Are you polite to waiters?

[Smashingdoozy]

Yes

No

[WhiteSteve]

Always. I’m in the US, so we have the tipping system here, and I SWEAR something goes off in some people’s heads where they just automatically have disdain for the server, like they’re judging them and scoring their service so as to justify to themselves leaving a lower tip…which is usually a matter of five bucks or less, so just lmfao at that cheapskate shit. I used to manage a restaurant/bar and I was astounded at some of the conversations I overheard regarding this sort of thing. Dude…. it’s 20%. 18% if you really want to nickel-and-dime it. Bottom out at 15% if they were atrocious but stopped short of deliberately disrespecting you. Honestly, if you’re hemming-and-hawing over this small amount of money, you probably are on too tight of a budget to be going out for sit-down table service. I don’t know, I just find it cringey as hell.

But even in non-tipping situations, I can’t imagine being anything but respectful and grateful. They’re servERS, not servANTS. I suppose that goes for anyone doing a job, but waitstaff especially. I had to fill in for a server who had called out once, just at lunchtime on like a Tuesday, lmao, and managing more than one table wasn’t as easy as you might assume. Trying to be everywhere for everyone, but also trying not to be annoyingly over-attentive…there’s definitely a balance you have to strike. I always want to be as helpful as possible to them. Have an organized order ready for them to take, be understanding that they’re juggling many tables at a time and may not be at my immediate beck and call and any given moment, and for fuck sake, is it that hard to stack the plates in a sensible, balanced way so they can easily pick up the stack? I have a friend who makes a lot of money and loves going to fancy restaurants, and I feel like he gets off on the power dynamic. He’s not necessarily rude, but he just loves being served, I can tell. If you are the bowl of clam chowder and didn’t love it, and they ask how it was, just say it was fine. Don’t be like “meh…”, what the fuck is the server supposed to do? They don’t need your critique of the chef, that question means “yo, there wasn’t like a fly or a stray hair in there or anything, right?” I feel like that’s the extent of quality control the server is responsible for, not guaranteeing that you’ll like the recipe. Some people truly think you’re entitled to your money back just because you didn’t care for the food, even if nothing was wrong with it, and that’s just not how it works. You cheap fucks, lmfao.

Anyway, this turned into a rant, lmao, but in short, yes, I’m always polite to waiters and waitresses, over the top.

[nightdrot]

Absolutely. In fact, I will try to kibbitz with a waiter or waitress and - in any case - "please" and "thank you" were terms I was raised to use.

Besides, it is not only the right thing to do to be polite, it can work to my advantage. More than once I have had a waiter or waitress give me a bonus in the form of a little extra food or a mark down in prices and when I expressed appreciation, the waiter or waitress would say something to the effect, "Oh, not at all. You (and your family) are so nice."

Bottom line, as someone once said, "Life is not so short that there is not time for courtesy." That is always true and certainly true when someone is working to give you a pleasant meal.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Of course. That’s not even a question.

I think even asking this is rude.

Who am I to feel entitled to disrespect anyone?

Especially someone who’s doing her job?

There only one answer to this question is -

Yes, I am polite and smiling to waiters, the same way I am polite to lawyers, teachers, judges, janitors, doctors, shopkeepers, security workers and just about anyone who I come across in daily life.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Asking this question even is very snobbish in my opinion, because it leaves a space to make a choice, as if anyone’s allowed to say NO.

I once rejected a guy because he was rude to the security worker who was just doing his job.

Nope, boy, just because you are spoiled with your daddy’s money doesn’t mean you are somehow allowed to disrespect anyone.

And I find this behavior unforgivable.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

Yeah. I also make sure I sit at the front so they can hear me better when they take my order since I'm soft-spoken.

[ArrowheadSW]

Yes I am polite to waiters and waitresses. It is difficult working with people sometimes so I don't want to make their job any more difficult than it already is. I was on a date earlier this year and the lady called the waitress back 3 times to change her order. I told her that they'll get it wrong because what she did was confusing. Sure enough they got it wrong and she sent it back. I think she should have just taken it because she confused them. It wasn't a big enough deal to send it back anyway.

[Drewtate]

1. People don't deserve to be abused or in insulted in the course of doing their job.

2. They do a bad job no tip or won't go back

3. I don't want my food interfered with

4. It reveals to the world what a shitty person you are.

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

We are both kind to our servers on the occasion that we go out to eat. Our kids are starting to be patient and try to make our whole restaurant experience improved as well :-). There's no reason to be a jerk to someone who is doing their best to coordinate what you want with the kitchen full of cooks. Kindness wins

[Andres77]

Yes, always. I know they have to deal with shyt customers occasionally and I want their experience with me to be memorable and pleasant. If they don’t suck then 20% is the minimum. If they make the extra effort it will be rewarded. I’m not rich but I’m generous.

[Andres77]

I taught my kids to clean up the table after we eat because we’re not pigs and they don’t deserve to have to clean up our slop. So we stack the plates and position everything close to the edge in order to make it easier for them to bus the table, or whoever does it. Try to be memorable in a good way.

[petitedollbabee]

I’m polite to any and all food workers, unless they’re rude to me. I know that working in hospitality suuuucks, so I never want to add more stress to their day.

[MrOracle]

I used to be one, decades ago, so, of course I am. It's a difficult and often thankless job. I am nice to all service workers unless they give me a reason not to be, and that's pretty rare in my experience.

