Do you feel surprised when someone makes a move on you or not?

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Glyn54 · Accepted Answer

Girls don't often make an overt attempt to make a move on men (well not with me anyway) but sometimes they do.
I'm on a few dating sites and a few women have approached me on there and I have been out at a poub and had a woman come up and start talking to me without me having to start the conversation. it's GREAT when that happens - a real boost for your self confidence - even if you don't fancy them back.

But, because it doesn't happen THAT often, I am pleasantly suprised when it does and I do my best to appear appreciative even if I don't want to see them again - there is no point in destroying their self confidence.

Slingblade1126 · Accepted Answer

When I was young it didn't surprise me. Girls didn't necessarily make a "move" but they would openly flirt. When I got married, it would happen in front of my in laws at times and even my wife. That was tough because I had to pretend I didn't like it. As I got older, it became far and in between.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

I instantly assume they're either joking, or they're using flattery to ask or get something from me- mostly the latter (sadly the latter is usually what happens!)

I know, that's terrible. That's what happens when you're unattractive and assume the worse of people.

Hinaaaaa · Accepted Answer

I'll think that they are dumb 😆🤣...& Tell them there is plenty of fish in the sea for you 🙂... self Sebotagging

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I'm not a fashion model but I look sweet and innocent so I'm not surprised when guys show interest in me. Its very rare to find somebody as soothing and comforting as me.

catiecatie · Answer

I’m not surprised honestly, it’s more I’m surprised when guys I like don’t ask me out. Like this one guy I really like. It seems like he’s interested in person, but over texting he’s a bad texter. We haven’t texted in awhile, but when I did see him a couple weeks ago he smiled at me, but then was in a rush to get work started so we didn’t talk very long. It seems like he gives me hints but I don't know if he wants me to ask him out of not. If I do something like asking him for drinks it can also mean two friends going out for drinks. Nothing too crazy. I just don’t want to make it awkward. I don't know how to even approach it.

Alli39 · Answer

Kinda? Like, I'm aware some people find me attractive, but it still kind of surprises me when they do it. Probably has more to do with the fact that I'm an introvert and fail to consider that someone might be intersted in the first place than anything else.

DermalPunch · Answer

I'm very surprised since men simply gaze and stare and freeze up if I actually talk to them and give the an opportunity.

I no longer make the mistake of confessing interest first. When you do that a guy sits back and says "oh, i have the upper hand" and starts to be calculated and even manipulative in his dealings.

He may have desire but his interest and respect plummet.

Andres77 · Answer

C’est moi

Anemone978 · Answer

Yes it catches me really off guard.. then I just try and get as far away from them as i can.. I am not a people person.. lol

kellytheman · Answer

Yeah I do get a little surprised if a girl puts her hands on me or makes a move on me telling she likes me a lot. There is times where I am not though if I know I am be very charming and confident, making her laugh, and her having fun with me. I think most guy would get surprised because we are usually the one that makes the first move.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

You're welcome to make a move, though I don't know if I'll ever be able to follow through. ;-)

But yeah, it's very rare that a gal initiates anything on me. And then I'm questioning her motives and probably overthinking it.

Guardian45 · Answer

Yes, I've been very surprised when this happens. One of my former GFs pursued and teased me multiple times at first, subtley. I didn't understand or clue in. I was an idiot. I'm ND.
Finally, she literally cornered me so I couldn't escape, and very boldly propositioned me. Absolutely NO mistaking her intentions. That was when I finally realized and gave in.

rosemilk · Answer

i absolutely hate it because it's awkward and i have to tell them i'm taken and then i think they think i'm lying even tho i'm not

tho thankfully i'm usually always with my partner when out so everyone leaves me alone

Sonorous · Answer

Ain't nobody making an moves on me. I look average af.

strateguy632 · Answer

i still feel surprised despite several times, not new anymore, due to the lady approaching me and due to her youth... it is like these young ladies feel "jennifer fever" toward calm old guys like me.

CrimsonAngel09 · Answer

I'm legit ugly, so if someone makes a move on me they have to be joking, need their eyes checked, or made a bet with someone. "$20 says they'll be with the ugly chick for five hours."

humanearth · Answer

When An another guy does. I freak the fuck out. Because I don't know how to handle it. When women approach me, that I'm comfortable with and know how to handle that

mandyfire98 · Answer

It happens from time to time. I'm not really shocked when people approach me in public because I'm normally outgoing anyway. Plus it happened often enough in college.

dolemite58 · Answer

only if they’re above a certain attractiveness level, girls like that don’t ever have to make the first move so i’m either suspicious/i think they’re a prostitute cuz that actually happened to me once. A girl that was a 10 started flirting with me at this lounge and my intuition told me she was a hooker and i was correct 😂

xutumx · Answer

Not anymore because from my experience it’s just wanting my 🐱. What surprises me is when a guy has true intentions and is respectful but that’s so rare now

MementoMori777 · Answer

To be fair I probably totally miss It, I'm not good at detecting interest from someone else

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Not really... I am grade "A" beef! LMAO

magiusX26 · Answer

extremely suprised, and this coming from a guy who almost exclusively only dated when younger after the females (girls when ner aged and women later) asked me out. am very suspicious of her ulterior motives when she even attempts.

