Added a picture of our conversation, is this normal? He wanted to tag me in a Facebook post. I said yes but was abit hesitant as I like to stay hidden.
No that is not normal. Not for a boss. Your question creeped me out even before seeing the conversation. "My boss keep going with the love hearts?" Is an inherently creepy sentence. Because that shouldn't ever be a position anyone finds themselves in.
This is inappropriate. I urge you to re-establish your boundaries. He should know this already, but this is not an appropriate way to be with anyone you have power over. Feeling pressured to accept a facebook tag, is an example of exactly why it's not something people are ok with (it's not right, or professional, or acceptable).
You should be able to work at your job, without feeling pressured to do things for a boss who has power over you... when it comes to anything romantic/sexual.
It's fucked up to blur those lines, because of cases exactly like yours. When it's not mutual.
It's ok to call him out, tell him that you are uncomfortable (and be specific in telling him what exactly you're uncomfortable with. This guy clearly doesn't get it. You'll need to explain it to him like a guy who has trouble getting it. Just be clear about what behavior exactly you are talking about. You should. I hope you do.
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Ok. Here’s my honest assessment. For some that may not be normal. Like me. But for someone like him, it could be. I don’t know. Maybe he’s more feminine. Maybe his take on what it mean doesn’t mean the same to you. So the heart is interpreted differently from you compared to him or someone else. Maybe he’s just delighted you said ok. The other thing is society has feminized men so much that things like this could be seen as “normal.” A lot of women wanted men who were in touch w their emotions, emotional, etc. But then they got what they asked for now they don’t like it. I’ve seen young men walking around w backpacks that to me only women would carry, but it seems to be around a lot so again that may just be how he is. Maybe he likes you as more than a co-worker. That could also be the case. I don’t see it but it’s possible he does. So there’s all sorts of potential reasons why he uses the heart emoji.
Tell him the way you are communicating with me with the hearts, i don't find very proffesional i would appreciate it if you could approach me in a proffesional way.
Tell him your not appreciating the ❤️ hearts. You can say you find it a bit inappropriate it's as simple as that. He obviously wants more from you then you just being his employee
It’s normal he could just be a nice guy BUT do keep an eye out, if your gut is saying it may not be normal or he could have weird intentions and that’s why he’s being nice then make start setting a boundary… some boss’s get a power trip and think they can do weird stuff.
If he hasn't said or done anything inappropriate then don't worry about it. He's probably just trying to be cute or some shit like that. Maybe because you look like an evil queen or the head villain's girlfriend in a movie
Are you important? sorry didn’t notice. Seemed like you are irrelevant actually and bored trying to get me to say something to make ME look bad. I hate some humans. Pointless.
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