Common profile mistakes girls make on Tinder

[young_old_soul]

Common profile mistakes on Tinder

Many girls on Tinder and similar apps will make these common mistakes in setting up their profile. These things, in no particular order, will make a lot of guys swipe left, but can be easily fixed. If you have any of these on your profile, chances are a lot of decent guys are swiping you left because of them.

Group photos

This one is pretty self-explanatory. If all of your photos have other girls in them, how are guys supposed to know which one is you? Having a photo or two with your friends is perfectly fine, but ALL of them? Rather than try to guess, many guys will simply swipe left. This is especially true if all the photos are with you and the same friend.

No bio

Unless you plan to message guys first and/or have very interesting photos that are good conversation starters, not having a bio will make a lot of guys swipe left. Looks aren't everything - you want to give a little information about yourself, both so guys know basic details and also as a conversation starter.

Photos with babies/young children, without any context

If you are holding a baby or a small child, and there is nothing in your bio or photos explaining who the child is (e.g. a cousin or nephew/niece), guys will generally assume that the child is yours. Most guys under 30 will not want to date single moms. Sorry if that offends anyone, but that's just how it is. Either state your relation to the child or don't include these photos. If the child is yours or if you are a single mom, put it in you bio - guys want to know upfront.

Photos with a guy of similar age, without any context

If you have photos with just you and another guy, state who he is. If he is a brother or other family member, say so. If guys have no idea who this guy in your photos is, they will mostly swipe left. Prom photos should be avoided altogether.

Snapchat filters obscuring your face

Many girls seem to think it is a good idea to have the dog filter (or others) on EVERY photo. Same with color filters and others which obscure your face. Guys want to know what you look like. If you have filters in most or all of your photos, a large percentage of guys will just swipe left.

Mirror selfies with flash

This one is also excessively common, where the phone with flash obscures your face and messes up the lighting and contrast. Like I said above, guys want to see your face. Mirror selfies, if they are used at all, are best done WITHOUT flash, and the phone should not obscure your face.

Photos of pets (or anything else) without you in them

Just like how having a photo with a dog or cat tends to improve guys' appeal, a lot of guys (myself included) also find photos with pets attractive. The key word is, with your pet. Guys would rather see you in the photo with your pet, than just the pet by itself. This is especially true if there are multiple photos of just pets, and/or if you have fewer photos. Same goes with photos of cars or other things.

Photos only showing your face or from the neck up

If all of your photos show only close-ups of your face, many guys will assume you do not want them to see your body. Having at least one full-body pic is ideal. If you are overweight, don't hide it - that is called lying. Sorry, this may offend some people but that's just how it is.

Underage posing with alcohol, or with drugs

This is not a smart thing to do. Regardless of your opinion on what the drinking age should be, or whether you support or oppose legalizing marijuana, it is not wise to put a photo of you on a public swipe app with something that is illegal. Remember, you don't know who is on there and who will see your profile.

Judgmental bios

This is pretty self-explanatory. If your bio says "I only date guys who ____" or "Swipe left if you ____" that will convince most guys (including quite many who do fit your mentioned standards) that you are shallow and judgmental.

Listing your Venmo or PayPal on your bio

This is a moderately effective way to get a few thirsty idiots to give you a few bucks of free cash. It is an even more effective way to portray yourself as a gold digger, where lots of decent guys will swipe left. We're not interested in sending you $5 to see what happens.

Too much information

Your bio is intended to serve as a very brief description of who you are and what you like, and also to serve as a conversation starter. Just like how no bio is a turn-off, an excessively detailed one doesn't help either. Leave some mystery as a conversation starter. In addition, you can easily include information that will turn guys off. Some will go so far as to openly state that they have mental health issues in a Tinder bio. And if a lengthy bio is full of spelling and grammatical errors and/or is one long run-on sentence, that is an especially big turn-off.

Cliches

If you include a common or popular cliche line to your profile, chances are guys have already seen it many times. Try to be original. Same goes with if your Spotify anthem connected is a current top-40 track. Not that it's a problem in and of itself, but it is basic and uninteresting. Something that is original will stand out and make you look more interesting.

Thoughts and comments are welcome. Feel free to expand on the things listed, or add others you think are worthwhile.

