teapot1985: hahah, cheers gorge :) definitely firework-esque sex. so intimate. because it isn't just physical, it's our hearts too.
dylan1989: thank you and I am very happy ot hear that :D yeh, girls are too shy but I can assure you that well, we're not all cute & shy in our minds. thus, it is really learning to take that extra step and breaking away from our ivory tower to getting prince charming to notice and save us.
miki94: you gotta be a man and just say 'i like you' feel the words when you say it. he sounds like he is just getting comfortable w you, he realized that ya a catch and a beautiful woman, likes you (cause come'on those are obvious flirting signals) just be a bit more forward. he is probably dreaming of holding hands w you. just before you go next time give him a LONGER hug (2-3 seconds longer) touch him more subtly :) and a kiss on the cheek is better than sex to em :) good luck. he is keen! xx
excel: thank you :) yeh it is a shame, but really takes a jerk to know a gem :) hang in there! she's coming!
chrsschb: thank you :D keep doing what you're doing sunshine!
curtisc83: cheers :) women are subtle, sometimes it is just a subtle double take. a smile. so flash a smile back :) you have nothing to lose but only her smile and maybe a new lady to gain :)
probabilist: thank you! emotional intelligence can be applied anywhere. human society is just a massive web of relationships :)
realdeal: I've dated a lot of the media projected confident guys - they are all emotionall weak. shy men are all emotional mountains that we can lean on. so it's not wanting what you can't get. it is getting it & then realising that it's not as advertised. it's crap but sometimes it takes a jerk for a girl to realise. the nice guy was never a back up, but the one. the prince who saves the princess from the ogre. I trust you think the same.
realdeal: I appreciate your view. it is realistic. I'm describing shy guys as men who understand emotions, part of any health relationship is the want to put another in front of oneself. when you love someone, it goes both ways :) I asked females to be active & to notice these beautiful men, not to take advantage, but to offer their unconditional love to those who deserve it. p.s. - we don't see things as they are, we see things as we are.
Okay, I'm not a shy guy but I can agree with most that you wrote. Only thing is, you are basically saying that shy guys will please you before pleasing themselves. Females like the confident guys because it's the feeling of being able to attain the unattainable. So as much as a female would like to go for a nice guy, she still wants the "asshole". The nice guy is now the back up, that she runs the way she wants. So you just made her the female version of a confident "asshole" that they hate.
Wow. I've gotta say I'm taken back by this, because it comes from a girl. I know so many "nice guys" who are really good people but girls pay no attention to them and then complain when guys screw them over... If only all women thought like you. seriously
I try to be serious but he cannot keep eye contact and talk to me without laughter. He is talking to me and walking around in a small circle going back and forth in front of me... etc. -_-
He is 20, never had a gf.
When you mentioned touch restraint I figured he might still actually be interested if this article is true. Please someone comment alongside me and clarify if he is shy or not interested, even annoyed. You gave me hope, but I need you to see my description. Thanks. =)
Belly - let it me. all saints are just past sinners - rebranded. there are more of us thank you realize - takes a girl to date and like a jerk and actually get hurt to appreciate the right men :)
talon - thank you :) haha, I fell for one. but not without reason ;)
Haha all this is awesome if the guy reciprocates when the girl finally finds the courage to tell him her feelings after all the clear signs he was giving out. he even said he didn't think I would be attracted to him but I totally am. I used to be the girl all about the challenge, now I just want commitment and stability. but oh well guess he got scared or something, who knows
Actually its funny you mention that because that was the whole point I was trying to get at in my long list of comments to your other article LOL. And that is that the stuff you said in your last article isn't applicable to men who are looking to settle down and want a woman for something serious, for the long haul. That it was, in fact, counterproductive if that was your goal.
This article is very informative . I consider myself mildly shy. No article is going to 100% describe a category of men... but this article is balanced and good. It is for women who don't want a lot of adventure ( shy guys are adventurous too but not too much ) . But I would like to warn that among shy guys there are also creeps and jerks who are immature. So while you can certainly find really really great gems among shy guys.. you need , as in any other man , gradually risk. No sudden risk.
