Do you love or hate when friends act as your wingman or wingwoman?

[Anonymous]

Whether they ask to be your wingman/woman or not, do you love or hate it when they try to hook you up with someone? Is it annoying and unwanted or do you appreciate their efforts even if they don't turn out that well?

[jennifer_bloom]

My friends have never been instrumental in me dating any guy because they have no idea what I look for, or what I can attract. I have had a few friends try to set me up with people and I led to annoyance because I thought they were choosing guys that were beneath me.

[Asker]

That is the worst!!! I feel like some people have literally no business trying to hook anyone up because clearly just don't know you. I was introduced to someone so incredibly awful once, that I literally couldn't even suppress me saying wtf out loud in the moment when they were like, so this guy...

[Lilas]

I try to appreciate it, even when it wasn’t a good match…



But sometimes it’s truly upsetting for example a couple of years ago a group of friends introduced a new Friend and it was clear that he liked me but I didn’t feel the same way he wasn’t my type and has a major no for me, everyone was aware of this told one of the girls to stop “shipping” as she knows why, so she said fine we’ll stop, I even brought it up in a conversation that *specific thing* is a huge no for me to let him know, before he gets invested… but apparently our friends where trying hard to help him win me that they feed his emotions and set us on a date that I believed was a group hangout, We’d a nice time, but had to cut it short; I made it clear what it was, eventually the entire friends group drifted apart partly because of this….

[Zack-Bann]

Absolutely love it


Not because I need the help but because it’s fun to do.


I do it “for the love of the game” basically.


That being said the worst thing is when your friend is a shitty wingman and ends up making things harder for you


I was once with this guy at a party and I began chatting with a lovely young woman.
He goes it to talk to her friend.
Turns out it’s her aunt who’s like 70 years old.
He scares the aunt so she takes her niece and leaves.
Example of bad winging

[HawkPerception]

I've had friends ask if I'm okay with them hooking me up with someone in the past, but now they're well aware I'm not the type that wants to be hooked up. If I get a partner, it'll be on my own.

[DishLady]

Depends who it is. Some are good wingmen and some are awful cockblocking agents of doom. 😂

[Asker]

My best friend is sort of the latter. Five of the people she introduced me to, she ended up dating. At least she skipped the awful part and at least asked me if it was cool that I didn't want them, so she took them.

[DishLady]

My gosh! That’s such a weirdo. You’re sure she’s a friend? Sounds like she’s a predatory poacher. I had a “friend” like that. Caused me quite a bit of grief and I had to let a guy go bc she was too insane/obsessed with him.

[DishLady]

I also have two guy friends who peach each other’s gals. I don't know why.

[Summeroflove]

If it’s unsolicited I don’t like if. But if I asked

[MisterWack]

When you have a friend who’d stick by you no matter what and be willing to hype you up, support you, and be first one up to assist you then you are pretty lucky to have their friendship.

Wingmen (or wingwomen) sound nice.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

If they know me well enough to know that all I want them to do is get the jealous friend away then yes. If they're gonna non subtally talk me up and make the girl I'm trying to talk to uncomfortable then no.

[Asker]

Yeah, that's kind of messed up when you are the normal one and the wingman/woman is the weirdo. Like, they do NOT represent me or what I'm about, k

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Well I'm a weirdo too so you can imagine how much more difficult it can make things.

[Yannishka]

It really depends on what friend is doing the winging. Some know you and what type of person you're attracted to while others bring in disasters like a cat does a live rat into the house.

[OneViewpoint]

My friends have all had the talk. Male or female. If there is any attempt to fix me up with any woman, there will be unpleasant repercussions. My choice. My timing. Do not assume your friend is "perfect" for me.

[Purpleronnie]

Nah , generally don’t like it if it’s planned. The spontaneous situations where friends have brought me in to early conversations is fine otherwise it makes me feel just.. “ick”

[DonaldDarko]

I wouldn't want that as I don't get involved with women. I can see where someone might think he was helping me but he would not be.

[RavVid]

It is quite instructive with a wing woman. Wouldn't have picked up on subtle signs that she did.

[BonzoInBitburg]

For a guy, wingwomen are 1000% better than wingmen. I loved it.

[MrChinaski]

Sure. Maybe bring your mom on your dates while you are at it. Adulting.

[NerdGuy89]

I’ve had people offer this but when I’ve asked them to go out and help they always have an excuse not to

[AngryCarl2]

Wingwomen and wingmen are worse than useless.

[beefcakebradybatson]

I wouldn't need a wing man with my golden glamour boy good looks.

[robocop666]

I had a friend who went home when he saw me talking to women even if it was going well. he is not my friend now.

[Anonymous]

They don't and know that doing so would be the end of the friendship

[Iron_Man]

Who doesn’t like support and brotherhood

[LiamJHayden]

Indifferent. I am fine flying solo.

[Anonymous]

Nah, not a problem for me at all.

[Anonymous]

Are there wingwoman?