Something or Nothing?

Question

I moved to a new town to go to school and have no friends. I found this local dive bar in my city. There is this girl I met there one night I walked up to her and bought her some drinks and we had a good time talking and I got her number. All of a sudden a guy walks up to her starts hugging her and he introduces himself to me and she says that this is her friend which was cool I’m new here and meeting new people is what I want she prompts me to follow them and I did but he was all up on her the whole time and it just made things awkward so I walked away. Contacted her a few time afterwards and she was very hit or miss as far as her energy so I stopped all contact and even blocked her number. So now when I see her at that same bar she always stares me down even when I’m chatting up another girl I’ve even had guys walk up to me and tell me hey man that girl is really looking at you but honestly I walk right past her everytime and not really say a word but we always make eye contact and she is cute I guess I’m wondering are these attempts from her to get me to make a move or is it just nothing but a awkward situation turned even more awkward.

SueShe · Accepted Answer

Well, you acted as you thought was in your best interest and now you start having doubts about it.

Leave the situation as it is and don't start flirting with her because it will not lead to anything positive. Concentrate on those people of both genders that you think can be real friends and not those of the opposite gender that you would want to be paired with for a couple of times.

What was your prime reason for talking to this girl in the first place? Was it to get under her skirt eventually or to be real friends? I have the feeling that when you talk about friends, you actually mean girls you can have an intimate relationship.

If you moved to this city to study, then concentrate on those studies and don't divert your attention to the girls. That is a recipe for disaster for your studies. One cannot fully concentrate on 2 subjects simultaneously. What is more important to you? Your future career or a few girls you can have a good time with?

ShiftingMonke · Accepted Answer

No dude, just ignore her. If she saw an interest in you the first night, she should've avoided the other guy. She could've been trying to rope you in the jealousy game, but you did the right thing by blocking her. Just keep going there if you enjoy the place and treat her like any other barfly; if she wishes to speak with you, she's got feet, she can approach you anytime to apologize- or at the very least, ask why she's blocked. But if she can't muster that amount of care, then you don't need to do any more legwork for her. Let her enjoy her huggy guy friend.

Guy13 · Accepted Answer

Good going as you are obviously a mature, cautious, and thoughtful guy. Yeah, when it smells fishy it is good to back off before the Stank gets up on you. Remember, this is your best season at this bar. You are new meat and interesting. You have about a month of that before you lose the chance to hook up with a woman.

I like the way you clearly broadcasted that I am not here for games. She is trying to get your attention and there is an in-house girl competition in progress for your attention. Watch out for the bar hoe...