Man, that's crazy about your friend lying all these years. I can't believe she made up that whole fake relationship with that guy and actually convinced everyone they were engaged and stuff when he was really married with a family the whole time! That must have been really hard to find out the truth about everything she told you guys being lies.
I feel bad for your friend too though, cuz it seems like she has some real issues if she's been obsessed with this dude for 14 years even though he clearly never really wanted anything to do with her other than using her for money sometimes. And the fact that she was stalking his wife on social media and getting jealous of their family is just weird. No one deserves to be treated like that.
As for dealing with her being jealous now that you know the truth, I'd say you definitely need to distance yourself for a while. I wouldn't outright cut her off since she's still your friend, but don't hang out one on one or reply right away if she starts complaining about the guy and his wife again. Maybe try inviting some other mutual friends along too so it's not just you she vents to. And if she keeps lying or doing creepy stalker stuff, you'll have to be straight up and tell her she needs help before you can be close again.
It probably won't be easy for her to deal with, but maybe losing your friendship will make her realize she went too far with all the lies and stalking. Hopefully over time she'll get help and won't treat people that way in the future. But you gotta put yourself first too and not let her jealously bring you down after everything you found out. Just be there if she wants to really change, but set boundaries for now. That's what I'd do at least!
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I don't feel this is simply "jealousy". But it feels more like mental problem. I'm not professional so I'm not eligible to give it any name but I have read much about such things. It's definitely not just jealousy but a mental disorder where person tend to lie, they tend to believe something and unable to accept the reality. It's like they do live a life inside their head what they believe is true so whatever they say they feel like they are actually telling truth but it's not. They can't face the reality so lives in the world of lies.
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that was a shocking story!
I’ve never dealt with a jealous friend
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