Dating your best friend, good idea or not?

[CallaLily]

Perfect idea. I met my boyfriend in grade nine math class and we became best-friends. hungout all the time, he used to flirt with me all the time and I knew he was into me but I was in a long term relationship all throughout high school so I was off the market. Finally I ended it with him, and my best guy friend and I went to prom together, he told me he was in love with me, and now we live together, Have been dating for two years and have a better relationship than any I've ever had and it's because we know each other on such a different level than any significant other either of us have ever had. Funny fact- we have been with the same amount of people sexually! we got to skip the get to know each other part so it was a breeze and we already trusted each other and could already tell each other everything. the foundation was strong, and we just built something new on top of it and it's no surprise we are perfect together. obviously we have our issues, and we have changed in some ways since we are a couple now but we are still best friends- just lovers now too.

[YobootyStank]

hmm I'm so and so on it

well there are many good things as to why dating your best friend is a good thing like, this person knows so much about you , you guys love hanging out together because you enjoy each others company and usually most relationships start off as just friends then it progresses into something bigger.

the bad is you might end up losing a friendship when its over but then I don't see a point in going into a relationship thinking it might end after sometime, I go into relationships thinking its going to last and I want it to last so I don't see anything bad about dating best friends

[Living-the-ADvenTURe]

The best and longest lasting relationships are where there is a friendship first, and then romance. Best friends do tend to make the best relationships. If you found the right person, and you too also have romantic feelings for each other, than why spend the rest of your life searching for something that you already have?

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Considering the person you marry/date/in love with SHOULD be your true best friend? Yes. People who are against the idea of even trying to date a best friend all because they are scared of ruining the friendship are completely illogical (surprise surprise, so far women voted that). It's insulting to the friendship because it shows you don't really trust that the friend or you could continue to be friends if it doesn't work and it also is selfish because if that person were to feel stronger for you, you still just wanna be friends and tell them to basically ignore their feelings and just deal with your dating others or so.

So ya.. stupid to not date your best friend unless you're 100% sure you're not attracted to them in that way which is fine, but then realize they aren't going to be your best friend in the end. Because, again, your mate SHOULD be your best friend. If they aren't, you're doing it wrong.

[Anonymous]

It's a calculated risk, because if one of you accidently does something to hurt the other emotionally, the fact that you're dating will make it seem much worse than if you were just friends. But at the same time, you already know them well, so you should always have plenty to talk about over dinner/a movie. Please think about what you're doing before you act, in dating her, you do risk your friendship. I know all of this from first-hand experience, because I'm in love with my best friend. Anyway, good luck, and I hope things go well!

[Anonymous]

Neither.

A best friend can someone that gets along well with you or clicks well with you. Whilst that itself helps to build a strong foundation for relationship, it isn't a sufficient condition. Relationship is about finding someone who shares the same values with you, who can live with you and bring up a child with you. Best friends are there for each other, but there are some best friends who can be completely not relationship material (such as a player, non committal in a relationship etc.)

Also if the best friends are only looking into dating phase, there's always a chance of putting their friendship at risk. Moreover, everyone changes. A person who's your best friend now may not be the same or the type who will be fine with you in the future. It's worth a try. But just like any other dates, caution has to be taken if one values the friendship and themselves more. It's about wisdom.

[MeAndAHalf]

honestly it depends on where you are in life, I'm quite young and not looking to settle down so sooner or later we're probably going to break up and then I would have lost my best friend, that's not something I would want to happen. But if you are really looking to commit, settle down, and you really like each other, maybe you should go for it.

[RedSmartie]

I had a horrible experience dating and eventually breaking up with my (once) best guy friend. I know other people who have ended horribly as well. If you want to get into a relationship with your friend, you REALLY have to be sure that that's what you want to do. And then just ease yourself into it because if you go to fast your behavior will change drastically and one person will freak out.

[MizzVMN]

If I were to date my best friend I don't think it would be all that bad. We have a lot of the same interests and what not, but at the same time, I wouldn't be okay with how he treats his girlfriends sometimes. He plays head games. I guess I kind of know how he acts already, and I know I wouldn't be willing to put up with it, so why would I even try. Now, if I knew him to be completely wonderful, why not?

