Married coworker is in an open marriage. Does that mean I’m free to flirt as I wish to?

[Anonymous]

He flirts with me

[OlderAndWiser]

Has his WIFE told you that they have an "open" marriage? Any guy can say that to convince a girl to have sex. But it may not actually be "open" according to the wife.

If all you want is sex, and you would be okay with another girl in the future having sex with your future husband, then go get laid. But that's probably all that you will get out of this. . . and this always has the potential for creating a problem in your workplace, so be prepared to lose your job, also.

[knottywriter]

Honestly the open marriage thing is usually someone just saying that to get a little extra on the side and giving a false narrative to talk the outside person into it. If you view it as only fun and nothing more than why would it even matter if they were open or not. It is him that has the attachment and not you. However, for the sake of argument, I would suggest if he is pursuing you for some fun that you get him to have the wife admit it in person or video call that they are in an open marriage.

[catiecatie]

You can flirt but that doesn’t mean do anything more! I mean my coworkers probably think I flirt with them and no I just have questions and trying to do my best. I have my eyes on some other guy that doesn’t work out there at all.

[sheenagwapa]

i think beinh a friend of a married person is fine. there's a married person i wanna befriend with especially because my dream is instructinh me to do so but i assume he doesn't wannq be my friend at least i trier

[AviatorTom]

You can flirt with him if you want, but please realize that he's married and that you will just be a temporary third wheel in his open marriage.

[Asker]

That’s all I want

[lightbulb27]

I'd think yes but why would you insert yourself into that mess? What's the point... what's your goal in life.

I know girl (s) that just ended up pregnant... surprise surprise the strangest things happen when mating, even with "protection"... that fails all too often. That's only one issue that can occur, and now the "drugs" of mating are turned off, the guy... he can't/ain't gonna help and the pain and suffering starts. The family takes the load probably. This is just stupidity if you think it through. Wake up!

Run... don't walk away. That you are asking this question says you need beaten before he does. Find a good God... fast. Our society is sooooooooooo screwed up... God help us from our selfish desires!

P. s. this is "work". you work for an employer, and this causes issues in the workplace. Very not appropriate. Repeat above paragraph...

[slatyb]

Do whatever you want. It's up to him to worry about his obligations to his wife. But keep your expectations low.

[Asker]

Definitely

[mobiusforniner]

I had multiple female coworkers flirt with me. One single. Another married. In all circumstances, it ended with emotions getting involved. I terminated the relationships and it resulted in both women quitting their careers.

Food for thought.

[Asker]

What do you mean by you terminated the relationship?

[mobiusforniner]

https://youtu.be/1_G0boJCzoI

[D_Bone_Steak]

So you want to end up being a side chick? You could've just PM'd me and showed me what you're working with.

I'm joking if that's not obvious.

You're getting talked into sex... that's pretty much all you're going to get out of that deal. There is probably some other guy watching you that would've dedicated his life to you... but after he watches this shit play out, he won't touch you with a 10-foot poll.

[Asker]

That’s all I want from the deal

[D_Bone_Steak]

Well, verify he's not just lying about having an open relationship... a pissed off wife can be deadly, or it can damage personal property. I watched a bunch of those mad wives/husband stabbing videos the other night...(dark web) looks bad. Also pay attention to the other women... all it takes is just one of them to catch feelings... instant drama. His chick might say it's cool and then change her mind all of a sudden... You're a woman... So, you know how they can be sometimes.

If it is legit, keep in mind she's probably getting all kinds of random dicks (women tend to be the main benefactor of open relationships) and then the dude is probably sticking his dick in that sloppy seconds, as well as whatever other woman he can find (that are most likely also taking tons of random loads, and then you'll be in line to get free STD's/VD's if just one of those people hasn't noticed some burning or itching during the incubation period... which can be like 3 months and sometimes longer. Condoms don't protect against everything and I doubt anyone has ever actually used that oral condom thing lolz... plus I doubt the use of condoms... it never really happens.

Stay safe... and good luck with all that.

[Asker]

Women are the main benefactor of open marriages? No way.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Actually, the sexual market value depends on the place... which is why there is more and more passport bros looking overseas. What I see here in the States the most is the female side of things starts having all the fun because finding that fun is easy for them... then there's the male side...😂

The male side probably went into it thinking about all the extra vaginas they were going to get, but a lot of the time they find themselves left alone and thirsty while they basically watch their wife going out 3 or 4 times a week cucking the hell out of them and then he'll finally find one... spends a little too much time with the side chick... and that's when the wife decides she wants to close the marriage back up. ... so, be on the lookout for that.

