He flirts with me, I have a crush on him, but he rather focus on school? does he actually like me or am I just delusional?

[rayzofsunshin3]

ok- this guy, we’ll call him bruno, has been flirty-kind with me for legit more than a year, but i always thought he was just teasing because he’s one of those popular guys who tease people about anything. this year though, at our homecoming dance and beyond, he’s gotten a lot kinder and compliments me more often, so i ended up giving him an anonymous carnation at my school’s flower sale, and he texted me and i confessed to him over text. he ended up saying he needs to focus on his sports and school, which is completely reasonable, bur what does this mean, does he still view me romantically? does he like me? i know he’s not doing one of those letting you down nicely type of things, as he first of all isn't one of those guys, and overall didn't seem like he was saying that, but i dont know if that confirms my feelings are requited or not, even if he just doesn't want to put a label on it yet. i plan on asking him what he means after some casual texts, but i wanted to get your guys’ opinions!

[bobalife]

I have exp this recently and wished I understood it better. Hard truth is you just gotta give him space to worked out his priorities… and you can decide if you wanna wait abit and/or moved on… you can ask how long it might take or just be cool being friends for the mean time. But it doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you. He just gotta work on himself first.

[Nikki1989]

He might just have different priorities than you.

[Summeroflove]

I think he’s being nice. I would just leave him alone as far as romantics go. He friends with him. But you made your move and if he’s interested the balls in his court.


I would just start to find other guys

[ChicoFromThe305]

Just cause a guy wants to focus in school doesn't mean he doesn't like you, he's just got priorities set and he's going for them, he can like you but choose to put his education first before a relationship.

[Fireguy17]

he may like you, but his main priority right now is school.
That is not all that uncommon, he may be pressuring himself to do well, or he may have pressure from home to do well, who knows.
You are young, I understand that things like this are very important, but hang in there, maybe he just hasn't "discovered" girls yet since if he is around your age.
Things change, so be patient, hopefully you will have the results that you are hoping for.

[Drew-1990]

I would say he likes you but don't worry too much about it, you are so young you have so much time to find someone and if he truly likes you he will stick around and you may start dating later after school.

[PrincelyGlove]

I think you just need to talk, and be friends with him a bit more.

Just cause a guy focuses on school, doesn't mean he doesn't like you :)

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[handsomelad70]

Bruno? Is he a bodybuilder? Anyway, he probaly likes you, but he's a studious lad (countering the "Bruno" stereotype), so wait until he's ready to be your boyfriend, at which point he'll truly talk to you. I mean, he's a boy, and we boys (even we 70-year-old "boys" ) tend to be careful about approaching chicks.

[stark04]

Let him Focus on his education and career and you do the same. If he doesn't have a career he'll end up alone. if you don't have a career you'll still be able to end up with a rich man.

[Subflics]

I'm in your shoes right now, the girl I'm talking to is focusing hard on work and school and I feel like I'm in the dust but truth it, they do care you have to let them focus on that

[Anonymous]

Tbh you like him more than he likes you at this point. As he says he wants to focus on school

[TheSpider]

Ask him in person, so you can watch his eyes? Texts? ARE YOU CRAZY?

[darkforcebooty]

nothing wrong with him focusing on school

[rayzofsunshin3]

as i mentioned, i did not have a problem with that, i was more looking for an opinion on if people possibly think i still have a chance of him still actually romantically liking me, even if he is focusing on studies. he

[darkforcebooty]

I think as long as you are around him, friendly, and open.. it should be fine :)

[Anonymous]

you’re too young focused on school

[rayzofsunshin3]

I've dabbled in relationships befoee and even at my age, i have been able to maintain a good school and love life balance, as i do excel in many areas.

[Opinion Owner]

What’s the point of having a boyfriend it leads to sex? You’re way too young for that.

[rayzofsunshin3]

love isn't just sex in my opinion. i am content with the romantic aspects of it, and cute dates and lovey dovey stuff. i am a romantic, love is beyond sex.

[Opinion Owner]

But I know how guys think and how they are because I’ve been told by women before that they try to brainwash you and they say prove me that you love me and they try to con you into sex you have to watch out I don’t recommend dating at 14 at all and I’m surprised your parents would allow it

[rayzofsunshin3]

dont worry; i know how to set boundaries, and thank you for your insight.