Have boyfriend but crushing on another guy?

[pinky1010]

here is my issue. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 year and want to get married and have future together. No doubt that I love him

But the problem is I started to develop feelings for one of my classmate since he started showing interest in me. I like looking at him and I am kind of crushing on him but try to hide my feelings when I am around him (I probably send mixed signals due to my conscience). I pretty sure that he likes me too

I know there will be nothing happen between me and him as I don't hide the fact that I have a boyfriend and he knows that

I really want to get him out of my head, I know I 'll be fine when I don't see him but unfortunately I still have to see him in class. This guy has recently stop showing signs that he likes me and ignore me.

Any idea for me how to get over him? I have no intention of leaving my boyfriend for this guy but I can't help my feelings. Has anyone been in the same situation?

sorry it is a little bit complicated. Thanks for you guys advice

[greengurl-e07]

I've had a similar situation.

A guy that I worked with was not shy at all about his feelings for me, even though he knew I had a boyfriend and he was married. I told him I wasn't about to cheat on my boyfriend and he respected that but we still found time to talk to each other and flirt a little.

We just both found bounderies and we never crossed them, but I also let my boyfriend know about the guy I worked with and reassured him that there was nothing going on.

After a while we both went our seperate ways and he worked things out with his wife. I guess to him I was just someone he could talk to.

Maybe you should try talking to this guy in your class and invite him to hang out with you and your boyfriend and maybe invite a girl friend of yours to join. After that I'm sure you'll be able to get over your attraction for him.

[pinky1010]

I did think it that way, I did try talking to this guy, he seemed interested, listen to me and talk a lot but then next time I saw him, he totally ignored me even though I was standing in front of him. I did not say anything offensive(mainly talk about study) and was very friendly to him. But the next time I saw him, he completely ignored me and did not say hi even though I was standing in front of him. very strange!!!

[Shlei3]

If you find yourself having feelings for someone else know that it's normal. But sometimes it's an indication that something may be missing in your current relationship. It doesn't make you an evil person at all. I would say work on reconnecting with your now boyfriend and working on what is missing.

[pwl0lwp]

for my money, it's almost inevitable that after a few years with one person you get interested in others; there's a certain thrill & excitement in the first stages of being in love which can be intoxicating and addictive compared to your normal ongoing relationship.

in short - don't beat yourself up about it, it happens all the time, and kudos to you for remaining faithful.

it could be the best way to approach this is to refocus on your relationship with your boyfriend & try to find ways to make it "exciting" again (or more so); it's feasible he has similar feelings. trips away, finding some new joint activity or just mixing your routines up so that you're doing something different may all help.

good luck

[AJtogo]

It's not uncommon to crush on someone else and daydream about the "what ifs" with another guy or gal. We can only apologize for our actions and not our feelings so just let them happen. You already know it's not going anywhere so jsut get through your classes and part ways.

I have found that when I start crushing on someone then it's time to commit some extra energy to the relationship I do have. LOL, this is when I get accused by my girlfriend of doing something wrong (which I haven't). You know, "you brought me flowers, what did you do?" Anyway, it does help to refocus on what's important and real rather than the daydream fantasy of what if.

[lefthand]

Its fairly common to have sexual feeling for other people regardless of relationship status. Your boyfriend will likely have them too, especially given your age and the length of your relationship. You might want talk about maybe occasional outside sex (like threesomes or swing parties). We don't stop being human just because we make commitments.

[l-hedoniste]

I wouldn't worry about it. Your fantasy life just got a little happier, is all.

[Anonymous]

don't worry about it.

[Anonymous]

leave him.