small stuff ride and I think you will keep your dude.

[Asker]

Thanks for your input. I appreciate it.

[Texan83]

You sound like a Taurus or an Aries. Very passionate and impulsive.

You have to teach yourself that when you get mad to ACT not REACT. It is a hard thing to do but you have to learn how to act as a person around people.

First you need to stop making excuses as why you act this way. No human being has a perfect life everyone has issues. You have to learn how to deal with your issues yourself. You are the best doctor for your mind but the only one that can get your emotions under control is you yourself.

You may need to grow a little bit on your own and not be so dependent on your boyfriend. Maybe more time for yourself will allow you to grow as a human being and learn to deal with yourself.

[Asker]

I've been going to therapy to deal with my issues from my past. I do not want to be a victim and allow those things to be an excuse for acting bad. As to my dependency, I've actually always been an extremely independent person. Almost to the point of being a commitment-phobe. My boyfriends in the past have always liked me more than I liked them. I always preferred to be single. This guy has just stolen my heart and made me act in ways that are totally out of character. I will work on it though!

[SrSmokesAlot]

well as a guy ill say I absolutely love when my girl comes to me with problems and acts "clingy" BUT not everyone is the same, its kinda tricky to answer without personally knowing the both of you. I think you just need to stop getting mad over nothing as that can become annoying after a while. =]

[pizzamaster001]

its true that if you get mad over stupid things that he could break up with you I know many people that have broken up because of that if you stop that and treat him more like a friend on reacting to that stuff then itll but far ahead in the game past the other girls and he won't have a reason to break up with you.