How do I know if she wants me to ask for her number/out?

[metaldave20]

there's a girl in my class, that I sort of have been flirting with, but I dk she's just different, not in a bad way, I just dk, if she wants me to ask for her number or not?

what would be a sign, shed want me to?

[neberle]

If she push's her hair back scratches her elbow or wrist she is interested if she asks you abotu friends or your name she is interested if she asks if your single she is very interested. If you get any of these indicators ask for a email which is low risk she can always ignore your message and is unlikely to say no then while she is writing tell her to write down her phone number to. It's never failed me.

I prefer a date though when she looks really bored in class and wants to be anywhere but there send her a note inviting her to a party. with a write answer on back that should do the trick.

[authentic]

The golden rule for dating is to start with friendship. Treat her as a potential friend. If you can't even establish friendship, and you are thinking of intimacy already, then what difference is there between you and those who "use" prostitutes except you don't intend to pay ? I don't think any girl, unless she is a prostitute herself, wants to be treated as one. Friendship comes first, it is the backbone of all fulfilling, long lasting intimate relationship.

[metaldave20]

True...but then you have fear of being put in the "friend zone" sometimes you just need to make your intentions clear right away/no games... if they like you, theyll say it as well

[authentic]

If it she choose to stay as a friend and take the relationship no further, respect her choice. You have one more friend on this planet if that's the case. If she finds you sexually attractive later on, you will know by the way she looks at you, leaning closer to you, ...etc. Honor her right to choose.

[metaldave20]

I guess, haha

[authentic]

You are also right that you need to set your intentions clear. In this case, you can always set the intention, "I want to make friend with XYZ, and upon finding we have much in common (interests) that makes a good friendship, I am open to courtship with XYZ".

[metaldave20]

Exactly

[living_life]

us girls lol. It doesn't matter who asks for our number ( unless if its a creepy 60 year old guy), we always do get flattered, knowing that somebody is trying his best or at least give an effort to reach out and start something. We may not know if that girl in your class is really interested in you but if you don't do anything, we may never figure it out too. As the saying goes, there is no harm in trying :) Go boy get it done before its too late:p

[icecreamlover]

i think you should ask her for her # to get the sign if she likes you or not...u have to see her reaction and if she seems happy you asked and gives it to you right away it means she's into you...

girls want guys to be confident and be fwd with them, grls traditionally don't wanna make the frst move, even though some do...but man girls like me are shy, and we expect guys to do the major stuff, and we can lightly hint to you we want you lol

[metaldave20]

Guys are more straightforward about what they feel, girls leave hints, its harder for us to pick up on those, ya know?

i know there's the flirting stuff, but to tell that a girl really likes you, is hard to tell

[cheerangelcharity]

If guys are more straightforward then how come many - such as yourself - are too scared to make the moves? not trying to criticize but it just seems a bit contradictory.

[metaldave20]

Like I said- rejection

we may be straightforward, but we still have that feeling of rejection

[burgandie10]

One day, casually ask her if she wants to hang out sometime and get her number. Then you two can go out with a group of friends minigolfing or to the movies or something, and that way it won't be awkward with everyone else there.

And you can get to know each other better on a more personal level. And get to see if she is really the girl you think she is.

[cheerangelcharity]

like sweetmisery said don't wait for signs just ask her for at least her number already!

oh guys these days...

[metaldave20]

Well, look at my answer to her, haha, guys have rules, you know

[cheerangelcharity]

Ya I read that after I wrote my answer, but you aren't even positive that your friend likes her and I don't think simply asking for her number would ruin a friendship. I wish more guys, especially ones who act like they like me and I'm somewhat interested in, would ask for my number...

[metaldave20]

Most guys dont, because of rejection, just remember that

[cheerangelcharity]

Yep I got that, which is why I wrote "oh guys these days..." :(

though it probably was never easy for guys to deal with females they're attracted to.

[metaldave20]

Exactly

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I would just ask her to hang out casually so you can test her out while you are hanging out...it's kinda hard to get signals when you are in class and the short time before/after. In response to what you said about that other guy liking her, guy code dictates that if he has stated he likes her then you back off...and if he hasn't explicitly told you he likes her then go for it it's not against the code. Also, code only really applies to guys who you are actually friends with, not just someone who you talk to in class.

[thatplayer89]

she smiles when you talk

laughs at things you say

brings her body in when you talk

her eyes pupils get bigger when you talk to her..

just read her body language this is a old topic... so mybad

[metaldave20]

I MIGHT see her again this coming summer or fall, and I'm gonna try do to that, the real test is if she recognizes me, if she doesnt, then there's no point

so yeah, its not an old question, just needed an update

[JayTyme]

well a way of know ing is if she flirts with you back cause it shows she is interested in you as well

[metaldave20]

Well that would be the obvious answer, but I mean, what certain signs etc...? would she show

[Adidas12]

If she seems different, then she probably doesn't want to go out with anyone. But don't worry, when she does, she will come to you, as it seems she is interested.

[sweetmisery14]

why don't you just do it instead of thinking about it so much.

[metaldave20]

Cause, I think the other guy in the class likes her as well, in guy world when a guy likes a girl, and the guys are friends (which we are, the other backs off), its just how us guys roll

[Vyxzuw]

But if you are flirting with her then you aren't backing off.

So, either back off and move on or ask for her number...

If it makes you feel better than tell your friend you are going to ask her out. (If you want, give him the chance to ask her out first.)

Otherwise you're just making excuses.

[metaldave20]

I guess, well and like I said, I don't actually know if he likes her, I'm only assuming he does

[sweetmisery14]

Oh my gosh you're not asking her out. stop being such a wimp and just ask for her number. just cause you do that doesn't mean you automatically have the hots for her. asking for people's numbers is not a big move, people do it all the time and in cases where they're not even in it for attraction.

[thatoneguy]

you don't know ou just gotta man up and ask worst comes to worst she says no and there is no sign you just have to ask that is if you like her

[Shiner4]

there really is no sign for that. ask her for her number

[metaldave20]

Ok

[lizlovelyxo]

Just go for it, sign or no sign.

You've got nothing to lose & everything to gain :)

[username13]

pass her your phone, say "put your number in, we'll catch up sometime" walk off.

[Anonymous]

um..i dontk now, its hard to tell. just ask her, I'm sure it'll be fine and ease your worries :)

[metaldave20]

Ok

[daringchick2229]

Just keep flirting! and eventually ask her if she wanted to hang at the local "whatever" if she says sorry no move on there's a whole babe pool!