My boyfriend has feelings for another girl.

[Anonymous]

I was talking to my boyfriend yesterday about if he still has feeling for his ex. His exact words were: "I do have feelings for her, I mean I got loved her. But not as nearly as much as the feelings I have for you, In other words I've moved on."

Honestly, I don't know what to do about this. My reaction was "wtf, he still has feelings for her" but then my friends were like, you can't stop some one for feeling the way they do about someone else and that the good thing is he has more feelings towards me than her but my question is, what should I do about this? How should I react upon this?

Some people say break up with him, others say stay. I honestly like his guy and I know we can work things out but I don't know if staying would be a good choice.

[selfishstars]

Don't do anything.

Here's the thing. When you're in a relationship with someone, you have feelings and fond memories together. Sometimes things turn sour or otherwise don't work out and you break up. But even after you break up, often you still care about that person. Even if you're no longer "in love" with them, you might still love them, because that usually isn't something that simply goes away. You care for the person because they were a big part of your life and you really got to know them. It doesn't mean that you still want to be with that person, however.

Your boyfriend is with YOU and he said that he has feelings for you, feelings that are stronger than what he feels for her.

My partner and I have been together for 5 years. We both were in long-term relationships prior to getting into a relationship with each other. And we both still have feelings for our exes even today. I still think about my ex, wonder how he's doing, remember good times I had with him, and even miss him sometimes. He was a very important person in my life. I'm sure my partner feels the same way about his ex. But neither of us want to be with our exes---we want to be with each other and we have stronger feelings for each other than we ever had with our exes.

[Asker]

This is exactly what I say but people think its wrong to stay with him.

But yea I like your answer.

[Anonymous]

honestly if he has enough feelings for her that he felt the need to even mention them to you? then that's not a good sign. he could have left it at a simple "I've moved on" hell even if it wasn't true the fact that he felt compelled to say he had feelings still would bother me. I wouldn't break up with him because of it though but it's hard to know that you aren't the only one he loves.

Just a comment about asking men questions in the future...dont ask questions you don't want answers too, this would be one of those cases where that probably didn't really need to be asked...you were wanting him to say no but instead you got the truth and sometimes that's not so easy to swallow once you get it.

[butterfly_girl]

Personally, I wouldn't be able to stay with someone who had feelings for someone else, no matter how few these feelings might be, I want my man to be 100% into me and not 20% into someone else.

It's up to you, if you think you can make it work then go for it, just go with your gut instinct, he's not cheating on you and he is being honest so there is a chance you can make it work.

Good luck! :) x

[Princeofanons]

He loves you more and that's all that matters. His feelings for his ex will eventually fade away

[Cdeleon41]

Do something about it dont let this happen you can never trust that. He straight up just told you that he still had feelings for his ex-girlfriend i would be extrememly careful to not get your heart broken.