[coachTanthony]

Very good list!

Judgmental Bio's and posing with a guy "even with context" are probably the top 2 I see from your list. Women who like an occasional ride on a motorcycle once a year shouldn't put photos of herself on the back of one.

Unless you are a huge motorcycle fan or ride yourself then all guys will think is that you want a biker dude and swipe left.

[young_old_soul]

That's interesting, I haven't seen too many posing on a motorcycle. But I definitely agree, unless it is just her on there I will assume it is her ex or something and swipe left.

[coachTanthony]

When women pose with men, it is secretly sending us a signal, hey... this is the kind of guy I am looking for. It doesn't matter if the man is a good friend, brother, or stranger in the crowd etc. She is using that photo to let us know what she is attracted too. And if she isn't doing that then this is why she shouldn't post it. She is trying to raise her SMV by being in a photo with a guy that sends some sneaky type of social proof that she is worthy.

Now don't get me wrong... men do it all the time too by being in photos with hot women which is also a mistake.

[Twalli]

I don't want to be with someone like my sister. She has bigger boobs than I prefer for starters. Yet we lived together longer than apart, so I am in a lot of pictures with her. I try to remove them from dating profiles, but some of my best recent pictures have her in them.

[coachTanthony]

@Twalli Good! Because it can also back fire on you if women thing that is the kind of woman you want.

[coachTanthony]

thanks for the mho!

[Strafe_19]

Women posing with another man I assume she wants a 3som ew

[Anonymous]

I don't like the profiles where their interests are "I love travel, the office, and adventures!"

Women constantly whine about how they want a guy who is "interesting," yet are super basic and boring themselves.

I'm not saying I'm super interesting myself, but at least don't be a hypocrite.

[little_bird1]

What's so boring about travelling? I love to travel, if I could I would travel all the time. You can see on my photos that I've been to places and I think it's important to point that out because some people don't like or can't travel, and that's a no-no for me, I need a guy who is willing to travel with me. Or be okay with me leaving from time to time. Just saying.

[Opinion Owner]

@little_bird1 I like to travel too, but EVERYONE likes to travel and it's such a repetitive thing to see.

[little_bird1]

Yeah, I know what you mean. It's like saying "I like chocolate!". I think it's unnecessary to point it out if you're not really travelling a lot. I'm only saying for those who DO.

[nathanp97]

Even worse is the "I probably swiped right for the dog." Or anything in the bio talking about how much they like dogs. We get it. Everyone likes dogs. You don't need to talk about it. + swiping just for a dog is kinda shallow and I'm assuming they are lying about that too.

[young_old_soul]

Yes! I swiped right for the dog should be on there too. I can't believe I forgot that one

[young_old_soul]

"I love travel and adventures" is actually something that makes me more likely to swipe right - I have on my own profile that I'm looking for someone to go on road trips with.

Saying that they love the office, however, is about as basic as you can get. They might as well include a group photo at Starbucks with Snapchat filters.

[Twalli]

Probably why despite the fact I have a dog we have no pictures together. I mention I have a dog in my bio and if we match I will send pics, but only of her alone.

[little_bird1]

Good take! But lets be honest: all of this will be overlooked if a girl is hot.

[AkshiJanjua]

that's true

[young_old_soul]

True, I mean I'll admit that I'll often swipe right on "basic" profiles if I find them attractive too. But I usually won't message them if they have nothing good in their bio or photos, as it's difficult to start a conversation other than just "hey" to which they usually do not respond.

[No_Archons]

Depends how hot and how many of these they do... dog filters are fucked

[z2000]

Not by me TBH. I've found girls super hot at first, and then read their bio and made a hard swipe left.

[young_old_soul]

Exactly. If her bio indicates that she is stuck up, judgmental, or otherwise completely incompatible, I swipe left even if she is very attractive. Good looks don't compensate for a shitty personality to anyone who has standards.

