I have social anxiety around women and blew a perfectly good opportunity?

[Anonymous]

In my head I think why can’t she talk to me? But I should’ve just said hi! I was in an hour and a half long line for a conference and the woman behind me had no ring on was there alone etc. Other people takes to her and some older women got her phone number even. I Didn’t say a word ! Who knows what would’ve happened if I said something. I hate myself for blowing opportunities like this :( ugh it shouldn’t be this hard fkr
me and yet it is

[exitseven]

Okay- you need to think about what you would say. Imagine yourself just having a conversation with her. Then just be pleasant and just smile and say hello. It doesn;t have to be creepy or anything. If she is not interested you will know pretty quick. after a while you will get better at this.
I used to be frightened to talk to women too. I just made up my mind one night that I would tell a girl how I really felt about her. I had a whole speech in my head and I psyched myself up and just went for it. It was scary but it all worked out. I guess a little liquid courage helped as well.

[Asker]

Makes me sick because who knows…. Could’ve been my whole life , but now I’ll never know what might have been

[exitseven]

What's done is done. Think about the next time.
A couple of years ago I am in the liquor store buying some beer,. I am wearing a jersey for the local hockey team. This woman makes some comment about hockey and I just smiled and started talking to her. The next thing I know we are outside talking about hockey for about a half hour.
I am married so this never went there but I was just friendly and approachable and was willing to stop and talk to somebody for a few minutes.

[Asker]

In my mind the difference is that she talk to you first. It shouldn’t matter because someone else to talk first, but I don’t know what got into me. I try to be better with these things and then I blow such a good chance. Sigh

, I know, but maybe that could’ve been a life partner for me I don’t know.

[exitseven]

You will do better next time.

[Asker]

I saw her again a few times today. I made up a decent excuse to talk to her. We spoke for a few minutes, she never asked me anything about myself, looked away quite a bit, and then kind of motioned she was going to the main hall and did not seem that interested. So I guess I didn’t miss that much.

[exitseven]

it was not a waste. you got some good practice.

[SheerKiss3]

If you have social anxiety you can try to meet them online then when you feel comfortable meet them for real. LDR also can be a good idea for you.

[Asker]

Yes, I usually do online. Almost never in person. I actually saw her again later but wasn’t as good of opportunity. So I don’t know

[SheerKiss3]

Everything happen on the right time. Just be patient. You will find the right girl that will make you feel comfortable to open up and share your feelings