Me and my best friends Jess and Iz always cuddle! Often we'll go to my dads house, stick the TV on, get the wine out, get the big blanket out and all 3 of us (or 2 if one of them can't make it) and cuddle up tight and watch the box all night really providing our own entertainment because, well we're just that funny xD.
I suppose some would find it strange but tbh, there's no other way is rather spend a wintery Saturday night! I am straight by the way and there has been cuddle hard-ons but I'm just that close with them, I've even told them in the past and they've just laughed and eventually it goes haha.
You're going to marry one of them. Lol. Just watch.
I think its ok as long as you trust them and you genuinely care about the person. Everyone needs that closeness to feel like someones there or they just need to feel love. Shit i would love to cuddle now. But at the same time. There's something there that drawing you towards that person. I'm sure you or anyone else is just going to cuddle with just anyone. I'm sure there not getting all cuddly with there other male friends. There's something that always draw each other together
This reminds me of what they do in the movies! A bit like Jennifer Aniston cuddling up to a guy best friend. But yes in real life I think the guy would eventually think of it as something more. I can understand that you may think of it as harmless affection but some where down the lines I think one or both of you will start develop feelings for each other. There's something about the physical touch that brings about a certain closeness and bond to each other. Good luck!
Agreed. Physical touch will instigate an emotional response, however, the value of a positive response may be different on either end. Sometimes mutual, most often one sided. Our biology and neurology is complicated. Simply said, human emotion is uncharted territory in scientific terms.
It's not normal, but it's not unheard of.
I'm like that with my roommates. When we watch movies we snuggle a bit, and if we come home and have had a sh*t day, one may demand cuddles. For anyone who says some of us are harbouring secret feelings - no. Just no.
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At first it is okay but then it starts getting romantic/sexual coz guys are super turned on by touch, smell, and sight.
It can't last very long before the guy gets a boner
As a girl we love being held and if he smells good, it is so easy to give into feelings and one friendly kiss on the cheek soon becomes one on the lips and passion kicks in.
This happened to a long distance boyfriend I had. He cuddled with a friend coz I wasn't there and over 4 mos through became close and "missing" me and her missing her boyfriend, they got wrapped up in the "moment" and a kiss went on too long. After sweaty passionate clothes ripped off sex, both felt guilty, but laying there naked together, they said it was only "relief", nothing more. Had Sex again for several hours right away. Said it meant nothing.
Next day both felt guilty, got together to talk about how wrong it was, passion kicked in and a kiss put them in bed acting out the 2 Backed Beast.
They are together still and I & her boyfriend got dumped
All over a cuddle with a friend
No.
there is a thing call respecting the opposite gender and their future potential partners.
1. you respect the opppostie gender becasue, we are not little boys/girls.. even the little ones understand girls play with girls and boys with boys... so why at age 18, 22... etc... its okay to disrepect that differnece? thats how we know if we like someone, by getting close to the other... if we just do this to anyone... oh... lets be cuddle buddies... how is the guy suppose to feel? gay? he is a male and he has reactions. we have feelings and unless someone likes somoeone... usually the guy likes the girl, then he is fine cuddling and hope for more... the girl only wants comfort and lean over for comfort but has no furter interes... so she is only using him
2. when she gets a boyfriend... oh he is just my cuddle buddy... i am going to go hang out with my cuddle buddy? f*** that
- the guy gets a girlfriend... oh.. she is feeling down and we have always cuddle ea. other, i have to give her some cuddling time tomorrow... tomorrow i will meet her to cuddle... so... whats the new girlfriend suppose to feel/do?
why even get into such tangle web and get a real gf/bf where there is true love and respect?
Yes its ok. I have to say its been asked of me. It can and often leads to more. I don't know if its a girl trying to make the first move or not. Sometimes we need that first move sometimes we end up needing the cuddling.