Cheers esahc88. yeh definitely :) think women should give em a rest and accept them. you're pretty much there when you're flirting so obviously, why can't we take it to the next level by a tad :) literally one little bit of courage away from true happiness. x
Weapon - it doesn't. it is dependent on what the lady wants. this is an article just about shy men. they're different to many other men. people who want shy men are looking for a relationship. people who want 'the chase' are looking for a challenge and the thrill of a short term :) I just decided to settle down :) but thank you. x
FOR SHY MEN: Honestly, shy men don't have to do much. Your eyes, you, are already mysterious. Just listen when we yabber and HUG US LIKE NO TOMORROW. She'll melt in no time. No joke. My best friend and I are both dating shy men. All they did was reply and HUG. HUG. HUG. All the best :) x
i know it's a guide for women but I couldn't help but read with shy in the title
i don't exactly like the "only way he going to get a girl is to be approached" this isn't exactly true, it's just harder for us to make the move. but as you said we'll make small moves
i feed on love and give it right back, no strings =)
A great read and mostly true, but I think I really don't think I'll bother with a woman who has "had her fun being chased and having casual flings and now ready to settle down." Sure that means my options are even less, but oh well. Cause they aren't entirely unlikely to be with me, but it's going to be a lot of work on their end to prove to me they're worth it lol.
Just saying from the comments and whatnot... you know the whole "for girls ready to settle down" or some sh*t. F***"settling"
I love this; I could have written it. I don't like aggressive men at all. I'm chasing a shy guy right now. While figuring him out requires a lot of subtlety (which is not my strong suit), he is not like any other man I've ever met. He appreciates my compliments more than he'll admit, but I so love giving them. He did say the other day in a roundabout way that he wants me to shower him with affection...sooo not a problem, darlin'. :)
Your a smart woman. I'm not exactly shy. I open up after getting to know a girl. And I can be extremely outgoing and confident. But still many times shy, especially around a group of girls I don't know. Its know fair. I actually appreciate the women I talk to and respect them. And all these crazy, aggressive guys who are jerks and gonna hurt them get the girl. Then they get what they want and throw them out like an used toy like its nothing. I would never do that.
As a shy guy, I too think this is 100% true, but I do want to add if a girl is persistent in talking to me, and I eventually warm up to her and we become friends, it doesn't always mean I like her. If she told me that she likes me but I didn't feel the same way about her, I'd gently let her know that, without any hard feelings, and I'd really hope we could still be friends and hang out. Losing a friend is one of the last things I would ever want to happen.
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teapot1985: hahah, cheers gorge :) definitely firework-esque sex. so intimate. because it isn't just physical, it's our hearts too.
dylan1989: thank you and I am very happy ot hear that :D yeh, girls are too shy but I can assure you that well, we're not all cute & shy in our minds. thus, it is really learning to take that extra step and breaking away from our ivory tower to getting prince charming to notice and save us.
miki94: you gotta be a man and just say 'i like you' feel the words when you say it. he sounds like he is just getting comfortable w you, he realized that ya a catch and a beautiful woman, likes you (cause come'on those are obvious flirting signals) just be a bit more forward. he is probably dreaming of holding hands w you. just before you go next time give him a LONGER hug (2-3 seconds longer) touch him more subtly :) and a kiss on the cheek is better than sex to em :) good luck. he is keen! xx
excel: thank you :) yeh it is a shame, but really takes a jerk to know a gem :) hang in there! she's coming!
chrsschb: thank you :D keep doing what you're doing sunshine!
curtisc83: cheers :) women are subtle, sometimes it is just a subtle double take. a smile. so flash a smile back :) you have nothing to lose but only her smile and maybe a new lady to gain :)
probabilist: thank you! emotional intelligence can be applied anywhere. human society is just a massive web of relationships :)
realdeal: I've dated a lot of the media projected confident guys - they are all emotionall weak. shy men are all emotional mountains that we can lean on. so it's not wanting what you can't get. it is getting it & then realising that it's not as advertised. it's crap but sometimes it takes a jerk for a girl to realise. the nice guy was never a back up, but the one. the prince who saves the princess from the ogre. I trust you think the same.
thank you for all the feedback :)
merry Christmas all!
realdeal: I appreciate your view. it is realistic. I'm describing shy guys as men who understand emotions, part of any health relationship is the want to put another in front of oneself. when you love someone, it goes both ways :) I asked females to be active & to notice these beautiful men, not to take advantage, but to offer their unconditional love to those who deserve it. p.s. - we don't see things as they are, we see things as we are.
Okay, I'm not a shy guy but I can agree with most that you wrote. Only thing is, you are basically saying that shy guys will please you before pleasing themselves. Females like the confident guys because it's the feeling of being able to attain the unattainable. So as much as a female would like to go for a nice guy, she still wants the "asshole". The nice guy is now the back up, that she runs the way she wants. So you just made her the female version of a confident "asshole" that they hate.
