What do you do if someone starts flirting with you right before Valentine's Day?

[PrettyPriya]

Hey, it's almost Valentine's Day, wink wink.

Do you "go for it" knowing that you might have a Valentine's date coming if you do? Do you ignore it until after to avoid the awkward situation of a fresh relationship right before V Day?

[21Cowboy21]

I would like to message a female friend I knew last few years from university who was dating a roommate of mine at the time and know her well. She broke up with him last year and I have lost contact with the roommate a couple years back and live on my own now a year or two in downtown. Last msged the girl a few months ago for a social outing to arcade with some friends I was going with anyway but she declined.

I would like to ask her for drinks one of the weekends near Vday - should I message her / if so what is best message to send?

I was worried she will leave me on seen and nothing will come of it (if thats the case I'll move on/no problem). What is best way to ask her on a date for drinks?

[PrettyPriya]

So, if you want to give it another shot, I would not just ask "Hey, do you want to go out for drinks?". Spruce that up a bit. Find a cool place that you haven't been to and hype it up. You can say something like:

"Hey, it's been a while since we talked. I found this awesome new place to grab drinks. It is called ________ and I haven't been there yet. I was thinking about going on _________ and wondered if you wanted to meet to catch up. Hope to talk soon."

Something to the effect.

[21Cowboy21]

That is a great idea. I like the fact it is just to catch up and talk as has been a while. Dors not put any pressure on the female friend of mine - and if we are having fun great - otherwise I will treat her to a nice pub night and then we will part ways and I feel good for knowing the outcome either way.

[21Cowboy21]

@7barbieringz I wanted to share that I have changed my opinion after consideration that only MARRIAGE should be included in consideration but can't message you. I feel you are correct and I am incorrect - because if divorce was to ensue then the people are no longer married in that case making that a strike again against being single.

You are definitely spot on to remove that from consideration in which is best. Please disregard my comment and I will make responses WAY shorter in the future.

[21Cowboy21]

@7barbieringz I find you to be very insightful and look forward to learning from you.

[Guy13]

Gather data and put oneself in position to be the "comparative date" against the Valentine date she went on. It is a great opportunity for next week date from her perspective. Whether her date went well or not, she needs to contrast and compare which translates into Opportunity for the male.

[Emiliamazing]

Early on, we would make a big to do about it when we were just dating, chocolate covered strawberries, romantic dinner, and such.
Now I think it simply serves as a reminder to remember to spark a little romance in our lives if we have been neglecting to do so :-). If I were single, and somebody approached me/seemed interested in me right before Valentine's Day I would ignore the holiday and see where the date took me. No pressure.

[PrettyPriya]

We are much the same. We do a nice dinner at home. He buys me flowers. If he is a good boy, maybe he gets a back rub. Hahaha.

We used to go out but eh, nice to stay in.

[Emiliamazing]

I am not sure that we have ever made a reservation at a restaurant for that particular holiday. We are far more celebratory for our wedding anniversary and birthdays :-)

[PrettyPriya]

It gets busy and not very relaxing. We just do something special for dinner at home. No fuss. I do like flowers but he gets those for me every now and then for no reason, so it isn't a big deal. It is an excuse to buy expensive food to make for dinner at this point.

[SaoirseS]

Since Valentine's Day is still eight days away, no one here is even talking about it yet lol. To answer the question, though, I don't know what I'd have done if someone starting flirting with me right before Valentine's Day. I don't recall it ever happening during my dating days, but I'd have probably gone for it.

[PrettyPriya]

He is getting meat for Valentine's Day. No joke.

[SaoirseS]

I'm sure there will be some form of barbecued meat for our Valentine's Day. We have no plans yet. Last year we made cards for each other and wrote goofy poems to each other. We might do it again this year.

[PrettyPriya]

He gets meat. 😐

[SaoirseS]

Pretty good gift :-)

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

I actually had someone flirt with me right before Valentine's Day, and even asked me out for said date.

Even if I liked her I had to refuse because I was already seeing another woman, and I had already made plans with her.

Also, this person that asked me out was already married... she's divorced now.

[PrettyPriya]

That last bit is interested. I cannot imagine why she is divorced.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Yep. She was unhappy and went with other people.

[Wish4UrB00ty]

I personally can’t stand valentines so I would not escalate it. I would for sure enjoy the chat if it t went there and might even be willing to do something around valentines but no way would I do something for a total stranger on valentines.

[PrettyPriya]

I'm not a huge Valentine's Day fan. It is alright I guess. We went out the first year together but now just do a nice dinner at home. He gets me flowers, which is nice but really not a big event for us.