I did just think of something. A long time ago I saw a documentary about about the sexes, it covered in scientific detail all kinds of things. The thing I found most interesting was they showed people in color imaging that when people got close to each other distance wise the colors got brighter. When the people actually started touching the colors got intense, when they started taking it to the next level it exploded and the colors were off the charts. So whether to just cudle or it leads to more there is a human response.
It can seem like a normal, "friendly" thing from a girl's perspective. But from a guy's perspective, it's anything but friendly. Sure you could cuddle with your friend, but if he's actually open to cuddling with you, I'm willing to be he has some feelings he never opened up about.
It's a fine line and I am in the same situation. The only difference is I've known her for 20 years and we are just naturally so close. We fooled around in our early 20's and over a decade later in our late 30's we've become best friends that cuddle while watching movies all the time. I get "hard" most of the time and she just looks back at me and laughs and makes funny remarks like " Someone is happy". This is normal in later age with such a history between each other. We haven't slept together but the energy is always there when we sleep over at either home. It's just a strange and complicated place to be in a friendship. It's almost a hallmark situation that one person will have feelings for the other if sex happens and the other may feel awkward about pursuing it further. It's not to say its always a bad idea, its just an emotional risk. But sometimes you jump in the deep end to find the answer.
Yes I do it with my one friend. She even had me check her breasts bc she was worried she had a lump. We've never done anything sexual.
But when I was younger I used to just cuddle with girls and when I left after doing nothing they would get pissed, I guess they get blue balls too.
Anyhow I love cuddling with gf's, lovers and females that are just friends. It releases oxytocin and drains a lot of stress, but now I need them to be ok with just cuddling too if that is all I want.
Men and women can't be "best friends". They can be acquaintances or be in a romantic relationship, nothing in between. The male will develop feelings for the female, as his goal is to spread his seed as much as possible to ensure continuation of the species. You're leading your "best friend" (he really wants to have sex with you) on. Tell him you don't like him as a romantic partner to avoid breaking his heart later on.
Does that apply to gay men as well? What about gay women?
Wow so I guess the four females with whom I am best friends are not real? Men can enjoy a pure friendship with women as friends. Sure a man might feel some glandular urges occasionally but that does not mean he wants to or does act on them. Give us a little credit. Some men just want a friend they can talk to without being judged.
Jesus christ, the stupidity here...
A guy will only take you purely as a best friend if you're ugly/in a relationship or both. More difficult for him if you're in a relationship but are hot.
But if you're hot and single... for fuck's sake, this doesn't need explanation!!!
Well I mean if I had no idea you just liked to cuddle, it'd probably come off as more than just friends kind of thing so I'd definitely tell them before hand. I'd probably wouldn't like it because I know I myself could catch feelings if I found my girl who's a friend attractive and she did this.
Hey, if you guys are friends and you like to cuddle, go for it! :D Do what makes you comfortable. I have cuddled with my male and female friends during movies, late-night chats or long car rides. Sometimes it's nice to have someone close, to know that you trust that person and can just relax in their company. Isn't that a perk of having a best friend?
Nooooo. Friends don't cuddle. Do you ever see two (straight) guys cuddling? Do you ever cuddle up with your brother?
Most of my friends are male and my best friend is also. I would never want to cuddle with any one of them. The thought doesn't appeal to me at all.
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Yes, for me it's not a sexual thing really.
But you have to be careful so that people don't read to much into it. Doing this, I've led women on by mistake a couple of times, and bi/gay guys once or twice.
It's easy to assume that everyone's just like you, but that's always a mistake.
I think it’s a bit degrading to both sexes to assume that cuddling will automatically lead to unwanted sexual feelings. I have a friend who is a woman and we’ve been just friends for almost 6 years now. She’s like a sister to me. Even her parents have jokingly said I’m like a second son to them. Yes we cuddle, hug, and do other small gestures of affection that have nothing to do with sex. Love doesn’t always have to revolve around sexual relationships. Platonic love/affection across sexes is just as important if not more so than romantic love/affection. Y’all just need to learn how to keep your dicks in your pants smh
Simple question that to me clarifies this quickly: Does the cuddling become off limits once one of you has a SO?
