"Celebrity crush" double standard between guys and girls?

[theawesomeguy]

Say you have two people, a guy and a girl who are dating. One day they are watching TV together and Andrew Garfield(aka Spiderman) shows up on the screen, and the girl says "Oh my god, Andrew Garfield is so hot, I would totally bang him and have his babies!" This is deemed "okay" by the girl and her friends.

Then later on, Kate Upton shows up on the screen and the guy says "Oh my god, Kate Upton is so hot! I would totally bang her and have her babies!" The girl and her friends get mad about it and label him a pervert.

What's up with this, how is it any different between guys and girls? How come girls can say that another person is attractive and its okay, but when a guy says it then it's not okay?

Yes, I got this from a rage comic. link

[Belgie]

Usually it's because girls do have celebrity crushes, like Johnny Depp or whatever, where the odds of them ever meeting the guy are trillions to one against. It's a fantasy, like being a Disney princess or something.

The guy might go "Ohh yeah, Kate Upton, big t*ts, I would go to town on those" but the thing is, he's not fantasising about Kate. He's fantasising about the Big Tits.

Guys don't have the same sort of celebrity crush as girls do. We fantasise more about the body than the celeb. Or the body type. Or the parts.

And those are a LOT easier to get a hold of, than a particular celeb. So a guys fantasy is more threatening to a girl (at least in her mind).

I got a good example of this recently, when I was talking about how I'd love to do damage to Pippa Middleton's arse. (Again, body part, not girl) And a girl in the room pointed out a picture a few minutes later. It was Pippa (from the front) and I swear, I didn't even recognise her face.

It was like proof, saying my "celeb" crush wasn't a celeb crush, it was a body part crush. I want to f*** a heart shaped tight white ass. The identity of the girl is irrelevant.

And the odds of me getting a heart shaped tight white ass are a lot better than my girlfriends chances of getting Johnny Depp.

[Phoenix1991]

I think its a matter of the fact that women never truly understand what they want, so they just speak very freely without the consequences.

It used to be a man's world but its more of a woman's world, quoting someone "Men have nice cars because Women like nice cars, IF a man could f*** in a cardboard box, he wouldn't buy a house."

Women have more jealous emotions than men, Men don't have the same ideals and emotions, So just like you stated, IF a girl said that then the guy said the same thing, Women get upset because they doubt themselves but expect you to confirm her insecurities.

This became the traditional norm because Us men allowed it to happened, If we stopped women from stating their celebrity crushes so easily and out in the open, it won't have the effect it does now.

[Anonymous]

It's always been the opposite for me. I'm completely open about my celebrity crushes and I don't mind guys being open about their crushes either, it doesn't make them a pervert and I don't get jealous. But when I would mention MY celebrity crushes, some guys would bite my head off. It's happened many times. I never understood it either, and it's a sign (to me) of how irrational their jealousy will be as the relationship progresses. A bad sign.

[Anonymous]

It is kind of true, and it's usually deemed OK for girls to do it because they're only half-serious. Women aren't as visual as men, and the stereotype is that we're also less likely to cheat. In other words, it's mostly "all talk" that we'd never follow through on. With guy, because they are so visual and stereotypically more likely to cheat, it seems very serious. Something he'd follow through on if given the opportunity.

[theawesomeguy]

Understandable, but usually we're only half serious about these things too. I'm single myself, so I probably would bang Kate Upton given the chance, but I'm well aware that I'll probably never get to meet her, let alone impress her enough to get her into bed :P.

[Opinion Owner]

That's sort of the point though why there is a difference. A lot of us girls probably could have sex with those guys if we met him in person (given he were single), since guys aren't as picky about that sort of thing. You guys are very unlikely to sleep with those girls unless you're gorgeous and/or rich and famous. We don't want to feel "settled for' or like the only reason you wouldn't cheat is because you couldn't impress her enough. We want to know you chose us over her intentionally.

[madhatters4]

glad you said "stereotypically more likely to cheat"... I think that is a very important qualification

[theawesomeguy]

You have a point there. Just going to say I've never been in a serious relationship, but if I was then I'd be in it because I want to be with the girl I'm with, not because I'm just "settling" for her. If I was just settling for something, it would be FWB and I would make that clear from the start. I personally don't think there's anything wrong with finding other people attractive, it's only if you actually do something then it's where I draw the line.

[katkaintkwit]

not me lol if I can say I wanna f*** Tom hanks... you can say you wanna f*** Adrianna whatever her last name is and stuff. I mean well never meet these people lol but if. he said something like. I'd slay that sexy dragon at the Ihop down the street I'd be like -_-

[blahblahnose]

In contrast to what Belgie said guys do form emotional as well as physical celebrity crushes - well I have anyway. But it's rarer, or at least less often admitted, for three reasons:

1) Men are expected to take action when they're attracted to someone so aren't likely to admit to passively obsessing, which celebrity crushes inevitably are.
2) Obsessing over someone so much richer and more successful than you is seen as emasculating for a man.
3) Dangerous stalkers are usually perceived to be men.

[blahblahnose]

I answered from the point of view of a single guy admitting his celebrity crushes and being thought of as a weird loser. Now I read the article its more about a guy admitted his celebrity crush to his girlfriend and her seeing it as a threat. That's a whole different kettle of fish.

[martyfellow]

Girls, especially ina group, will always look for reasons to criticize guys these days. It's a feminist mob mentality.

Guys are less inclined to do this in a group; actually, we'd be more likely to criticize her if we were one-on-one.

This is because guys don't have the fascist tendencies of modern US girls.

[Anonymous]

Women are full of double standards. Men are have double standards as well, but at least we admit that it goes on. Women tend to act, like only men have double standards, and justify what they do, because of the double standards that men have. As if two wrongs make a right. There is also a lot of sexism against men, that causes society to view men as perverts, no matter what we do.

[madhatters4]

in your case that is a double standard no doubt.

for the record though I don't know that this double standard applies across the board.

[NerdyAnon]

I never really thought about it. You're right, there is a double standard in play here.

[Anonymous]

I've noticed that as well haha.