My girlfriend and I were in a heated argument, and she blurted out she cheated. Now she took it back and said it’s not true?

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My girlfriend and I were out at her favorite food/bar spot. I figured I’d take her there because it’s been awhile. She seemed really happy at first. once we were there she had 2 drinks before the food came and she was on an empty stomach so the drinks were hitting her harder. I really don’t mind I’m always down to party. The food eventually came and once we finished our food her entire mood towards me changed. I got her another drink (double shot vodka sprite) because she asked me and at this point I was still on my first beer. I agreed and ordered it for her. We went to go play Pac-Man that’s the main reason we go there. As we were playing she progressively got short, rude, and mean to me, with the way she would respond to me and her tone of voice. I really tried to stay relaxed. We went back to the bar and a guy asked another girl at the bar if he could buy her a shot and she declined and he quit talking to her. It was cut and dry. She started talking shit to the guy saying he was a creep and those girls deserved better and wouldn’t stop. The guy and his friends started staring me down and I’m not trying to get jumped at the bar. At this point she has ordered another 2 drinks, I was on my second beer. I suggested we should leave and she took that very offensive. She said I wasn’t trying to protect women and I don’t have her back. She said she would fight them if I didn’t want to. Eventually I was able to get her out to the car and that’s where the fighting began. It got heated and I don’t have enough space here to type out everything that happened. It was a lot her yelling at me and me just trying to agree to keep the peace. At the end of the argument she told me she cheated, took the car and drove off drunk. I found her a few hours later passed out in a parking lot in her car. I found her and brought her home. I was worried about her even with everything that just happened. She told me she said that she cheated was because she was mad and it wasn’t true.

Flatmanlewis · Accepted Answer

Brother. I was in a relationship with this kind of drama: inability to handle alcohol, impulsive behavior, and a sharp tongue. I’ll make this simple.

Walk away.

Cut your losses now because it will NOT get better. You have been fortunate (or unfortunate) enough to see under the hood and should be a man of self-respect and dignity and leave her.

I know, I know. You love her and she’s not normally like this, and you’ve spent so much time with her, and you have plans, and she makes you happy when…. blah, blah, blah. This is the equivalent of a man slapping a woman in the face.

People learn how to treat you based on what you accept from them. You accept this, then you condone this.

Walk. Away.

TommyMountainFigure · Accepted Answer

Let me see if I have this right. You took her there in HER car, and when she got drunk she drove off in HER car.

Police have trouble finding cars that go missing, so how on earth did YOU find her? I mean it's neigh on an impossible task unless you have her GPS signal on your phone? AND without your car, seeing as you already said you took her there.

Sorry, but that story seems too full of holes to be true for me!

XHopelessRomanticX · Accepted Answer

I think you need to do some reflecting on this relationship. Her saying that she cheated is a matter of concern whether alcohol was involved or not. She could be telling the truth, that she never cheated. But think about it; that just shows how much she is willing to hurt you in a moment of anger. Not good.
Of course, she could also be lying to protect herself. She’s opened the door to suspicion.

But be honest with yourself; do you really want to be with someone who behaves this way? Getting drunk to the point of anger and picking fights? Plus she drove a car drunk, which is illegal.

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

I don't care if it was drunk talk. Something's wrong with her and her excessive drinking and arguing with you is simply a symptom of what's actually going on.

You need to find out if your relationship is on the outs. It doesn't matter why, but it sounds like there is something seriously wrong on her side.

Be prepared for a breakup. It certainly sounds like this is what's going to happen. She simply used being drunk as an excuse to fight with you because she couldn't say what she said when sober. Get to the bottom of this. And be prepared.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Sounds to me like she was angry and blurred out a truth to sooth her anger, the only way that could've soothened her anger was if it were true, picture being angry and telling someone you are angry with that you scratched their car without actually doing it, I bet you there's only satisfaction in saying it only if you actually did it.

genericname85 · Answer

so the way i see it, it could be one of 2 things.

1: she actually cheated on you or
2: in an argument where she gets emotionally unstable, she routinely resorts to that level of hurtfullness in order to get a "win" for herself in the argument.

either way does NOT seem like a partner i would wanna be with at all...

MrDaveAPSI · Answer

Anytime anyone says something, there's always a little bit of truth to it, even if it's a lie. She may not have sexually cheated but, she may have been sort of going around your back doing some stuff.

If you stay with her, you now will never be able to trust another word she says again

BonzoInBitburg · Answer

That's not something you can take back. If you put up with that behavior now, things will not change in the future. I think you can find someone better.

RavVid · Answer

She is bad news so leave in the car park next time.  Probably she did cheat - in wine, truth. Bad as that is, you don't need a girl who is trying to get you into a fight. Dump her.

JacobJordan · Answer

She was being honest and she said it to hurt you. But she took it back and claimed she is lying because she doesn't want you to leave. Dump the whore

Iron_Man · Answer

Big red flags. I don’t think you should trust her get to the bottom of it

Imokydoky · Answer

Even if it's not true It's still cruel to let someone you supposedly care about to think for one second that you betrayed him.

Dinklex3 · Answer

Sounds suspicious. Id dump her 💁‍♀️  find someone who loves and respects you.

Anonymous · Answer

Whoops, that genie can't go back in the bottle.

Lokiion · Answer

In all honesty you gotta end the Relationship she definitely cheated on you and clearly doesn’t respect you anymore

OddBeMe · Answer

I would be concerned about her alcholism. But sexual un-inhibition isn’t a stretch.

Akam93 · Answer

People say their truest things when their drunk.

gorydetails · Answer

Dump that bitch

spartan55 · Answer

Sounds good. You sound like a total pussy.

jahaims · Answer

Either way dump her

Anonymous · Answer

Talk to her

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