Is it OK for you to flirt with your friends ex?

[gayesblog]

Is it ever OK for you to flirt with your friends ex?

Assume that she/he is not a bff but anyway still your friend...

[ohsheeT]

For over 40 years I've watch people lose morals values and ethics in just about everything they do every generation

But with my friends and I we have always had this unsaid rule out of respect

You do not date or you do not go out with one of your friends exes no matter what

And to this day that respect has remained the same while everything else has changed kind of

[Friendlybro79]

I think this is the rule for most guys. I've seen some exceptions be made over my years where it was a friend dated a girl for a week or two when they were kids and then as adults another friend dated the same girl and they got married. Very rare but under certain circumstances possible. Also the OP is saying just flirting. It's still a thing for guys not do it but depending how much flirting we're talking about and the friend themselves. Some can handle it if it's not blatant lol

[dynamicyandere]

No, not okay.


I suppose the caveat would be if you truly believe you were meant to be and you’re willing to lose your friendship over this.


But, that’s like a very unlikely scenario.


It’s an ultimatum. Pursue this person and lose your friend. Or leave this person alone and protect your friendship.

[19magic]

All depends if it's dated and years then no, it's it was a few dates then sure. The gray area is how do you define it. I've been in a situation and so has a few friends where the guys we dated so did another friend. Both times it didn't work out but that was for different reasons.

[Nxtawm]

Not okay, I’d get permission if she’s okay with it

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Nope

not okay

[Friendlybro79]

Depends on the friend honestly. Some people are way more sensitive about this stuff. I don't do these things just to be sensitive to a friends feelings. It might depend on a lot of factors like how serious it was or how long they dated. Also if my friend was seriously hurt by the breakup I def would not.

[Marklaw12]

No.

What's stopping him/her to think you did everything in your power to break them up in the first place?

Nah, good friends tell their friends things that are only shared amongst friends.

It's like back stabbing him/her cos you would have given advice before the breakup

[rebeliouse]

you could always ask their view on it before you start flirting and then you will know how good a friend they are if they warn you off with truth then they are good if they have issue but unfounded then screw them unless you think the friendship is worth more than the guy

[Finchie40]

If you still want to keep your friendship with your friend then you are better off not to , your friend might feel like you betrayed them and not trust you anymore , so ask yourself what is more important? Your friendship or flirting with their ex?

[UniquelyBasic]

You should probably ask the friend first because a lot of people are really sensitive about it. You don't want to ruin a friendship over wanting to date someone but that friends ex could also be a perfect match for you so it's tricky.

[Meropatrick]

Yes. I dont know why people get all ape about someone flirting with their ex. The ex isn't your slave or owned by u. Once they r and ex or past tense then they r free to date whomever they want and u have no saying in it

[Andres77]

She’s an ex for a reason. Probably not a good idea even before taking ones friend into account. IF I were so inclined I’d ask him first, because it would affect our dynamic.

[OddBeMe]

Flirting is iffy. Intent is the main deal. Am I trying to fck someone behind my wife’s back? Etc…

For me, I “flirt” or just talk laid back with girls and guys because it doesn’t matter. I have no intent.

[lilylangley]

Of course! They’re their ex for a reason! Usually it’s because my friend found out that he fucked me behind their back!

[LoverOfBooty23]

Can’t blame the ex for doing that!

[lilylangley]

@LoverOfBooty23 😉

[LoverOfBooty23]

Too delicious

[RedInnocent68]

Yes. It’s always okay for anyone to flirt with everyone.

[Sasha0426]

It just means that you were after their boyfriend/girlfriend before they broke up. You weren’t truly that person’s friend. You just stuck around waiting for them end their relationship.

[violetsareviolet]

Only if they're over their ex and are ok with you flirting with them

[exitseven]

If they were really broken up it is okay. Probably not if they were only half broken up.

[BryanMoore]

if they don't like it it's kinda their problem and they got some stuff to work out for themselves lol

[Anonymous]

Probably not. Especially if it ended badly for her.

[jahaims]

Obviously not unless your friend doesn't care if you fuck

[Wise4myage]

Yes, but it might be best to mention that to her.

[Anonymous]

It's not okay. And I say this as someone who actually had a huge crush on the girl my friend is dating now. Even if they ever breakup (which I sincerely hope they don't) I won't ever go for it.

[Pudsmucker]

I'd say it's okay you're not tied to your friend's EX. And he shouldn't care who you date.