[cykasenpai]

TRUE

[Pejtu]

Not in my book little_bird
im not going to let go of my standards i didn't for a year i had many opportunities if i removed 1 or 2 things but hell no
And after a year i found a girl that im in a relationship now since a year that checked all the boxes

[Pulimuli]

Same goes for guys though as tinder experiment have shown

[Cokebottle2]

I'd rather have an ugly nice girl than a mean pretty girl

[Alice2398]

Good advice, I think this actually goes both ways not just with women

[Starshine85]

I've seen a lot of similar things to those you mention in dating profiles of men. One I would add with men is pictures of you topless actually puts me off messaging you. And just saying 'hi' or not filling out a profile does seem lazy. I don't see the snapchat filters on men as much, on other dating site anyway but I have seen them just wear sunglasses in all their pictures or no pictures of their face at all. Plus a lot of things people say proves they haven't read much of my profile and that is off-putting.

[YourFutureEx]

This is an excellent read. I was a bit skeptical about the content before opening it, but I'm very much impressed. This list is perfectly spot on and you seem like a guy who value the overall worth of a person and not just looks.

However, most of the guys will swipe towards the heart (I dunno if it's on right or left since I don't use the app), men with high standard will definitely care about these things and they're not even unnecessarily judgmental. It should be in your common sense. If a girl didn't make such mistakes, it'll tell a lot about their personality and show that they mean serious business.

[MostPaloney23]

Sometimes I'll come across people and their bio will say 22 by their name but "*19/20 not 22" and nothing else. That's lazy and my age preference plus proof of laziness is an instant left swipe

[young_old_soul]

Usually it means one of three things.

1. Their Facebook has their date of birth set inaccurately, and it set automatically.

2. They are trying to appear to older guys.

3. They are underage and shouldn't be on there.

[Adrian12345]

It shouldn't matter what a girl looks like, but like it says in Josette Sona's free book: Are Men the Weaker Sex?, if a girl isn't pretty, too many guys don't want to have anything to do with her. But he might be missing out on finding a wonderful person.

[Anonymous]

Agree, especially Snapchat filters obscuring your face! Whiskers, bunny ears... are you all 5 years old? Like seriously. And guys need to mature? lol When I see this now, it's so common that I'm immediately turned off. I don't even look at her profile any further.

[MollyTheOriginal]

Agree with most of these except the judgmental one and overly descriptive: I think this covers all the bases and doesn't waste people's time. If you're offended by me saying I don't mess with guys who are only wanting sex, that's probably because you are one of them so I'm not missing out on anything. As it turns out though, most of this list applies to guys I've seen on Tinder and other apps too! The group photos and dogs are like every third profile...

[young_old_soul]

I wouldn't call the "no hookups" judgmental at all, given all the thirsty guys on there, and no I definitely am not one of them. It's more about the laundry list of "if you don't meet these very specific standards, swipe left." The most prevalent (and annoying) such example is "swipe left if you're under 6 foot."

I agree that guys shouldn't do group photos either, my only one is with my family. I also have a photo with my dog and have gotten lots of messages complimenting it so I'll tell you right now that those work.

[MusicMayhem]

The "No hookups" on a girls profile tells guys she has been played and is overly defensive about having sex so will put up a lot of resistance to moving things forward. So guys will pass.

[MollyTheOriginal]

@MusicMayhem then that means they're not very bright because it's got nothing to do with it. It's about substance. If they're that easily swayed than they're the fuck bois out there so not interested anyhow :)

[MollyTheOriginal]

Young old soul, agreed, except I think it's messed up using dogs to snag girls, just saying. And it's often where there's not a lot to look at the guy there anyway.

[SexyAshh]

No bio makes guys swipe left,? Lol this is funny because I've even watched guys on tinder, all they see if hot girl and swipe right immediatly. Guys are visual, i can say as a girl i could care less what the bio says. When it comes down to the convo though if they start with a “hey, whats up”... needless to say they won't get a reply because im already bored

[Pejtu]

I always swiped left for girls with no BIO , ok yea she can be hot but what else have you got , if u can't come up with like 20 words about urself its not gonna work if u can't use ur brain and u set all ur luck on your cute face

[genericname85]

You also gotta consider who your customer is. If he doesn't care for Bio, he probably just wants a hookup. Those that want a girlfriend, read the bio.

[SAW2814]

"Must have GSOH"

What is that? I know it's 'Good Sense Of Humour' but what is a 'Good' sense of humour?

It amazes me that some people think a member of the opposite sex is going to automatically leave them in hysterics without getting to know them in any way.

