I'm in an open relationship and want to flirt with my neighbor, who probably assumes I'm monogamous. How do I break the ice and shoot my shot?

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My partner and I are in an open relationship and sometimes see other people. I have already been given the green light to flirt with the neighbor, but I'm worried the neighbor will be confused of my advances, since he sees I live with my boyfriend.
I don't know much about this neighbor, not even his name. But I see him all the time and fantasize about sleeping with him.
Any advice on how I could approach the neighbor, flirt a little bit, and maybe drop a hint that we're polyamorous?

(The neighbor helped me change my tire one time. And he lives below us. I was thinking I could give him some cookies with a thank you card for helping me that one time and leave my number? Is that goofy as hell?) Someone help me, I have no game!

Kaneki05 · Accepted Answer

You flirt see if he flirts back which I mean.. why wouldn't your really attractive. Then just advance on it, if he asks wait don't you have a boyfriend just then tell him it's a open relationship.
Not sure how he'll respond to that if you wanted more than a fling but if it's just a fling pretty sure he's going to be okay with it.

Tim2nice · Accepted Answer

I’m a direct person. I’d go to him with cookies as a thank you and start a small chat. Then ask him if he’s got a girlfriend and then tell him he’s cute and you’re available for sex despite being in relationship. 90% of men would take you up on the offer. I know I would

DevikaButts95 · Accepted Answer

Two options in my opinion:
1. Become friends with him first where you can drop your lifestyle
2. Just be completely direct, tell him you have an open relationship and you were wondering if he'd be interested.

IslaTheWitch · Accepted Answer

The question is if he would be OK with the fact you have already a boyfriend. Set the whole situation as clear as possible.

AviatorTom · Answer

Wear something sexy and drop by his place with a batch of cookies.

zeitgeist057 · Answer

I find it pretty easy once in a conversation, to talk about my girlfriend and that we are in an open relationship. Just nonchalantly in the midst of conversation, something like,

"Are you seeing anyone? I've been dating my girlfriend for about a year and a half now. We've been in a long distance open relationship and it's been really great talking to her about dating other people, and sharing our ideas about what love means."

That's not really a hint that you like someone, but it's enough to get the wheels in their head turning and let them think about it for a bit. It's also a great conversation starter because most people are pretty interested to know more about polyamory/ENM relationships, especially if they're interested in dating you. If you're good at flirting, then just wait a little while and start flirting with him, he'll figure out why you brought that subject up.

If you're bad at flirting, which it sounds like you might be, since you didn't even talk to him enough to know his name, then sure, go with your cookie and number idea. It's awkward, but also kind of adorable if a guy is into that sort of thing. What kind of cookies, though? Are you going to make them or buy them?

I'm in an open relationship and want to flirt with my neighbor, who probably assumes I'm monogamous. How do I break the ice and shoot my shot?

RebelinSteel · Answer

The thank you bit works, but be aware just because you can play around, the neighbour might want his fun with someone committed to just him. Flirting helps, as does seeing if he has certain times he does stuff, then just be in the area by chance. Even though you ask him and see what he says, you have to be prepared for rejection.

Claire2002 · Answer

Mention randomly that you are in an open relationship. You can even make it a story about another fact like e. g. last day a guy flirted with me and my boyfriend wasn't jealous because we are in an open relationship. At this point if he's interested you will notice a change of behavior.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

You don't.

Polyamory is generally just a terrible idea, so most people do not do it. Your neighbor is going to see you as a cheater.

Even if you explain the situation, they will think you are nuts (because you are, sleeping with strangers and having multiple partners is dangerous).

You're eventually going to get an STD.

Gigerpimp · Answer

That's a good start but don't use ur number use snapchat 1st and number 2nd then u can slowly hint in by doing Provocative pics with ur messages if he dusnt have snap then u could send a sexy selfie as a bonus thank u feel free to message me if u need more ideas or help setting things up ;)

laly520 · Answer

test the warmth of water as they say

flirt with him and drop some hints that u r interested in him

try to make plan to see him or spend time with him

wear something hot n be seductive

if he is interested then he will agree on it

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Well, for instance, if you live next door in apartments, go out onto your balcony wearing only a t-shirt that JUST covers your naked crotch and step over onto his and knock on his doors to let you in. Once he opens, tell him that you stepped out onto your balcony to see what the weather was like and accidentally locked yourself out and nobody was home to let you in. Once you get in,. start getting sexual with him and talk him into fucking you and let him know that your SO says it's okay.

Anonymous · Answer

Well the cookies seem a little goofy in my opinion. Definitely give a thank you card that is perfectly normal. If he opens the door for you then that’s your opportunity to have a conversation with him and ask about himself. Make sure he’s single then add in what you want him to know:)

_Lynx · Answer

Who cares if you're cheating or in an open relationship.

Just take it easy, as if he's leaving tomorrow. Take your time to know him first, then everything later comes on its own. Where you don't come as desparate or annoying.

molonski2 · Answer

Its pretty easy to explain , just approach him casually for a coffee , and broach the topic with him , I've been involved in a couple of these and once you know the circumstance its fantastic..

lightbulb27 · Answer

you're out of your mnd. Terminate w boyfriend… for he is not even a friend… then find new bf… your a girl you know how to do that. Go find God and a counselor

sheenagwapa · Answer

what kind of relationship is this on the first place fucking shit

Paris13 · Answer

Go Easy, He May Not Be Into This Sort of Arrangement and You Would Have to Live Above Him. lolxxoo

HelpfulWoman · Answer

-dont shit where you eat. Also stop being a creep.

2_beHappy · Answer

I know it has been 4 days since you ve asked that question, but If I was in your place, I would invite him somewhere and have fun😉

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Be open & honest with your neighbor & tell your neighbor you are in an open relationship.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

"Open relationship"... Good grief.

Anonymous · Answer

1. You're a man hiding behind a woman's account 2. The neighbor doesn't like u if they did they would've approached you 3. Why are you stealing pictures from Facebook 4. Get a life

Nikki1989 · Answer

You have to break the ice first and take it from there.

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