My girlfriend touches me a lot in public?

[junyvazquez]

I love when she touches so much in private. But yesterday we were walking around at a mall and she was always touching me. Doing things like putting her arm around my lower back, poking me, hugging me from behind, interlocking arms with me, and she wanted to constantly hold hands when we walk. I enjoy it a lot but at the same time I feel a little embarrassed because of all the people looking. Is that wrong? Guys, would you feel the same way. At one time, she gave one of those hugs from behind and some people stared and she said "they acting like they never seen a girl with her boyfriend." She is 18 and turning 19 in September and this is her first relationship. I'm 25. Am I wrong for feeling this? Why does she do it?

[Hidden_P]

You clearly have some issues with public displays of affection.

Personally, I do the same, I'm just playful and expressive. I'm not about to jump on him and become inappropriate, I just let him know that he is different. I'm not going around touching everyone, just him.

Just like you he doesn't like people judging him. He doesn't like his friends or my friends seeing which is fair enough... don't make anyone uncomfortable. I'm totally fine with giving each other space around friends and family.

But if you are having a problem with her doing it around people you don't know... why? Why are you embarrassed? That you have a loving girl trying to have a good time with you? You're right, that's a sh*tter.

Oh and she does it because she's affectionate towards you.

[junyvazquez]

You're right, thanks for opening my eyes. I have always been a shy person that get's embarrassed easy. I have a problem with public speaking and caring too much about what people think. Maybe that carried over into this since people staring at us made me feel uncomfortable. Ill work on it.

[Hidden_P]

I wasn't trying to be offensive by the way, I was angry when I wrote that but I'm glad it helped. As I say, my partner is very shy as well, I don't mind trying to help from my situation because I do understand. It's not something you can change overnight. By all means tell her, but don't make it feel like it's a fault of hers. She is just trying to tell you you're different and she cares. When people stare they're normally jealous.

[Hidden_P]

Also, I'm not into people openly snogging. A kiss hello/goodbye or even a loving, (lol this is special to me) "oh you're so retarded sweetie" kiss is fine. People just snogging is not cool. From the sounds of it she's quite like me in terms of PDA

[relationshipDNA]

People express their love in many ways. I personally don't ever do PDA, and I would feel funny about it if the guy I was with was into it, but that comes from me not growing up in an environment where that happened. I never saw outward affection shown in my house, so I've never been comfortable with the idea.

You girlfriend on the other hand is very comfortable with the idea, and while I'm inclined to say, it's perfectly fine, sometimes trying to show too much affection is because that's the only way she knows "how" to show affection...but again...doesn't mean it's bad.

Just means its her way. So you can tell her to calm it down...or you can say, "f" it...Let them stare.

[junyvazquez]

I'm going to work on not caring if people stare.

[jesshkah]

I think she's just super touchy. *shrugs* some people are like that. There isn't always a reason behind it, I usually like PDA but some people dont. It's nothing to feel bad about, one of my guys held my hand more that even I was used to lol and that was a bit weird but I got used to it. Physical touch is just a sign of affection, and since you're her first boyfriend, it's exciting, and maybe she even wants to show off a bit. But if it makes you uncomfortable, just try talking to her about it. She might be a little hurt, but it's better to get it out in the open that communicate.

You can try taking a love languages test by the way, she might be scoring really high in physical touch. (its just something that tells you what you use to show love in relationships, and its different for everyone.) link

[youllthinkofme]

It's not WRONG but I don't wunderstand why it bothers you. It just means she really likes you and wants to be with you. Holding hands is nice, I think. And if I saw you two I'd think "aww how cute, wish I was with someone right now." I have these two friends who have been dating for a couple of months, and they are always touching. No matter what, it's like they'll burn up and die if thy aren't touching in some way. It's cute in my opinion. So tell people staring to f*** off, and ind their own girlfriends lol.

[junyvazquez]

It doesn't "bother" me. I just felt uncomfortable about the people staring. But yea, I going to work on not caring about that.

[Anonymous]

You have to be less insecure about what people think. The things you mentioned are minor compared to some stuff you see. People may take a glance but honestly they don't really care that she is hugging you or holding your hand. There are way bigger things.

If there is a specific thing that she does that really makes you uncomfortable than tell her about that specific thing.

Your also more mature than her with a 6 year age difference. So that factors in to.

[enlightened]

well, she has no issues with pda. that is why. tell you concern to her. but use a very light and cheerful tone. if you get all serious about this she might get pissed. you never know

[AllDay]

I'm kinda jealous lol

[junyvazquez]

Ok, that made me feel better lol