Got invited to a party by a friend I used to flirt with. Should I go?

[Anonymous]

So, I got invited to a party by a friend, and am questioning the ethics of whether I should go or not, and whether its rude to my current partner.

Background:

Before I met my current partner, I dated around a lot. I also would flirt (directly) with guys that I liked or could see potential dating. I didn't really have any fear of consequences that could occur. One of the guys I flirted with, lets call him John Doe, has a lot of parties which is where I first met him. I initiated flirting with him (casual at first) but then down the road I brought up what I was looking for. At that point he was still very unsure of what he wanted, etc.

That was the extent of it. No sexting, nothing like that, but we did go to a gaming cafe, and when we chatted afterwards, I said it was a great date (which seemed to freak him out). I gave up, realizing that he just wanted to be friends. After that we stopped flirting, nothing ever happened and nothing will. This happened 7 months ago.

Fast forward to today: John and I are currently friends. Im not attracted to him like I was. We dont talk that often, but we sometimes see each other at events and just chat. He invited me to a party, and a majority of my friends will be there as we share a friend group. Would it be rude to my current partner if I go? (he doesn't know about the flirting/history between John and I)

[Orange85]

Ask yourself if it would bother you if your boyfriend did that? Then you will have your answer. Me personally it’s a big party your going to have fun. You should go. It’s not like a date.

[Asker]

True. Thank you!
Yeah, I thought about how I would feel if the roles were reversed, and I honestly wouldn't really care. Should I tell him about John? Or just 'let sleeping dogs lie'?

[Orange85]

No need to tell him. You seem like you want to be loyal that’s all that matters. Doesn’t seem like a compromising position just friends hanging out. You might not even see that guy that much at the party

[davner]

if possible tag him along too, or if you think you'll be alright then go for it.
or if you're unsure, let one of your friends who are attending the party know about this, so that he/she can help you out just incase something goes off track.(like make plans, just incase this happens, or just in case that happens.)

[The_Naughty_Guy]

Don’t worry too much. Just go and have fun