Everyone has a sense of humour. Saying you want someone who has one is like saying 'I want someone who has skin'.

[Anonymous]

It shouldn't matter what you look like. If someone's going to judge you based on your looks, you may not want to go out with them anyway. They may be judgmental and shallow.

Some people don't include their bio so it gives the couple something to talk about when they go on a date.

[Anonymous]

any mention of money as they are listing who they want to contact them. That includes euphemisms such as "must be financially stable" or "must be financially secure". We read "User-Goldigger".

[JeanLee]

Lol the vemo, cashapp and paypal thing is so common. You see it more on twitter though, Some girls want it too easy.

[BoSvenson]

That was awesome.
I haven't been on that site, but it is very common on dating sites for there to be four women in the pics, but no explanation as to who's the one on the profile.

[HereIbe]

Stupid crap that women put on their profiles, with translations.

I'm fun: I'm loud and sloppy.
I love to travel: I haven't ever really traveled, but YOU are gonna bankroll it.
I'm a good person: I'm a nasty bitch who refuses to see the truth about herself.

[Tylord92]

These are just kind of good things to do on dating sites regardless of if you're a guy or girl. Although some may be slightly less applicable to guys. Some may even be more applicable to guys.

[joeshi]

I think the only mistake I’ve made was putting my sc and connecting it to Facebook, i don’t know how the fuck but now i got 1000+ adds on Facebook

[Browneye57]

Women never include ANYTHING about what they bring of high value to a relationship. It's all ME ME ME. And what THEY want. It's a total and utter failure.

[Fitness-Fanatic]

Good take.

I don't use dating sites , but if I did... I'd take all this into consideration

[Anonymous]

Im a single mom and i get a lot of hits on tinder. i have no bio on my profile just a pic of me and my girls

[Browneye57]

How 'bout just raise your daughters. They don't need a string of strange men in and out of their lives, and whatever time you have left after working and running a household you owe to THEM.

[taleswapper]

@Browneye57 Wow... judgmental much? If the rule of thumb is kids need a father, how is she supposed to find him?

[Opinion Owner]

Lol they don't need a father I am raising them on my own pretty dam good if I say so. and they don't know I sleep around.

[taleswapper]

I'm glad to hear it, actually. That was addressed to Browneye57's post, not yours. Good on you!

[Browneye57]

@taleswapper - Yep, we have a whole crop of girlie-men raised by single mothers to be just like girls or women. When a woman says children don't need a father we know just how fukkin dumb they really are. You just can't fix stupid. But dear god these children they're raising. Hell, half of them don't even know what sex they are! Talk about confusion!!

[taleswapper]

@Browneye57 Yeah, no. You don't have a clue, sorry. There's no causal link between being raised by a single mom and "girlie-men" or transexuals. Most of them had two-parent families. Utter fail in the logic department.

[Opinion Owner]

My girls are 15 and 14 both straight A student's and always willing to help me at home. why because they were raised right by me

[Browneye57]

@taleswapper I never mentioned 'transexuals' - that was you. So you're the one that completely missed the point. Oh well, carry on.
And guys without a father miss out on what being a man is - how could they? Right, they're mom is a 'dad' too. Got it.

[taleswapper]

@Browneye57 BzzT! wrong, but thanks for playing. Mike has some nice consolation prizes for you, right, Mike?
"guys without a father miss out on what being a man is - how could they?" Well, gee, I guess if you don't have a dad, you can never see an adult male until you're, what? 25 or so? Id that you're position? And of course all those women you interact with, they can't have ANY idea of what a man is like, to teach you. You were the product of immaculate conception...

try not to be more of an idiot than you can help. If one of your parents isn't a doctor, does that mean you get no healthcare? Of course not.

[Browneye57]

@taleswapper - Now you're not making ANY sense. Bye bye.

[taleswapper]

@Browneye57 no worries. I'm talking to the audience; I long ago stopped expecting you to understand anything rational. :)

[Anonymous]

Maybe don't make the bio too long. A lot of guys don't like to read a lot.
If you're not pretty, you could be the nicest person in the world but you may not get a lot of hits.

[kespethdude]

Gee, I wonder if this MyTake is a gender swap of another one? Such a cliche here on GAG.