Is buying the woman a drink at the bar, still considered flirting?

[RoseySarah]

For my single friends who hang around bars they take it as a compliment not flirting. They expect it of the guys. Saves them money to use on shoes!

Big flirt

Just a small compliment

Means nothing

He wants you

Small flirt

We deserve free drinks helps us dance more freely

Makes me smile getting one

[Anonymous]

Come onnn man, really? You just expect us to buy you drinks and get nothing in return? I'm not talking about anything sexual, but him offering you a drink is clearly flirting with you, and accepting his offer is validating his advances and telling him you're interested in talking. If a girl isn't interested in talking to the guy then she shouldn't accept his offer to buy her a drink.

I've never had it happen but if I bought a girl a drink and she didn't engage in conversation with me at all then I know damn well I'm taking that drink back for myself. Go find another guy to walk over... My expectation is if I buy a girl a drink she should at least engage in conversation with me until she finishes the drink I paid for.

[RoseySarah]

How can they talk if the guys never come over?

[Opinion Owner]

What, you mean the guy pays for the drink and asks the bartender to deliver it to her and wingman for him? He needs to grow a pair and approach the girl.

I always approach first, introduce myself, buy them a drink once they're interested. If they don't talk to my before the drink then they're only trying to use me for a free drink, so I don't bother with them

[RoseySarah]

Lol right no balls not approaching

[Slapmynuts]

😮🤪👍

[Summeroflove]

It really depends on the guy. I would say in most cases he’s trying to get with the girl. But it really depends. It’s not really something I do, and I don’t really hang around bars.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

It sounds like flirting to me. If the guy buys you a drink it means he's interested in you and wants to talk to you.

[RoseySarah]

But if they never come over?

[tilly-32]

I tend to agree

[DizzyDesii]

I’d take it as flirting but i dont go to bars so I don't know

[RoseySarah]

Same never really go just sad people there with no life and thirsty!

[OlderAndWiser]

Most guys who buy you a drink expect you to engage in conversation with them, and they are hoping that conversations leads to more than just conversation. And all women should understand that.

[RoseySarah]

Well my friends never go over if he won't approach them he is not worth Thier time... For their bfs the bar is pretty low!

They need to look beyond the bar. It just ends like cheers does.

[Summeroflove]

The problem with only approaching who approaches you. Really it’s just limiting their options. Because sometimes the guys who approach aren’t the type of men they want, while men with options may not need to make approaches on random women.

[RoseySarah]

@Summeroflove o they don't really want any guys they are divorced and happy single with kids so...

[Summeroflove]

Makes sense lol. Just free drinks

[KittyKat90210]

It's flirting. That doesn't mean it will work though :D

[RoseySarah]

Right usually does not

[Paul09]

Why else would someone buy a stranger a drink out of nowhere?

[RoseySarah]

For her smile! Is what my friends say to make her happy be nice.

[Paul09]

That's just odd to me.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I would buy a woman a drink, but I can't drink, but would drink diet pop with her. No problem buying her an alcoholic beverage of her choice.

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

Definitely seems like flirting, I think it depends on whether or not the individual who is buying actually knows the recipient or not.

[Phoenix98]

And that's one of the reasons guys don't really do that anymore.

But from what I remember in my younger days you went up and started a conversation with a girl who was alone to gauged interest and then asked what she was drinking and chatted while you waited for the drink and if nothing really progressed you moved on.

I don't know how it works now.

[kingmaker21]

I alway buy a drink for a women if I find her attractive n alone just to start conversation..

[RoseySarah]

Thanks for being honest! Big gold star for you!

[kingmaker21]

Hehe thank you ma'am

[sarahstar13]

Good for you, I'm sure they appreciate that :)

[katiesmuff]

I get to see it every day and it is just a bit of flirting just to see where it goes.

[IslaTheWitch]

Could be, for sure :D

Definitely makes me smile

[Static_In_The_Attic]

In the past flirting it was & it lead to getting to know her & so much more if you two had chemistry. Nowadays it’s not flirting it’s all about free drinks & a lot of girls are all about foodie calls.

[Zestyassmf1997]

If I buy you a drink then I think you’re pretty good looking. Especially cause they’re so damn expensive.

[tremendousfern]

These days it's just asking to be treated as an ATM while the woman takes advantage of you for more free stuff. Never give a woman attachment-free money for anything.

[RebelinSteel]

Zero chance of that with the Price of drinks, you can easily hit £10 for a simple drink on a night out.

[molonski2]

The intent of the action is pretty dam obvious.

[RoseySarah]

Nope my friends say most guys never even share their number let alone go over to you. They just want a smile to brighten their day.

[molonski2]

That may well be what your friends think , but its not true and never has been ..
They are waiting for them to come over and say " Thanks " .
So your friends can kid themselves all they want , this stuff has been going on since time began.

[RoseySarah]

Lmao well they are not even near the guy! The bat tender serves the drinks while the guy is all the way across the room!

[RoseySarah]

No girl ever walks to the guy and says thanks! That is since the beginning of time!
Man is not worth it if he can't say hello at least

[ritxi]

No, it isn't. At least in my country, where it's uncommon for a girl to accept a drink from a stranger if there weren't previous flirtation.

[BraxtonsGf]

a lot of woman flirt with guys to get free drinks

[Nikki1989]

Guys buy drinks to break the ice with a girl. Of course, they are hoping it will lead to something.

[JayBones]

I have never bought a girl a drink that I haven't already slept with.

[Jennz6]

I love it when a guy buys me a drink

[SpaceGalaxy]

yes, it is if the woman accepts the drink because, let's face it, you know what most guys "really" want when they send women drinks, although most of us won't admit to it.