[ilyurbella]

I have a tendency of dating my best friend. Usually it ends up with me breaking up them because they cheat... But currently I'm dating my best friend for almost 4 years (: so that was a good idea lol but I think it usually depends. And it's always a heterosexual relationship.

[Usemyname]

I chose A. In my experience, you an date friends, but not good good friends. Just ones you're casually around. If you're best friends it can get awkward but if you're just flirty friends there's not really as many boundaries to cross. But if you really know your best friend maybe you will be able to identify those boundaries before they are crossed. But I'm sticking with A.

[justthewayyouare]

Both my first and current relationship have been with best friends. I think it just makes everything easier. You already know them pretty well and you feel a lot more comfortable around them. Yes I lost the friendship with the first boy but I just think we wouldn't have been able to stay friends if we hadn't dated anyways. If it's meant to be then it's meant to be.

[Prof_Don]

Dammit I hate voting the "wishy washy" option on these polls, but in this case I had to vote C.

It really depends on the dynamic of the relationship, the vibes they give each other, the length of the relationship, and if it was suspected if one had a crush on the other at some point.

A damn near infinite amount of variables can occur here, making a simple "yes or no" poll vote way too mind boggling!

[Ayda-Rose]

I'm dating my best friend. We have known each other since we were in kindergarden cause he's my neighbor and our parents work together! We were always friends, but not that close until in high school we got closer when we had classes together, and then one day at a school dance we ended up dancing together, and he was drunk and randomly kissed me... I didn't think it meant anything because he was drunk so I left it alone, but after we kinda avoided each other for a week, I went over to his house to talk about it so we could go back to normal, cause I missed the sh*t out of him :( he was really awkward the whole time and was apologizing but when I went to leave he stopped me and admitted that he was in love with me. I was so shocked and overwealmed but it took me hearing him say that to realize I was also in love with him. Now we have been together for three years! he's still my best friend, he's the only person I turn to for anything, I love him to death.

[Kiran04]

When feelings start to emerge, you either date your best friend or you stop being best friends. There is no in-between. You can't continue being best friends once one starts falling for the other. I'd dry dating. If you're best friends already then clearly you have common interests.

[katylaura]

it's a massive risk, but if it works out, the pay out is massive. I mean, if the relationship doesn't work out, you've lost your best friend, but if the relationship does work, it's going to be amazing because you'll be best friends and lovers.

[Lucy7509]

One should never confuse love with friendship. The best friend is the one who there after the love has ended and helps you put your life back together...it is nice if the person you love is also you friend...but not your best friend..

[lananoel]

I HATE to ruin a good friendship. I could not stand to lose my best friend because our relationship didn't workout. Not worth the risk and too painful. Good friends are VERY hard to come by. When I get one I take damn good care of them.

[AllDay]

amazing if it works out

but

horrible if it doesn't

I would love to date a best friend but would be worried about if/when it ended. Would we still be best friends or not?

[DebiPie]

I wouldn't want to do it. If it didn't work out I'd end up losing my best friend. You could never go back to the way things use to be. Never. Why risk it? You can always find a boy/girlfriend, but best friends are hard to find.

My ex husband & I were friends first for almost a year before dating, Then became best friends after dating.

But dating my best friend, no. I wouldn't.

[queenofpeen]

It depends on how well you get along.

Every guy I've had a serious relationship with was my good friend or best friend before we dated. I really can't do it any other way, I like to really get to know a guy before I think about being with him. Lessens my chance of ending up with a jerk.

Regardless, you should end up being best friends with your partner when you're together.

[ryanontario]

its usually not a good idea to date a good friend unless you plan on getting married to them and know its going to work out otherwise its going to ruin the friendship

[Anonymous]

depends although I couldn't tell ya. I'm def. not a homo and I don't really have any friends who are girls which I avoid having anyways because I'm constantly made fun of for being the one guy who couldn't get a girlfriend let alone befriend a girl. _-_ which is pretty annoying.

[Hahmotelma]

Could be a good idea.
And it being a bad idea... Well it depends how it ends. If it ends in ugly way there might not be returning to friendship.

[roxygirlskier]

I think it depends on whether or not you're willing to risk the friendship. Also, sometimes best friends make better lovers.