I score 9.5 out of 10 on rate my body sites, and I'll tell you from my experience... I'd have to swipe hundreds of women just to get 2 or 3 actually interested women...5 or 6 if you include the weirdos where the husband wants to watch (which I consider those dudes closet homos - not going to happen). If a wife with a rating of 4 out of 10 just mentions she's looking on her profile... almost a limitless supply of thirsty guys in a matter of days.

[MrKinktastic]

You sure are! Thought with it being a coworker I would be cautious

[spartan55]

Open marriage according to who? Him? Did you talk to his wife about their 'open marriage'? I'll bet anything he's lying. Find a single guy. You don't want that hassle.

[Asker]

I have no idea if she knows

[spartan55]

I take you don't really care either. Nice.

[Tragee78]

These types of questions are ALWAYS asked by anons lol.

[Asker]

@Tragee78 I always ask questions anon

[spartan55]

@asker
Talk to his wife yet? Or are you just going to be willfully ignorant?

[EricSummer]

Yes, if his wife and he both ageed that they are in an open marriage it's ok

[Anonymous]

Why get involved with something so complicated and messy with potentially no future? I don't know if I'd trust his word, but I guess all you can go by is what he says is true unless proven otherwise. I wouldn't do it though.

[Anonymous]

Yup! I sleep with married men all the time.

Married women are a joke. They’re just wearing a ring. They’re not actually married. 🤡

[McLlovin]

An open marriage? Sooo you’re single but with a ring and more responsibilities. Awesome. Yes that means by definition you can do whatever you want.

[Texaskid1]

Don't shit where you eat.

Now get back to work and save your flirting , dating , and tomfuckery for when you are off the clock and with men that you don't work with.

[BCRanger10]

No. Do not endorse this!

[Anonymous]

you're going to have to get that statement straight from the wife's mouth that they are in fact really in an open relationship because that guy could have totally lied... guys are scum.

[BlondeFlower]

you can flirt with i guess? that is a weird situation to be in

[Adam1978]

Stay away, you don't want deal with that mess. You should want a good relationship.

[DizzyDesii]

Its still committing adultery. I wouldn't want to partake in that

[Staximus]

You really want to be the side chick? How about value yourself more than that

[Asker]

I just want to have fun and have nothing serious right now

[Staximus]

Go find a guy that's not married

[Staximus]

Go find a guy that's not married, instead of jumping on the first available dick and getting fired

[Anonymous]

The marriage has nothing to do with it. You can flirt with whomever you want.

[fonduegirl]

Are you okay with him having a wife

[MyOwnMan2]

Judging by the fact 99% of women of history were the whores for men with wives, yes, instinctively, women love married men

[fonduegirl]

@MyOwnMan2 I didn't ask you though.

[Asker]

I am because I don’t want him as a serious partner

[fonduegirl]

That's fine. But you might still feel left out. Are you cut out for polyamory of any form?

[Asker]

If I’m the extra person yes. But from my partner no

[fonduegirl]

Oh okay

[Emanon25]

Why do you need to hurt someone, would you like it if you were in his wife’s shoes!

[CoolCatMar1]

Exactly

[Emanon25]

@CoolCatMar1 thank you

[Asker]

But they’re both in an open marriage

[Asker]

Like what else does open marriage imply? Having friends for tea?

[Emanon25]

It’s your choice if both of them are open.

[spartan55]

@asker
Did you talk to his wife about it? He's lying, don't be naive.

[Puppystarfish23]

Avoid avoid avoid

[RingOfFire]

"Open marriage" = GROSS

[RingOfFire]

I have a family member who was so proud of her "open marriage" when she was younger. Now she is old, divorced and all alone in the world realizing how stupid she was to play that game.

[Asker]

I agree. I wouldn’t want one. But I don’t view him past some fun. I’d never view him in serious light

[whistlingwh0res]

Yes you are free to flirt with him

[Anonymous]

Give it a go, just be careful.

[In_Trance]

Does his wife know it's an open marriage also?

[Asker]

I have no idea

[Jamie05rhs]

Do you have any morals?

[Luckycharms12]

Are they really or they just saying it

[SolSolBunBun]

Of Course

[Anonymous]

Desperate