When I was a kid I was affreid of everything. But one day I had enough of that and started to work on it. I went to the basement to a dark room and sitt there til I was no longer scared of the dark. I climbed tall things to not be scared of hights. I jumped from docks to not be scared of water. I got a pet spider and so on and so forward. I was also scared of people, so I joined a theatre group to learn how to let go. The point being, the more you expose your self for what scares you, the less scared you will be in the end.
This sounds like confusing shyness and inconfidence with introversion. I know an introverted guy that picks up on social queues that no one else does, he can talk to anyone, knows how to place people at ease and more. In fact, he has better social skills than the people that go out all of the time... but he prefers being alone more than around other people.
I know it's anxiety and everything, but, anyway, I know that feel. It's this horrible feeling that you're between two worlds: what you are, and what you wish to be. There's people that is introvert and enjoy their life and whatever, but we're not. We don't know what to do, and it feels like we're wasting the "most beautiful moments in our life", as everyone says. I don't have a solution, but I feel you. Just cheer up, it's ok, don't give up.
I think bein' an introvert has saved your life. People who go out a lot raise their risk of dying in a car accident or being gunned down by an angry Trumptard. So count your blessings!
Wow... I'm shocked because i feel as if I wrote this. This is 10000% accurate for me. I expierence these same problems and It's crazy to know someone out there is going through this exact same thing. Being an introvert is so comfortable but you know you're missing out. The peace and serenity is so great though.. and people suck let's face it. Why would I wanna go out and deal with friends who argue and beef and do all this shit when I can stay home and watch Netflix? I hope I can find the courage to break the cycle eventually...
Most people overcome their being shy phase. I think you're too much focused on the disadvantages of being shy instead seeing your strengths. Maybe someone special in your life would deflect the majority of your thoughts about yourself and you could forget many things from your past or finding a relief while looking beyond the horizon of your ego.
Half of this also relates to an extrovert introvert just means you loose energy around people and gain energy alone. Extrovert means you loose energy alone and gain it around people. I have social anxiety yet I get energy from being around people and loose it when alone.
But anyway, I know heapsssss of introvertss and you can still be positive and happy as one and it isn't ruining your life. Just hang with a small group
I’ve always been introverted coupled with finding most people just plain dull. Every once in a good while I’ll meet someone particularly intelligent, interesting, or funny but it’s few and far between. Most people I know find it difficult to get me out of the house. Everything I like is there.
Sounds like me but i force myself to make a change sorta like a yes man but not too extreme i feel really good i found out i get along with girls much much better than guys and now i have a lot of girlfriends as in only friends and im very happy with my change
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it's really hard to trust people know a days u can meet a person have great time get in his car drive to some food place get pull over by cops cops look in the car find drugs in the passenger side and boom arrested and u a get drug related charge on your recorded meeting random stranger is like run a yellow light 50/50 is good or it bad if u haven't meet/made friends in high school/collage your out of luck after that is 9-5 and bills and meet people from work that a no for me work and socializing don't mix good luck
There’s nothing wrong with it I guess... however maybe your less social and have not many friends so life can seem very lonely and like you have no one. To me I have a balance I have amazing friends I can spend my time with and Also I have time to myself but that’s because I want to
Introversion isn't something to apologize for. Social skills are learned. I know, I'm very introverted and function quite well thank you. 75% of the population, both genders, are extroverted. They actually believe there's something wrong with introverts - and will try to convince you of that. You'll hear the questions..."Just what is wrong with you anyway?" Or some such. Lots more info if you want it. Time to quit choosing to be a victim.
Yes I'm a introvert too and it can be a struggle with friends , dating , work , social activities , meeting new people. Some things get easier some things remain the same and yet there is a lot that's very difficult dating is the hardest trying to get courage to ask someone out on a date can feel like a eternity planning for weeks and second guessing. So yes it's a struggle
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This isn’t introversion. Introverts find being alone relaxing and invigorating.
What you have is shyness and social anxiety. The absolute worst thing to do in that case is to avoid the source of anxiety which builds it up as being even more terrifying.
#1 through #3 are the stories of my life. I can definitely say that being an introvert makes it extremely hard for me to deal with people. I was introverted when I was in middle and high school. But I feel like it's at an extreme now in my adulthood. And it's socially, emotionally, and mentally crippling.
I totally agree, I used to be very introverted. People in general don't like introverts, we creep them out, some think we're stuck up. Social life? Pfft forget it! Honestly the second I started being outgoing and happy all the time I found myself in a much smoother position in life.
Wow.. It's seem not only you.. am passing the same shit.. it hard community with my on family. .. I always feel lonely... the things I wish to change mostly it me been so afraid... I wish I have someone that Wii be close to me.. telling me about the source of life
I am an introbert (INTJ on the MBTI test) and I fully identify with all the points that you raise. We are the thinkers of society; others build on our ideas. We do have our place in nature, otherwise introversion would not exist.
I am very open to you making contact over PM with me. As a fellow introvert, I would be able to support you and listen to your daily struggles.
First off, extroverts have just as many disadvantages. There is no perfect person. So take advantage of being an introvert, like being more self-sufficient.
Life is about pressuring yourself into difficult situations and learning from them. Just because it’s harder for us to meet people doesn’t mean we can’t do it.
