Over the years, from age 16 changing and learning about relationships, I've had to make that effort. And heed the advice to find stuff I love to do alone , and I have..
Still, women in general (obviously not all) are naturally more needy in the sense that we thrive on close relationships and become more vulnerable during pregnancy...
I probably want to cuddle more than any guy wants in average.. authors spoke about some biology and men's testosterone reduces when they do this type of soft lovey dovey stuff, so they need to recharge for their own hormonal health balance...
So I really do consider your words. At least I'm not demanding right?
Not really having much to say. I hate small talk and struggle to pay much attention if the other person is also not being fully committed to the conversation.
Well I reply fast so if someone doesn’t reply in an hour or two it’s a problem for me the one that keeps drag u down by negative comments like why are u even talking to me
When a girl mentions she’s perpetually single but blames it on her ex’s i’m usually like ok i’m dealing with another psycho that lacks accountability 🤦♂️
What if the girl was sexually harassed but she used the experience to make her into a better person/learn from it and she moved on and forgave the person/people involved and it doesn't bother or hold her back. Would that still be a red flag for you?
@Thatgirlcvp Most men and women have been sexually harassed (by whoever's definition) some time in their lives with occurrences likely to increase the older one gets i. e. how long one has been on the planet. Of men and women I've known where SH comes up, I've observed that women are way more open and willing to share details by their own accord even when the subject is merely hinted at, whereas men hardly ever bring it or their experiences up, and when asked point-blank if they've ever been sexually harassed, the most common answer I've received is 'yeah, sure' sometimes followed by 'of course', and when/if offering details, it's done in a mostly 'shrugged-off' manner.
@Gutterscream I'm a little surprised to hear a lot of men have been sexually harassed. I don't mean to say that in an ignorant way it's just like you said men never talk about it so I didn't think it was also an issue for them too. Have you been sexually harassed? What happened if you don't mind me asking.
Personally, I don't like sharing just because I feel ashamed whenever it happens like it's my fault. I don't want to reveal it and be vulnerable.
But I know about my older brother, he's been sexually harassed by a lot of gay guys. My brother is straight and I've noticed gay men have a thing for straight guys. Like it's a forbidden fruit for them. The stories my brother has told me is surprising almost like gay men feel like the laws don't apply to them and they think they can say or do whatever they want. Really weird considering how I feel the pride community get a lot of scrutiny, you would think they would know better to act like that.
But definitely yeah women are encouraged to not hold back and talk things out. Men should try to do that more often if they're comfortable doing so.
@Thatgirlcvp :/ so sad to hear… a friend of mine used to spend some time in gay clubs when young, he is straight but very sexual, and he had been harassed like being touched inappropriately, and of course I think it would be even harder for them to speak up than for a woman…
@Beardedman1996 that seems a bit cruel… I mean we’re all humans in the end and personally I want to be there for other people… i agree you don’t want other peoples issues on your shoulder it’s not your job to fix them I know but still
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People that brag is a no go for me and people that don’t get sarcasm.
I hate when I don't know what to talk about because Im so boring and un creative to come up with new things to talk about
You’re no boring. They are
Really?
Really…
Aww 😊
ANY texting will do it for me after a certain point.
High maintenance/needy/needs constant affirmation and approval or people that need to be constantly entertained and get bored easily lol
So i guess drama in general lol
Over the years, from age 16 changing and learning about relationships, I've had to make that effort. And heed the advice to find stuff I love to do alone , and I have..
Still, women in general (obviously not all) are naturally more needy in the sense that we thrive on close relationships and become more vulnerable during pregnancy...
I probably want to cuddle more than any guy wants in average.. authors spoke about some biology and men's testosterone reduces when they do this type of soft lovey dovey stuff, so they need to recharge for their own hormonal health balance...
So I really do consider your words. At least I'm not demanding right?
😲 didn't realise I typed so much
Not really having much to say. I hate small talk and struggle to pay much attention if the other person is also not being fully committed to the conversation.
