Do you cuddle/spoon with your friends of the opposite gender?

[Anonymous]

My really good guy friend of 3+ years (he is like my brother) and I have recently started cuddling and spooning whenever we hang out. It kind of started suddenly, towards the tail end of when I was having a tough time with a guy that I had liked who was yanking me around. At the time it was a little strange that he was suddenly being more physical (since we really had a brother/sister relationship before) but I didn't mind because it took my mind off the douche bag that had used me and left me. I have never been attracted to my guy friend at all...and he has a girlfriend of a few years that lives in CA. Other than that, everything is still the way it was. There has been nothing physical other than what I've mentioned. Is this weird? Or is this scenario pretty common? I don't think it would be that weird, except that my friend is already in a relationship. Am I reading too far into this? ha ha

[Anonymous]

Cuddling/spooning is the one thing that I feel could be 'no strings attached' and mean absolutely nothing, as opposed to something like kissing, especially if you guys decide beforehand that it won't lead to anything. Of course, I'd feel a bit awkward continuously doing this with a guy friend who had a GF, but as long as she knew about it and didn't care, it wouldn't matter. However, it seems like she doesn't know... and if you're feeling a bit unsure about this whole ordeal, I'd suggest discussing it with him! Atleast bring something up like, "hey, how does your girlfriend even feel about this, haha?" Though otherwise, I wouldn't view cuddling with a guy friend as anything weird, especially if you're really good friends with him like you've described. In a way, it's like a more intense version of hugging haha. It's just another form of showing affection, and much like a hug, the intention can be friendly or it can mean something more - it depends on what you make it.

[acka72]

its not weird. You are vulnerable... he is in a relationship and in a sense unavailable. Suddenly he is not that boring and a very interesting mate because if you do get together with him he might not hiurt you the way this other guy did. You are beginning to feel attraction towards him and that is not weird.

[elements]

I've done that with my best friend before. I don't think it's weird.

[Anonymous]

He probably wants to f*** you, or he's gay.

Cant argue with human nature...guys want p****...and guys and girls can't be friends for long. Someone ALWAYS gets feelings of some kind unless they are both butt ugly/nasty.

[20Questions]

The only time I did this with a friend is when we had had a drunk one night stand the previous night. And a few months later she decided to be a lesbian. So boy...are you sure nothing's gonna develop between the two of you...

[sixstring]

No it's not. I do it sometimes with female friends.