[jshm2]

It's a job, like any other job.

Give them time and space to do their work, they don't need "politeness," it doesn't pay their bills. Be decent and, unless they are an asshole, let them get on with it.

[provokeesmokee]

Having worked retail and service, yes. Unless they're unbearably rude to me first. Then I leave a single penny (no longer legal tender in my country) as tip.

[FreyaRed]

Yes. I have to deal with 'customers' too and I know it's difficult to upkeep professionalism if the customer behaves irrationally or aggressive.

[Billlewis]

Always, because if you're not, you never know what they might do to your food before they bring it out.

[Unit1]

Of course. They are basically enslaved humans and making below the average rent prices after tax. Least I can do is not being another pain in their ass and tip what I can spare.

[Nikki1989]

I’m polite to all people till I have a good reason not to be.

[Anonymous]

Yes of course there, you should be polite to them they are just trying to do there job. Plus well a key rule is never piss people off who handle your food.

I possibly seem a bit less polite then I'd like though but that's due to how awkward I am at any form of social interaction.

[Julie4]

Of course it is, in fact not only with waiters but with everyone. But there's nothing exceptional about it - most people are like that.

[OfMiceandMen]

For sure, they take possession of your food between you and the kitchen, so not a good idea to piss your waiter off!

[catarecute]

being rude to a waiter means you are ill bread. (at least in france it does i dont know about anywhere else).

[Staximus]

I always treat restaurant staff with kindness and respect and tip well. I used to work at a restaurant. Plus you never fuck with people who are handling your food. I've had to educate a few of my idiot friends when I was younger about this

[DaveJord]

HELL YES!!! Literally, my advice is this... never bit the hand that feeds you.

[Fireguy17]

They are doing their job not your servent. I was always taught to treat others how you like to be treated.

[FellowTraveler]

I am ALWAYS polite to wait staff. a) I address them by their name b) I phrase "May I please have..." Works wonders!

[DryGermanGuy]

I would assume it's common sense to be polite to people that handle your food (!!).

[loveslongnails]

Always. I not only owned a restaurant/bar/nightclub for a while, but I dined out often. I know what it takes and what they go through on a daily basis.

[slatyb]

More than that, I greet many servers and bartenders by name. I get great service.

[Suthain]

I am someone who removes people from my life who are not polite to waiters.

[lilBigPotato]

Yes just like I'm polite to everyone else (unless they give me reason not to)

[MementoMori777]

I'm polite to everyone, unless they disrespect me I don't see a reason to be disrespectful

[MysticDevice]

Always. People rude to wait staff are the lowest form of life.

(Obviously unless the staff is exceptionally rude first)

[soe11]

Because like same social human being.

We should and must polite with them.

With respect and dignity too.

[Twalli]

Bartenders love me if I've been there before. I sit quietly and don't annoy them too much, also I leave a $20 tip (minimum) because I am usually there for several hours to watch games.

[nawtee_me]

I try to remember that they may be having a bad day and I don’t want to make it even worse. I wouldn’t want someone to do that to me if I am having a bad day.

[exitseven]

Yes, they are just trying to make a buck and it is under pretty crappy circumstances.

[Jazzy54]

Yes I am. Firstly, they’re human. Secondly, I know what it’s like to work in customer service.

[RealMarek]

Yes. My ex wasn’t. It was a red flag I should have paid attention to.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I always carry a smile just my nature

[helva]

I am, and to others that care helping me also.

[Sharkstealth]

I'm polite to everybody but hate when I get a waiter. Servers used to be all cute women but now it's mostly older women and gay men.

[wallflower_fantasy]

Well your supposed to be. They could kick you out if your rude.

[Alex-Snow]

I am... they have a tough job dealing with a bunch of pissed of customers

[Raaj4you]

Ofcourse I am ! I am polite, humble and respectful to everyone, it's my principle. Only rude people provoke me to yell at them.

[Minahh]

Yes I literally don't understand why people are rude to them like if they're rude to me or I'm not satisfied I'll never go to that restaurant again

[msc545]

I am always polite to waiters. I've worked in food delivery when I was a student and it had miserable thankless job for the most part.

[Anonymous]

yes. if they're polite to me. that goes for anyone.

[Sparkie460]

I am polite to everyone. I don't care what their job is.

[Anonymous]

Yeah but no tips ever, sorry not that rich enough to pay someone for being polite

[Anonymous]

Always. Also, it's generally a VERY bad idea to be anything but polite to someone who has access to your food before you eat it.

[Elinnnor]

I m polite to them because that's the right thing to do😂

[Guido]

Always. Thet are people doing a job that involves serving you.

[Chthou95]

Sure. Its common decency. But i don't do automatic tipping

[mandyfire98]

I'm anyways polite to waiters.

[Constatine]

Whos that 1 procent? 🤣😂

[Paris13]

Of Course and I tip Good too. xxoo

[Anonymous]

Yeah but no tips

[Christoff92]

You want respect you give respect back 😀

[bolverk]

Its basic good manners to be polite,

[Still-alive]

Of course. And i try to tip well too

[Still-alive]

lol @ the one dude who voted 'no'

[JesseP1nk]

I am polite to everyone.

[CubaPirate]

I'm polite to everyone

[ShesRad80]

always

[Simslover92]

Of course.

[TheUniqueOne96]

Yep.