Well I reply fast so if someone doesn’t reply in an hour or two it’s a problem for me
the one that keeps drag u down by negative comments like why are u even talking to me
When they dive into religious or political opinions. Shows a closed minded perspective.
When girls talk about horoscopes or the tv show they watched the day before.
Omg you too? When they start using horoscopes and star signs, I pull away 🤣
Non-participation, I like some back and forth.
Im a Trump Supporter
I dont like immigrants
why can't these people speak English
Why are they speaking with an accent
When a girl mentions she’s perpetually single but blames it on her ex’s i’m usually like ok i’m dealing with another psycho that lacks accountability 🤦♂️
one word responses. some people just dont know enough words to have a conversation
Asking for money, taking about their exs, or anything negative
When people bring everything back to politics or ideals that I don’t even agree with
Religion, politics, sexual harassment and trauma, not only will I be turned off more than likely I’ll ghost
What if the girl was sexually harassed but she used the experience to make her into a better person/learn from it and she moved on and forgave the person/people involved and it doesn't bother or hold her back. Would that still be a red flag for you?
No then it’s a emotional journey, but too many women trauma dump within the first 20 minutes
Oh dang I'm sorry you've had women do that to you. That's awful :(
@Thatgirlcvp Most men and women have been sexually harassed (by whoever's definition) some time in their lives with occurrences likely to increase the older one gets i. e. how long one has been on the planet. Of men and women I've known where SH comes up, I've observed that women are way more open and willing to share details by their own accord even when the subject is merely hinted at, whereas men hardly ever bring it or their experiences up, and when asked point-blank if they've ever been sexually harassed, the most common answer I've received is 'yeah, sure' sometimes followed by 'of course', and when/if offering details, it's done in a mostly 'shrugged-off' manner.
@Gutterscream I'm a little surprised to hear a lot of men have been sexually harassed. I don't mean to say that in an ignorant way it's just like you said men never talk about it so I didn't think it was also an issue for them too. Have you been sexually harassed? What happened if you don't mind me asking.
Personally, I don't like sharing just because I feel ashamed whenever it happens like it's my fault. I don't want to reveal it and be vulnerable.
But I know about my older brother, he's been sexually harassed by a lot of gay guys. My brother is straight and I've noticed gay men have a thing for straight guys. Like it's a forbidden fruit for them. The stories my brother has told me is surprising almost like gay men feel like the laws don't apply to them and they think they can say or do whatever they want. Really weird considering how I feel the pride community get a lot of scrutiny, you would think they would know better to act like that.
But definitely yeah women are encouraged to not hold back and talk things out. Men should try to do that more often if they're comfortable doing so.
@Thatgirlcvp :/ so sad to hear… a friend of mine used to spend some time in gay clubs when young, he is straight but very sexual, and he had been harassed like being touched inappropriately, and of course I think it would be even harder for them to speak up than for a woman…
@Beardedman1996 that seems a bit cruel… I mean we’re all humans in the end and personally I want to be there for other people… i agree you don’t want other peoples issues on your shoulder it’s not your job to fix them I know but still
@CA4444 I’d still give her the attention she needs, I’ve just dealt with a lot in my own life, I think every one deserves to have their story heard 👍
Anything that seems like someone wants something from me (money, a lot of time, etc.) I just cut it off right away.
One word text get you blocked if we ain't friends
Probably a good idea, you don't need that kind of bullshit energy.
Politics and/or religion! I will ask nice ONE time to knock it off. If it continues one of us is leaving!
Disappearing…
Oh yea 👻 boo no
Boo! 👻
oh wait he reappeared! He wants nudes!
Send him a ghost 👻 nude 😂
I mean im practically a ghost already with how white i am
Lol 😂
@Pinay_ako hahaha never thought of that 😂
💡 😝
One word replies and an "you're supposed to keep my interest" attitude.