I have social anxiety and I approached a group of girls today, should I still be proud of myself?

[JudeJericho08]

I didn't say anything like flirting tho, i just said basics like Hi, what are they studying in school etc and just two of them briefly responded, they didn't seem to be into the convo or basically asking them questions. I didn't know how to like talk to them, i just left afterwards. Two out of the 5 girls had looks of disgust tho, and i felt bad as someone who struggles with confidence.

[Truthatanycost]

Yes, but at first you should focus on talking to all people, not girls. Asking people for directions after visiting a new place can be useful. Then once you are comfortable talking to all people, then focus on talking to all girls regardless of perceived attractiveness.

[JudeJericho08]

I made friends with quite a few guys, actually started talking to girls first.

[JudeJericho08]

guys * first i mean.

[Anonymous]

Yes you should. It’s not easy to do that! Remember, it’s also not easy to be approached if you suffer from anxiety, so sometimes you will be met with bad reactions. As long as you’re not being inappropriate or rude, you shouldn’t feel bad if people don’t receive you well, don’t personalize their reactions, move on to the next! Before you know it, you’ll have made a friend or two and maybe even a romantic interest.

[JudeJericho08]

thank you.

[MushyKiwi]

Yes!! be proud!! your making progress!! speaking from my own kind, girls are B's sometimes if you know what I mean...

[JudeJericho08]

thanks a lot.

[RavVid]

Yes. It is not easy but the only way to get better is to practice. I think you'd be better keeping it very short "Hi - how are you today" and to project friendliness. Spread it out too - not the same girls.

A friend would just wave at girls he recognized. After a while they thought they knew him and would chat.

[RavVid]

Another suggestion for. Check for partner dancing venues in your area. I'd recommend Modern Jive (Le Bop, Chiroc are other names). Salsa is harder.

The format is there is a beginers lesson. The girls are always polite because they won't be asked to dance if they aren't. It is the most social environment to get your skills up. No need for a partner and you will get to meet and dance with every girl in the venue.

[SolivagantRises]

You should definitely feel proud. I used to have stage fright at middle school. My hands and legs would start trembling uncontrollably whenever I had to speak in public and it was pretty obvious. But still had to do it and it felt good after that, no matter how it went. The more I did it, the better and more relaxed I got. Your case is the same. You need more and more practice on girls. Doesn't matter what you say to them, just be casual, nice and polite and you will see a change in no time.

[Flatmanlewis]

Yes. Absolutely. 100%!!


This is like practice and building up the confidence to approach women. In fact, approaching one every single day builds the foundation for being able to do that when you see one you really like. Plus, as a man, just being social, approachable, and outgoing is ALWAYS a good thing in life. Not just for the woman we find attractive.

[JudeJericho08]

I did think those girls were pretty but just asked basic questions so i am a bit disappointed as well as it went no where.

[Flatmanlewis]

But it didn’t go nowhere. You developed a social skill a little more. This is like a batting average…not every swing is a home run and that’s okay. That’s normal. In fact, guys who are good at approaching & talking to women know this to be an unchanging and eternal fact.

[Seinna]

Yes!! I had social anxiety so I understand the pain and I would never, I repeat NEVER approach anyone, let alone a group of people if I still had it. If you still have social anxiety at your age, I'd advise partying so you drink some alcohol and talk to a lot of people then, slowly it will improve like it did for me. It was a process, but I no longer have that problem. Don't mind those girls reaction, do it for yourself not for them.

[David94358]

100% should be proud. You are going to get a shit ton of rejections, but so what. This is how you learn and get better at it.

Got to shoot your shot man.. keep at it, think of it as practice and training

[NewgodOmega]

Did you jump off a 10 level tall building to a river?
If you have done that you could be proud
Talking to girls is worth of being proud?
You got wrong education dude

[Anonymous]

I don’t approach girls anymore because of the look of disgust. Made me never want to do it again. Not worth it!!!

[MushyKiwi]

To be honest, Girls are so rude like that, I would never make a disgusted face right in front of someone, it's just curtesy.

[Opinion Owner]

@MushyKiwi And women wonder why men don’t approach them. It’s because of women like that. I’m like forget it, I rather be single.

[MushyKiwi]

Honestly! like I said, they are snakes, but not all of us are like that 🐍

[SolitarySolace]

Well you're one step closer to living under their boot. If that's what you want than good for you. If not 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Nikki1989]

Good job. It is really not that hard.

[JudeJericho08]

just couldn't take the next step.

[JosyJosy]

Very proud. You did something that most probably won't!

[BonzoInBitburg]

That's good. All it takes is a little practice

[OddBeMe]

I doubt they had looks of disgust. Prob more confusion about the guy who approached them and said nothing.

You need to get out of your own way.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Good job!!! 👏🏼

[RossyBoi]

Can't women hang out in public without being harassed by men?

[KrakenAttackin]

You can still chalk it up as a win. Keep trying.

[Dongie]

You are a champ.
Be happy but don't let it go to your head.

[OtterMan68]

Yes little steps