Alright so, I got a huge question and I have talked this over with my boyfriend but basically we have been dating for a good 3 years. Within the first 2 years he would always flirt with me, make me feel good, and just get me as flustered and excited as possible. Wasn't until recently we had a couples therapy that I brought up how he doesn't do the same old things as he used to anymore and it made me feel unwanted, and hurt and it regarded the flirting as well in that topic.
Before I continue, this for him is like his 8th (?) Relationship now. This is my first, never dated anyone or cared to.
Anyways, so after bringing that up, he told me how basically he would try to flirt only then for it to end up in a way where he is flirting with himself instead of with me. Having to of been told this, needless to say I felt even more hurt but also in a way disappointed in myself because it seems like I lead him to stop flirting with me because I don't know how to flirt. Like, it really isn't in my nature, and when even I would be myself and try something then would just ruin it for him. I am wondering of this is the case for most guys or some guys, or even for some relationships because this is my first and I have been well single for 20+ years.
Yes as we have some self-respect. If you don't like then Fine...
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It's always astonishing to me when women ask if a man is going to stop investing his energy into you if you stop investing energy into him. A self respecting man will continue to place his energy where it is reciprocated.
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why are you still expecting him to flirt? that's only for people who are trying to get to know each other or are in the beginning phases of the relationship. Get over that and try and move on. Try and be as physical loving to each other and that's how the relationship grows. you also have to give each other space so the relationship can grow. goodluck youlle need it
Yeah, there is no point in flirting to a mannequin. This is not just true for guys, its a universal thing. I guess you're complaining about stuff like these because its your first relationship, really not that important in my opinion
You and him had a good two years. You lacking the skills to flirt didn’t prevent him from desiring you then. Clearly something changed. You are in counseling so did he share what’s different?
Some do, but some will just keep on going.
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