Hello,
Ok your not going to like this at all but you need to listen, I understand you like this girl BUT that's not the problem, its that SHE DOESNT LIKE YOU ANYMORE.. remember that and remind yourself of that fact..
The problem for you is you got lazy with this girl, you stopped making an effort with her and all you did was "Hang Out", there is no quicker way to kill romance and affection that spending to much time with each other..
So what do you do now.. well you walk away, its that simple, she's not interested in you and remember its the fact you spent TO MUCH TIME WITH HER that caused the problem.. so you walk away and DONT contact her and I mean AT ALL..
Now here's the hard part.. when she calls you.. ahem ..let me rephrase... IF she calls you and she asks you out you need to say this to her..
"Hey, yea I'm good. listen I can't talk long my dates here, but we should catch up some time.. bye"
and that's it, don't call her again and ignore her efforts to contact you.. WHY I hear you scream.. well becouse you have a situation with this girl where you will always be second guesing each other and this does not a healthy relationship make..
So learn from this brother, learn well..
Good Luck
-Chris
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OK I went through the exact same thing except my ex broke up with me. So you need to be careful of your next steps.
The reason that we broke up is that she doesn't like me anymore. She still cares a lot, like she loves me, but she is not in love with me. The events leading up to that was the same as yours. She doesn't put in the effort to hang out, saying that she is always too tired, etc...
So my advice is similar to Elcristoph. Hang back. Give her some room. Let her think it over. Give her space to MISS you. Find some activities to do while you are going through this rough patch. Don't make yourself too available, because then she would just take you for granted and see you more as a friend. Put the tension back in the relationship.
When you do see her again, don't always go back doing the same thing. Go do something exciting and different. But do keep it short and leave it for a while after the date. Let her think about how much fun it is to be with you.
Hope this helps.
Hmm, it sounds like she might want some more attention from you in public? I've heard a similar story before and it turned out the girl was just feeling like 'one of the guys' because her boyfriend didn't give her enough credit as his girlfriend in public. She may just want to be 'shown off' so that everyone can tell you two are together. It varies with the person, but maybe try being more affectionate towards her in public such as holding her hand, hugging her, putting your arm around her, ect. Hope this helped!
Sorry, but that has to come from her. Sounds like she likes you and wishes that romance was in the air, but it isn't.
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