…does not make plans but talks to you as if they care VS makes an effort to see you but does not talk — which scenario makes you feel more valued?

[VIVANT]

What makes you feel more appreciated, someone making an effort to spend time with you tho they don’t say much to you when together, or, someone not really making an obvious effort to see you, as in they don’t ask to see you but will talk to you intimately when you run into each other…. I recognize both scenarios may suck snd you may understandably as a result not wish to be around said person 😂 but I’m not asking if you want to deal with such a one…I’m just asking in which case would you feel more “liked” or would you not in either case?

Effort to see me > talking to me whilst together

Effort to see me < talking to me whilst together

Effort to see me = talking to me whilst together

Other

Depends on other circumstances

[ChiTown33]

I'd say effort to see. It decorates that they just want to be near you. They don't necessarily have to say anything. Just that effort speaks volumes. She can talk about wanting to be with me till the cows come home. If her actions don't much then she's full of it.

Don't get it twisted though. I'm not saying she hast devote all her time to me. Quite the contrary! It's all about quality. I don't care if she only has 10 minutes with me (we all have other commitments and responsibilities in life that's part of being an adult). But 10 minutes is enough if she's able to show me how important I am to her in those 19 minutes. As I said it's all about QUALITY.

[VIVANT]

I agree I don’t need to talk much if I want to be near someone

[ChiTown33]

Glad you got the gist of what I posted. I din't proofread my posts and as usual G@G's autocorrect changed half the words on me. 😆

[VIVANT]

I’m used to my words being nutilated by aytoibcorrext killing

[ChiTown33]

G@G with the example right on cue. 😆

[ChiTown33]

Mutilated by autocorrect... got it!

[VIVANT]

lol vase in point 😂

[VIVANT]

CASE*

[Sevenpointfive]

i'm not very good with conversation but i will make an effort to see them and try to talk. it's hard to find good conversation. i just don't get along with a lot of people.

it would certainly make me question why this person wants to see me. what do i do for them? and what do they do for me? is there an ulterior motive or do they really see me as a friend? they could be nervous.

have you tried dominating the conversation and getting them to open up?

[kylee2437]

I am the type of person where I can be around someone and sit in silence as long as they are around me, so I prefer someone to make plans with me and we don’t necessarily have to talk. I find it pointless and sometimes rude for someone to text and back fourth with no plan behind it. Like what is the point and am I really that important if you don’t feel like I’m that important to include into your life?

[SnowedIn]

Talk to me when together please. I'd rather have one great conversation a year than twenty shitty get togethers.

[VIVANT]

😂 ok I’m really sorry it’s not on purpose my brain just malfunctions when I’m nervous it’s not personal

[SnowedIn]

Oh no... I wasn't directing that at you personally, that was my answer to your question! 🙂 If I had to choose, I'd be good conversation much more important than the effort to get together

[MysticDevice]

Making the effort. Having a conversation isn't necessarily required in order to enjoy eachothers company. Sometimes just being next to someone is all you need.

[VIVANT]

I agree mystic!

[Andres77]

Being able to share things that touch my soul and make me weak but feel powerful at the same time…

https://www.youtube.com/embed/SVbc_Fwbt50

[DiegoO]

Well I am a quiet guy and totally able to live in a bunker all by myself 😅. I never developed the custom to visit others. I am fine with either way.

[Philyouup]

effort always make something feel values Ms Viv

[VIVANT]

Same Phil 😊

[strateguy632]

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