Do you "go for it" knowing that you might have a Valentine's date coming if you do? Do you ignore it until after to avoid the awkward situation of a fresh relationship right before V Day?
I would like to message a female friend I knew last few years from university who was dating a roommate of mine at the time and know her well. She broke up with him last year and I have lost contact with the roommate a couple years back and live on my own now a year or two in downtown. Last msged the girl a few months ago for a social outing to arcade with some friends I was going with anyway but she declined.
I would like to ask her for drinks one of the weekends near Vday - should I message her / if so what is best message to send?
I was worried she will leave me on seen and nothing will come of it (if thats the case I'll move on/no problem). What is best way to ask her on a date for drinks?
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Gather data and put oneself in position to be the "comparative date" against the Valentine date she went on. It is a great opportunity for next week date from her perspective. Whether her date went well or not, she needs to contrast and compare which translates into Opportunity for the male.
Early on, we would make a big to do about it when we were just dating, chocolate covered strawberries, romantic dinner, and such.
Now I think it simply serves as a reminder to remember to spark a little romance in our lives if we have been neglecting to do so :-). If I were single, and somebody approached me/seemed interested in me right before Valentine's Day I would ignore the holiday and see where the date took me. No pressure.
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Since Valentine's Day is still eight days away, no one here is even talking about it yet lol. To answer the question, though, I don't know what I'd have done if someone starting flirting with me right before Valentine's Day. I don't recall it ever happening during my dating days, but I'd have probably gone for it.
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I actually had someone flirt with me right before Valentine's Day, and even asked me out for said date.
Even if I liked her I had to refuse because I was already seeing another woman, and I had already made plans with her.
Also, this person that asked me out was already married... she's divorced now.
I'm in a happy relationship, so the only thing to do is to reject their offer. If I was single I would ask him why he picked me. Not that I want my ego stroked, but I want to feel out how serious he is about this. I'm not after a one time date.
I personally can’t stand valentines so I would not escalate it. I would for sure enjoy the chat if it t went there and might even be willing to do something around valentines but no way would I do something for a total stranger on valentines.
Roll with it the same as any other potential relationship. Proximity to Valentine's day and a "might" date would factor into the thinking.
I might go for it because I don’t have a date like I did last year. Last year was the best Valentine’s Day ever. But we broke up in April just because I wouldn’t finish watching Hocus Pocus with her on her birthday. Not only did that upset her, she TYPED me a “Dear John” letter. She didn’t have the ovaries to tell me face to face. If any girl starts flirting with me in the next week, I’m going to go for it.
Wouldn't even consider doing something for Valentine's day if started dating today. Would be more likely to celebrate the anniversary of starting dating in future years than anything specific on the 14th.
I will never appreciate anyone who tries to flirt with me. I never flirt so I will never appreciate that behavior either.
If someone tries to do that, I will ask that person to stop and I will leave that place immediately.Id be stoked if I wasn't dating someone already. But knowing my luck, I wouldn't be attracted to the girl. 🤣
I doubt anyone would ask me out on the day before.
I keep getting guys in my dms on insta asking for dates and if i dont reply they reply with dick pics
I'll set up a date for them. And another date for the other and at different times during the day. That's what I usually do.
Go with the flow and not do to much cuz u are vearly starting so anything sime counts isn't. U only do the big things when are in love and want to let her know how much u appreciate her. Lol
an not a big fan of Valentines Day but I would not look a gift horse in the mouth.
Being somewhat of a cynic, I'd assume she's angling for a great Valentine gift and hoping I'm sucker enough to fall for the game.
Wouldn't know I've never been flirted with. Now my heart is cold dead black and encased in ice. Sooo I'd probably feel nothing
Flirt back, usually, but if I’ve a grudge on them, get away.
Define flirt. I'm old enough to know most women's "flirting" is just a game they play. There has to be some actual substance to her flirt or I just say, "that's nice" and walk away.
I might revert back but I’d probably not go on a date on V day right after.
Depends on who it is :-), but normally I would enjoy it!
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