[Wish4UrB00ty]

That’s adorable! Love you guys! I mean yeah if I had a girlfriend I would want to make sure i at least got her some flowers or something but It just seems like there is SO much stress around the holiday and so much expectation that it ruined the holiday for me.

[PrettyPriya]

I agree that there can be WAY too much expectation to make that day super special. I think sometimes it goes over the top and can get overwhelming. A girl that works at the doctor's office had a guy send her flowers three different times in one day. It was a bit much.

Yep, we just do a nice dinner at home. Hard to beat some good food in comfy clothes hahaha.

[Wish4UrB00ty]

I think nurses get the brunt of random Valentine’s Day gifts for sure. i have a friend who made the mistake of lying to one of her clients about having a husband one year. Each year it has gotten bigger and bigger. Now they have three kids and he is a lawyer or some nonsense. Haha!

[PrettyPriya]

It does seem popular at our office. I tell my other half to not send stuff. Honestly, it is then a hassle to take it home. He just buys them and brings them home for me, which is nice. That is about the extent of it though. Maybe if he is a good boy he gets back rub.

[Wish4UrB00ty]

😂😂 maybe. Has nothing to do with the fact that you have been thinking about wishing you could have stayed in bed with him all day?

[Wish4UrB00ty]

But no it is goofy like if you work in an office people will buy you stuff and it’s usually for their own needs. Haha!

[Stressyalaire]

I'm in a happy relationship, so the only thing to do is to reject their offer. If I was single I would ask him why he picked me. Not that I want my ego stroked, but I want to feel out how serious he is about this. I'm not after a one time date.

[Shark_61695]

Wouldn't even consider doing something for Valentine's day if started dating today. Would be more likely to celebrate the anniversary of starting dating in future years than anything specific on the 14th.

[PrettyPriya]

I agree with you. Just curious to see what people would do. Thanks for the opinion.

[SnowedIn]

Roll with it the same as any other potential relationship. Proximity to Valentine's day and a "might" date would factor into the thinking.

[PrettyPriya]

That is what I am curious about. How many would think "hmm, maybe best wait until after..."

[SnowedIn]

It's a GREAT question! :) I just know I'd proceed as normal.

[Titanic1912]

I might go for it because I don’t have a date like I did last year. Last year was the best Valentine’s Day ever. But we broke up in April just because I wouldn’t finish watching Hocus Pocus with her on her birthday. Not only did that upset her, she TYPED me a “Dear John” letter. She didn’t have the ovaries to tell me face to face. If any girl starts flirting with me in the next week, I’m going to go for it.

[serious]

I will never appreciate anyone who tries to flirt with me. I never flirt so I will never appreciate that behavior either.

If someone tries to do that, I will ask that person to stop and I will leave that place immediately.

[Wise4myage]

Id be stoked if I wasn't dating someone already. But knowing my luck, I wouldn't be attracted to the girl. 🤣

[PrettyPriya]

What if it was Barbara?

[Wise4myage]

Oh, you just had to go there Priya, lol. Id kick her to the curb.

[PrettyPriya]

Hahahaha hard to resist a flirty Barb, eh? 🤣

[Wise4myage]

She gets booted too!!

[PrettyPriya]

Poor Gigi and Barb. 😞

[Wise4myage]

Yeah.🥺

[poneglyphs]

I doubt anyone would ask me out on the day before.

[PrettyPriya]

It has been known to happen!

[poneglyphs]

Nop, I seriously doubt because I don't even talk to women. Or anyone really 😕😕😕

[NewHopeGir33]

I keep getting guys in my dms on insta asking for dates and if i dont reply they reply with dick pics

[Dieudonné842]

I'll set up a date for them. And another date for the other and at different times during the day. That's what I usually do.

[varan69]

Go with the flow and not do to much cuz u are vearly starting so anything sime counts isn't. U only do the big things when are in love and want to let her know how much u appreciate her. Lol

[exitseven]

an not a big fan of Valentines Day but I would not look a gift horse in the mouth.

[LiamJHayden]

Being somewhat of a cynic, I'd assume she's angling for a great Valentine gift and hoping I'm sucker enough to fall for the game.

[captain_voidwalker]

Wouldn't know I've never been flirted with. Now my heart is cold dead black and encased in ice. Sooo I'd probably feel nothing

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Flirt back, usually, but if I’ve a grudge on them, get away.

[the_sinner]

I might revert back but I’d probably not go on a date on V day right after.

[krin_m]

Depends on who it is :-), but normally I would enjoy it!

[Anonymous]

Define flirt. I'm old enough to know most women's "flirting" is just a game they play. There has to be some actual substance to her flirt or I just say, "that's nice" and walk away.

[IronAvengerLemia]

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