Dinklex3 · Answer

Depends on the person. I've been surprised the last couple times because I thought they were just extra friendly.

Boomchakalaca · Answer

Yes and no. When im dressed like a potato then im surprised. When im dressed nice not rlly surprised.

CaptainOverthink · Answer

Very surprised. Almost doubt it's even happening. I have low trust in my intuition.

Rollingstones84 · Answer

Yeah I do feel surprised, I wish it would happen more often. I like when people make a move on me because it shows they're interested. I can be interested in them, but never really know how they're feeling

Nikki1989 · Answer

It usually happens when you least expect it, so yeah, it can be surprising.

Anonymous · Answer

YEA USUALLY. Cause it’s unexpected and unannounced. BUT DEPENDING ON HOW ATTRACTIVE HE IS. I WILL EITHER APPRECIATE IT, OR FEEL ANNOYED BY IT

DizzyDesii · Answer

Not surprised but prepared for the worse case scenario although hoping for the best

VIVANT · Answer

Not with men, but when women do it I am a bit surprised

fonduegirl · Answer

Always flattering. But depending on our chemistry or the lack of, I may or may not reciprocate.

iron_ninjs · Answer

Considering it rarely happens ( a girl making a legit move on a guy, not just in my case, but any guy's case), I would feel surprised.

molonski2 · Answer

Rarely bcoz I would always know it was coming my way and I would be ready for it.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

I usually kinda see it coming but I'm also kind of surprised when it happens.

ventustalks · Answer

No, I wouldn't feel surprised. It is extremely normal, an overwhelming situation too tho.

PizzaPieMamaBear · Answer

Awkward i don’t usually like it only time I liked it was when my current boyfriend did it

motownplayer2000 · Answer

The first time a woman made a move on me, sure. Cause I thought women didn’t do that. The second time it was like cool. But she wasn’t attractive. I’ve had it twice in my life.

Subflics · Answer

Yeah I'd go with it. Women often come out and wanna go out with me prob cuz I don't pressure them to do anything I just enjoy myself and have good conversation

RavVid · Answer

Yes. Doesn't happen often that a girl does in an overt way.

Christsdisciple15 · Answer

It’s yet to occur but if it did yes I would be extremely surprised

Annie_LevelUP_ADC · Answer

I am always surprised. It's a surprise, but a welcome one.

DaddyDiablo · Answer

Honestly yes because I'm not used to anyone specifically women men I'm not really interested in or liked by me much

Josephiiina · Answer

hasn't happened in forever, so I dont know how i would feel xD

mattclark242 · Answer

No most of the time I see it when they make a move.

CoolCatMar1 · Answer

No i am not surprised but it rarely happens like REALLY rarely

nepatriots20 · Answer

Do I or would I? I would , I say this because women will never approach no matter how attractive a guy is in person. Online is a different ball game. But yes I would be surprised if one approached me in person

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, I do, but it makes me more shy, but I overcome as time goes on.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Utterly shocked is more accurate. Unless it's someone trying to get a free parking space near the beach.

boobliker · Answer

depends on who and why the more is being maid  I love girls taking control over me and my body

red324 · Answer

I only get hit on at the bar and usually y'all ask or say the weirdest shit that it doesn't even dawn on me that they were flirting

dragoblack · Answer

Yep, because the last and only time was when the attractive rando was drunk, and i don't mess with drunk women.

jamesgoldman · Answer

Yeah because I've got no upsides to speak of so it's instantly suspicious

Pohjolan · Answer

IRL I have seen only once a gal make a move on a guy so yes it would be a surprise but a welcome one.

Darkest-Knight · Answer

I didn't know woman make a move on guys. It's never happened to me... at least not that I've ever realized.

kakaling · Answer

I am the complete opposite, I hope girls makes less move when I was younger, I was unable to see any sign because it was too common, stupid me.

SnowedIn · Answer

Very much so.

Staximus · Answer

Yeah, apparently I'm intimidating or too gruff for the general public

Christoff92 · Answer

No. I know that she's into me. So don't encounter anything from her 😏

Reorx · Answer

They never do, they'll give me every sign you can imagine.

Snakeyes7 · Answer

I am not used to people coming and talking to me in general.

Fuentes · Answer

No I'm disrespectful af lol I got ko respect I might just randomly say im tryna fuck lol

Jltakk · Answer

Never had it happened to me. Would be absolutely shocked if it ever did.

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