What do girls find a "too fast" flirting and "too slow" flirting?

[jmoo1710]

So I usually make the same mistake with girls I like, either I go too fast or too slow. So I want to know what girls in general (if there is any general point about this) think is too fast and too slow when a guy who obviously likes them approaches. Like for example, if we go out on a date, next week we talk a lot, the next week I grab her hand and stuff. Is that too fast, or in any case when would it be too late to try to grab her hand or just make her fill like there is something else?

[Anonymous]

Too Fast:

Kissing her, kissing her "Ass" like sucking up to her << don't do it, talking about the future, talking about your feelings for her, getting physical.

Let's say you start to hang out, see her body language. Watch what she does, make eye contact, smile, when you both start to walk if her hand brushes against yours accidentally or intentionally grab it with yours, and inter lock fingers, then place your hand on her back as you let her step in front of you. You are breaking the touch barrier and making sure to take things at a steady pace, at a pace that she feels right. You are showing subtle signs that you respect and care for her.. once those are set you can take things further. Make flirty comments..but add humor to it as well.

If the first date or when you hung out went well.. say "we should do this again sometime, I enjoy your company.." and smile. Then hug her with a nice grip.. don't expect a kiss. She may or may not, I usually don't kiss on the first date but it depends.

[Temporary46]

Guy came up to me OUT of the BLUE and asked me to go on an international trip with him after he broke up with my friend. TOO FAST and TOO MUCH that was like a rebound thing.

Grab hands, I think that's not too fast if the girl likes you. I don't know.

I would think Whoa, he wants to grab my hand. But I would think "okay that feels nice"

You did say hand and not arse right?

I don't know. When I feel it, I'm telling you I FEEL IT from the VERY START.

There isn't usually anything in between of I don't feel it now but I might feel it later.

[jmoo1710]

ok.. yeha I understand but the hand thing was just an example haha... but some girls might just be nice not necessarily like a guy just yet...

[Yeahhbro]

good question.

It is a good idea to build raptor first with a girl before flirting with her, when you feel that the girl trustes you, you can move to do the flirting part. If you do the raptoring well, you will find that she will be attracted to you instantly because she will be attracted to you as a person for who you are and the things you do and say. Then the flirting after it is just building on the momentum that you build with raptoring.

[Prof_Don]

I wouldn't have too much of a strict handbook-type approach to this; do what feels natural based on how you feel and how the vibe is with her.

There are girls I literally had sex with a week after meeting her.

There are girls I didn't kiss for a week or two.

It's all based on her vibes and how I feel.

Don't force anything. :)