If so, I'd say you're probably crossing a friendship line somewhere. I mean I guess if both of you understand the behavior is going to stop when one of you gets a bf/gf then it's harmless, but that still starts flirting with the friends with benefits line in my opinion.
I used to do that with my best friend when I was single. Never liked the guy. Actually, I even dated his brother for almost a year. (We didn’t do the cuddling thing while I was with his brother). I think it’s ok. I also slept the whole night -literally sleep only- with my other best friend when I was a teenager. We share the bed and hug each other but that was it. He later told me that he was in love with me, I wasn’t.
Me and my best friend cuddle during movies or when we play videogames. I have a major crush on him and have known him my whole life, and am uncertain about how he feels about me, but I always lean my head on his shoulder, and if its a movie we'll sometimes hold hands. At first he questioned it, but as time went on he'll purposefully sit next to me just so we can get in that position, like its a habit now. :) It's usually the highlight of my week.
Not in my book, think of it this way, is it something you'd think is OK for someone in a relationship to be doing? Cuddling up with their best friend of the opposite sex? I don't think so.
There's nothing wrong with it, but it's not friend behavior, unless you both want more, don't be surprised if this leads to a messy situation,
i wouldn't do that usually but once I did by accident lol. we were on a longgg trip back home from a high school excursion and we were sitting next to each other. I fell asleep and I somehow ended up on my best friends shoulder lol. like I said, I wouldn't usually tho. as other people said, a friendly hug or so is all good=]
Unless it because you are comforting someone who just had a crisis its more than a best buddy thing. Cuddling is well beyond best buddy. If the guy would do it with his male best friend then its more than just two friends in close physical contact where body parts touch for hours at a time.
Like my wife says : I's just a movie and is not the real world. If they are hugging and cuddling it is more than two people who have the power to ignore their physical human impulses. It's the movies.
Well whenever I've cuddled with a girl it's led to a makeout session so if either is in a relationship it's a no-go. They would have to be a special friend, not just any friend regardless. Like one you met at a club and got touchy with first for example.
I'm not sure I'd say "normal" but it certainly does happen. Chances are also good that this guy would like more than that. Doesn't mean he won't be respectful (as by his actions), but if you were to want it, I'm sure he'd have no problem doing more with you.
I think so. I’ve cuddled with gay men and straight women (I’m bi) and it was never about wanting sex, it was about feeling comforted and loved.
I did it for one of my best friends who lost her dad. Honestly, there is nothing more rewarding than to be that emotional rock. I guess I can see how people with different life perspectives could see cuddling as an intimacy between lovers, but I ascribe to agape more so than Eros.
That’s just a symptom of “romantic try-outs” (putting yourself in a position to see how the other person reacts to you). It is the equivalent of being “too nice” with acquaintances, meaning, the sole purpose of being nice, is because you hope it will influence the other person, to be nice to you. With this example, the reason “friends” do that, is you want to see how the other person reacts
I think it's fine as long as neither of you are in a relationship. The only thing is that cuddling is very personal and releases a lot of dopamine and many couples who cuddle all the time can technically get addicted to each other that way. Basically I'm saying you can do whatever you want but it's possible one or both of you can develop feelings that way
I cuddled with a girl before because we were all hanging out. She was invited by one of my friends along with a couple of other girls, but I didn't know her personally. Anyway, no one's clothes came off and no one did anything inappropriate. And after that we all went our separate ways and I never saw her again.
it's fine but i don't like cuddling unless i like someone. i'm not a really affectionate touchy person. i show my love by giving and doing things more than kissing and stuff. i just find it awkward i don't know why.
u For many people, physical closeness is a sign that the other person wants a more intimate relationship. I would never cuddle with a woman unless I saw her as a romantic interest.
Alot of girls I know sit in guy's laps and they feel nothing for each other. Or so they say. "He's like a brother to me" "No we're just friends" is what they tell me. But I don't know. I guess as long as you don't think about it too hard or press on about it so much, then you can be friends and still cuddle.
