I really need a lot of advice on this- a guy and I have been friends for years now and when we first met he told his friends I was hot and he thought I’d make a great girlfriend etc. He knew I liked him but he denied feeling anything and he moved away so now we are friends again…he is happy to talk to me/reply to my messages and I said to him it’s hard to be just friends- so he said ‘I’m happy to do whatever works best for you xx’.
Im still in the friendzone or maybe not? Any help would be good…especially given he sent kisses knowing how I feel about him.
Am I friendzoned or is he starting to feel something for me finally?
Am I in the friendzone with this guy OR is he starting to catch feels for me?
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Okay, so it seems you have been quietly dating this guy in your heart for quite awhile while in your minds acting as friends. You "caught feeling" from the beginning and have been waiting on him to capitalize. He could have said that you would be a good girlfriend for his friend?
The latest conversations suggests that he is now ready to act upon his feeling and is seeking reassurance from you. Talk about your shared interests and dreams. See if you can arrange an outing on one of your "bucket list" things each would like to try. Something new and different outside of the friendship era activities. Good luck with it all.
Friendzoned I’d say.
Can I ask why?
Hang on, I’ll just reread the conversation so I can give you the best answer I know how to give.
I think he’s just being friendly. I send kisses and hugs to men who I see as my brothers all the time and I send I’m just a really gregarious, affectionate, outspoken person. When a guy says ‘whatever you want;’ my sense is that he’s giving mixed messages, which usually means he doesn’t know what he wants. I’ve always gone by the rule that if he doesn’t know what he wants, then he’s just not that into you. Do you have to think about whether or not you like or are in love with him? No. Men who don’t know or come on really strong in the beginning usually dump you for someone else. I don’t say this to be unkind or rain on your parade. I’m trying to help you since you asked for advice and I’ve lived through such experiences.
So you have two options.. you can ask him out and if he’s not sure, you can wait until he probably dates and beds someone else, or you can move on and find someone else. If you move on, he will chase you. They always come back. But don’t let yourself be played with by some guy. Whatever you do xo
If you have any more questions, I’ll be happy to answer them.
That’s good thanks for being honest, a lot of what you say is true. I appreciate it!
You’re welcome. Best of luck to you xo