Why can't we stay mad at each other?

[StaciJ]

Me and my male close friend talked yesterday and know I have a better understanding of our relationship . It was a really good talk. We both really listened . We have agreed to just be really good friends for now cause that is how we want it. Come to find out he does have feelings for me and I told him that my feelings aren't going to come right back out of my heart for him. He understood. Our relationship is right back where it was a couple of months ago, we are both on the same page . He apolized for everything and I tried but he said he already knew. Iam so happy , I really am cause I was missing him . I called him wensday and he said " Hey Stac I was just getting ready to call you ! See he can't go with out talking to me for three days . we can't stay mad at each other for verry long . Why can't we stay mad at each other for very long? Why does he freak out if he don't talk to me for a couple of days? I'm still a little skidsh but hopeful. Thanks Everybody for your help and advice

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One more thing , Why does he always tell to call him?

[Myth024]

The immediate feelings and emotional high you get from a great relationship are always fantastic; when everything is going right then there is no strain on a relationship. It's when things become difficult that the true test begins. Tensions and arguments usually arise when life begins to include the both of you as a solid couple and circumstances present you with difficult challenges. The real question you should be asking yourself is this.. Are you no longer mad at each other because the thing that made you mad has been resolved to both of your satisfaction? Or, at some point do your feelings for each other suddenly make it not matter anymore?

The second one simply means that there was never any resolution to the problem Eventually this can build up and when things become difficult it can all boil up to the surface. Each argument could get progressively worse until even your feelings for each other can't over come it. There could be a time of separation and eventually the original issue begins to fade, is forgotten and you find yourselves repeating the same pattern again. The real challenge is to take those moments of calm and really figure out what made the two of you so angry in the first place. Figure out what the problem actually was. Before you get to resolving that issue, you both have to be open and honest about how you felt about it. Telling the complete truth in this case can in fact bring about hurt feelings, more anger and resentment and even generate another fight. In the long run, it's better to get the truth out and be able to deal with it, then to let it fester until it has the power to completely destroy a relationship. This can also bring to light issues that can't be resolved easily if ever and it will save you both a lot of pain and problems down the road. Or it can make the both of you stronger and closer together as well as establish the basis for resolving future conflicts between the two of you.

A relationship is work that involves two people sharing in life and all it's challenges, not just about two people hanging out and having sex because it feels good and right.

:)

[Anonymous]

You're not on the same page and deep down you know it.

Hence this question. =/

[StaciJ]

i think we really are , I really do . We needed to really talk which we haven't donein a long time , we were honset with eacxh other .