No, plain and simple. Friends don't cuddle unless they are women. Opposite sex cuddling is more flirting than friendship.
Theoretically. But think about this; guy friends won't full on cuddle. I've had guy friends lay on me and stuff before and it's sort of like ironically homosexual for a laugh, but there's no genuine "embrace and cuddle" going on between dudes unless you're homo for real.
I do it all the time, we really enjoy each others presence but as far as I'm aware I hold no romantic feelings towards her, and she also has none (currently dating someone else)
There's nothing wrong with cuddling with a friend of the opposite sex.
I would cuddle with a female friend but i don't believe in nothing sexual
unless it became boyfriend & girlfriend and than i would have sex after marriage.
No it's not. At least one of them is going to start having feelings. So if they want to stay just friends no cuddling...😆
It’s borderline. Honestly I couldn’t do it with someone I like knowing she’s not interested in me. I would want to do more and she would reject me hard. I couldn’t do this to someone else I’m not interested in knowing it’s leading them on.
The only exception is if a gal pal was really upset or hurt or something. A long hug might be appropriate.
Sometimes after a hard day I really need a cuddle but I always feel too awkward to hug my guy friends as I don't want them to see it as somethings more than it is
Absolutely normal and ok. If I was closer to one of my friends geographically I would probably cuddle often as we are both cuddly people.
Do whatcha want, if ur comfortable when who cares. If it's in private then who's gonna know anyways. And u really have no life if ur walking telling people "I watched a movie with my bestie and we cuddled"
A guy who cuddles with a girl will feel sexual feelings. It's unavoidable. He might even get a hard on. Doesn't mean he'll act on it. Like, if something bad happened, even guys sometimes just need comfort.
No. I've done it but the only time that happens is sexual attraction of one or both people. Its just short of friends with benefits.
It's completely normal and fine. Nothing wrong with cuddling with close friend of opposite sex.
Cuddling is a way that I show affection to my partner, so I would not consider doing it with a friend. Just easier to not go down that road.
No, not that weird. I do that with some of my friends, just because it's more comfortable to sit like that sometimes.
u No, if I get that close to a woman to whom I am attracted, it takes some considerable self control to keep my hands off of her.
Have you had any suspicion of him getting a boner or wanting to be more than friends? Have you asked him if this is difficult for him?
I think that's cute! If you guys like each other and are really close friends, I don't see anything wrong with that ;)
I'm a girl obviously but I would just cuddle with my boyfriend, not just any guy. Some view points will differ depending on the individual
I've done it with a guy friend before. For us it was just nice cuddling with someone.
I think so. Then again cuddling can be quite intimate and lead to catching feelings.
It wouldn't be weird. Its okay to do that. I say it is normal
I can't cuddle with someone if I don't have feelings for them it's just awkward and uncomfortable.
Tha'ts pretty 'friendly' in my book. No one watchikng would think they were 'just friends.'
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As long as both of you are into it, perfectly normal.
The number of people who could maintain a platonic friendship in thie way are probably fairly low. Check out myTake on the "Five kinds of love", and save the fifih one for that special one person.
When I think "cuddling" I think (mostly) of post sex, or sleep cuddling. If you've got your body cradling hers auth your dick up against her ass, there's something more. No way that's strictly platonic for him or her.
There is no way I’m cuddling with a guy best friend. I would get attached.
You would only think this way if you were with a beta cuck. If you were with a stallion like me you would want much more than just to cuddle
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I wouldn't consider your description to be cuddling
Yeah, cuddling just shows affection even if it's platonic.
I personnaly don't cuddle with male friends, i'm not even that close with them.
I better not doin' that then, because I am easy to have my affection to the opposite sex. Just keep a small distance to each other, that's fine.
Yes it is. If he's a real friend he shouldn't disrespect her at all but comfort her and make her feel secure
For girls, maybe. But two guys cuddling is definitely gay.
I've never done it, but depending on the two people, it could happen.
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