I find a girl very attractive, should I approach her?

[Anonymous]

Hey guys I need help pretty fast. I like a girl in my college she is got a nice and athletic body and good enough face. I don't know if I should approach or not.

I'm a guy between 5'6 and 5'7. I have a good body as well, abs, broad shoulders, big arms and also defined jawline, good eyes. But I'm brown and little less than average height. I've heard most of the attractive girls won't settle for a short guy and I will get insta rejected.

This makes my self esteem go even down. And the chances of getting accepted looks very thin.
What would you recommend me for this?

And also should I try to make her my friend first or flirt. Making her my friend looks pretty reasonable but I feel if I try too much I'm gonna get rejected and it's gonna be over.

[Luggit]

I'm 5'6" myself (sort of short), and you should've seen some of the babes I've attracted. It's not about your height like some of them women claim, it's about the charming and humorous personality that attracts them every time. Online I get nobody, because they can't see the personality like face to face. Dude, I say go for it if you think you have it in ya!

[Asker]

Thank you

[AlwaysBelieving]

I say go for it. Life is too short and you want to minimize your regrets before your time is up (take it from a guy who's had a heart attack at 39... my BMI is 24 and I'm 5'4").

If she rejects you, it's her loss. Yes it will suck in the moment. Just don't dwell on the moment. At least you took the shot.

Do you know anything about this girl other than "she's attractive"?

[Asker]

Yes, she talks good as well. Her personality looks great. I have been with her in small conversations but haven't talked a lot.

[AlwaysBelieving]

Have you two flirted at all?

[Asker]

No, I'm scared, I fear I will be called a creep. I don't know, I never had the experience of flirting.

[AlwaysBelieving]

You sound like me when I was your age. I didn't think I was flirting, just being a human being by listening and being truly interested in what the other person has to say. If it was, so be it.

[Asker]

My only problem is the fear of others judging me.

[AlwaysBelieving]

Been there, done that. It'll only create anxiety down the road. Just see what she says when you try to hold her hand / brush her shoulder.

[Asker]

Hold her hand? It's gonna be harassment.

[AlwaysBelieving]

Oh dear word. Not this again.

[Asker]

What

[CindyRuns]

My recommendation... approach her... and ask her out !!!

If she says no, not much lost, if she says yes, you have an opportunity to have her as your girlfriend.

What have you got to lose?

[Asker]

I fear rejection 😞.

[CindyRuns]

Think...

What's gonna happen if she rejects you... Your ego will be hurt for perhaps a few hours.

On the other hand, you may end up with a wonderful girl friend if she accepts you !!!

Odds are in favor of "Just Do It"

[Asker]

Yeah. But I don't know it just feels bad if the first thing happens. Have to take the risk though.

[Anonymous]

I'm 5'7 and I love my height. All kinds of women find me attractive and I was approached a few weeks back. In your case, sure you could approach, you could flirt and you could date... but you are much better off focusing on your studies, life purpose, fitness and finance. When you've got that down and are a little older, that is the best time to worry about women. In short, the energy you expend on that girl will not do you any good at all, it fails the cost-to-benefit. But everything else I mentioned will be the best investment you could ever make. Young men wasting their time chasing women is encouraged for a reason... they fear your true power potential!

[IHateBeingaMan]

well ya, if a guy wants her, there is no other way sadly

[In_Trance]

no, you should sit back and contemplate what could become for the next few weeks