Wow. I've gotta say I'm taken back by this, because it comes from a girl. I know so many "nice guys" who are really good people but girls pay no attention to them and then complain when guys screw them over... If only all women thought like you. seriously
I try to be serious but he cannot keep eye contact and talk to me without laughter. He is talking to me and walking around in a small circle going back and forth in front of me... etc. -_-
He is 20, never had a gf.
When you mentioned touch restraint I figured he might still actually be interested if this article is true. Please someone comment alongside me and clarify if he is shy or not interested, even annoyed. You gave me hope, but I need you to see my description. Thanks. =)
Belly - let it me. all saints are just past sinners - rebranded. there are more of us thank you realize - takes a girl to date and like a jerk and actually get hurt to appreciate the right men :)
talon - thank you :) haha, I fell for one. but not without reason ;)
Haha all this is awesome if the guy reciprocates when the girl finally finds the courage to tell him her feelings after all the clear signs he was giving out. he even said he didn't think I would be attracted to him but I totally am. I used to be the girl all about the challenge, now I just want commitment and stability. but oh well guess he got scared or something, who knows
Actually its funny you mention that because that was the whole point I was trying to get at in my long list of comments to your other article LOL. And that is that the stuff you said in your last article isn't applicable to men who are looking to settle down and want a woman for something serious, for the long haul. That it was, in fact, counterproductive if that was your goal.
This article is very informative . I consider myself mildly shy. No article is going to 100% describe a category of men... but this article is balanced and good. It is for women who don't want a lot of adventure ( shy guys are adventurous too but not too much ) . But I would like to warn that among shy guys there are also creeps and jerks who are immature. So while you can certainly find really really great gems among shy guys.. you need , as in any other man , gradually risk. No sudden risk.
Cheers esahc88. yeh definitely :) think women should give em a rest and accept them. you're pretty much there when you're flirting so obviously, why can't we take it to the next level by a tad :) literally one little bit of courage away from true happiness. x
Weapon - it doesn't. it is dependent on what the lady wants. this is an article just about shy men. they're different to many other men. people who want shy men are looking for a relationship. people who want 'the chase' are looking for a challenge and the thrill of a short term :) I just decided to settle down :) but thank you. x
FOR SHY MEN: Honestly, shy men don't have to do much. Your eyes, you, are already mysterious. Just listen when we yabber and HUG US LIKE NO TOMORROW. She'll melt in no time. No joke. My best friend and I are both dating shy men. All they did was reply and HUG. HUG. HUG. All the best :) x
Best. Thing. Ever.
100% accurate
i know it's a guide for women but I couldn't help but read with shy in the title
i don't exactly like the "only way he going to get a girl is to be approached" this isn't exactly true, it's just harder for us to make the move. but as you said we'll make small moves
i feed on love and give it right back, no strings =)
A great read and mostly true, but I think I really don't think I'll bother with a woman who has "had her fun being chased and having casual flings and now ready to settle down." Sure that means my options are even less, but oh well. Cause they aren't entirely unlikely to be with me, but it's going to be a lot of work on their end to prove to me they're worth it lol.
Just saying from the comments and whatnot... you know the whole "for girls ready to settle down" or some sh*t. F***"settling"
I love this; I could have written it. I don't like aggressive men at all. I'm chasing a shy guy right now. While figuring him out requires a lot of subtlety (which is not my strong suit), he is not like any other man I've ever met. He appreciates my compliments more than he'll admit, but I so love giving them. He did say the other day in a roundabout way that he wants me to shower him with affection...sooo not a problem, darlin'. :)
Your a smart woman. I'm not exactly shy. I open up after getting to know a girl. And I can be extremely outgoing and confident. But still many times shy, especially around a group of girls I don't know. Its know fair. I actually appreciate the women I talk to and respect them. And all these crazy, aggressive guys who are jerks and gonna hurt them get the girl. Then they get what they want and throw them out like an used toy like its nothing. I would never do that.
As a shy guy, I too think this is 100% true, but I do want to add if a girl is persistent in talking to me, and I eventually warm up to her and we become friends, it doesn't always mean I like her. If she told me that she likes me but I didn't feel the same way about her, I'd gently let her know that, without any hard feelings, and I'd really hope we could still be friends and hang out. Losing a friend is one of the last things I would ever want to happen.