Being introvert is different. I've been through all of the above situations and I can say it's anxiety and social phobia. I'm glad I managed to overcome my fears and now I'm happy to have a good social circle and positive life.
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When I was a kid I was affreid of everything. But one day I had enough of that and started to work on it. I went to the basement to a dark room and sitt there til I was no longer scared of the dark. I climbed tall things to not be scared of hights. I jumped from docks to not be scared of water. I got a pet spider and so on and so forward. I was also scared of people, so I joined a theatre group to learn how to let go. The point being, the more you expose your self for what scares you, the less scared you will be in the end.
This sounds like confusing shyness and inconfidence with introversion. I know an introverted guy that picks up on social queues that no one else does, he can talk to anyone, knows how to place people at ease and more. In fact, he has better social skills than the people that go out all of the time... but he prefers being alone more than around other people.
I am that guy 100%. Very introverted but can talk to anyone and great at reading people.
I know it's anxiety and everything, but, anyway, I know that feel. It's this horrible feeling that you're between two worlds: what you are, and what you wish to be. There's people that is introvert and enjoy their life and whatever, but we're not. We don't know what to do, and it feels like we're wasting the "most beautiful moments in our life", as everyone says. I don't have a solution, but I feel you. Just cheer up, it's ok, don't give up.
I think bein' an introvert has saved your life. People who go out a lot raise their risk of dying in a car accident or being gunned down by an angry Trumptard. So count your blessings!
Wow... I'm shocked because i feel as if I wrote this. This is 10000% accurate for me. I expierence these same problems and It's crazy to know someone out there is going through this exact same thing. Being an introvert is so comfortable but you know you're missing out. The peace and serenity is so great though.. and people suck let's face it. Why would I wanna go out and deal with friends who argue and beef and do all this shit when I can stay home and watch Netflix? I hope I can find the courage to break the cycle eventually...
Most people overcome their being shy phase. I think you're too much focused on the disadvantages of being shy instead seeing your strengths. Maybe someone special in your life would deflect the majority of your thoughts about yourself and you could forget many things from your past or finding a relief while looking beyond the horizon of your ego.
Half of this also relates to an extrovert
introvert just means you loose energy around people and gain energy alone.
Extrovert means you loose energy alone and gain it around people.
I have social anxiety yet I get energy from being around people and loose it when alone.
But anyway, I know heapsssss of introvertss and you can still be positive and happy as one and it isn't ruining your life. Just hang with a small group
I’ve always been introverted coupled with finding most people just plain dull. Every once in a good while I’ll meet someone particularly intelligent, interesting, or funny but it’s few and far between. Most people I know find it difficult to get me out of the house. Everything I like is there.
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Sounds like me but i force myself to make a change sorta like a yes man but not too extreme i feel really good i found out i get along with girls much much better than guys and now i have a lot of girlfriends as in only friends and im very happy with my change
it's really hard to trust people know a days u can meet a person have great time get in his car drive to some food place get pull over by cops cops look in the car find drugs in the passenger side and boom arrested and u a get drug related charge on your recorded meeting random stranger is like run a yellow light 50/50 is good or it bad if u haven't meet/made friends in high school/collage your out of luck after that is 9-5 and bills and meet people from work that a no for me work and socializing don't mix good luck
There’s nothing wrong with it I guess... however maybe your less social and have not many friends so life can seem very lonely and like you have no one. To me I have a balance I have amazing friends I can spend my time with and Also I have time to myself but that’s because I want to
Introversion isn't something to apologize for. Social skills are learned. I know, I'm very introverted and function quite well thank you.
75% of the population, both genders, are extroverted. They actually believe there's something wrong with introverts - and will try to convince you of that. You'll hear the questions..."Just what is wrong with you anyway?" Or some such.
Lots more info if you want it. Time to quit choosing to be a victim.
Yes I'm a introvert too and it can be a struggle with friends , dating , work , social activities , meeting new people. Some things get easier some things remain the same and yet there is a lot that's very difficult dating is the hardest trying to get courage to ask someone out on a date can feel like a eternity planning for weeks and second guessing. So yes it's a struggle
This isn’t introversion. Introverts find being alone relaxing and invigorating.
What you have is shyness and social anxiety. The absolute worst thing to do in that case is to avoid the source of anxiety which builds it up as being even more terrifying.
#1 through #3 are the stories of my life.
I can definitely say that being an introvert makes it extremely hard for me to deal with people. I was introverted when I was in middle and high school. But I feel like it's at an extreme now in my adulthood. And it's socially, emotionally, and mentally crippling.
I totally agree, I used to be very introverted. People in general don't like introverts, we creep them out, some think we're stuck up. Social life? Pfft forget it! Honestly the second I started being outgoing and happy all the time I found myself in a much smoother position in life.
Wow.. It's seem not only you.. am passing the same shit.. it hard community with my on family. .. I always feel lonely... the things I wish to change mostly it me been so afraid... I wish I have someone that Wii be close to me.. telling me about the source of life
I am an introbert (INTJ on the MBTI test) and I fully identify with all the points that you raise. We are the thinkers of society; others build on our ideas. We do have our place in nature, otherwise introversion would not exist.
I am very open to you making contact over PM with me. As a fellow introvert, I would be able to support you and listen to your daily struggles.
I used to be more introverted , I have become more open and can generally start a conversation with anyone. know I missed opportunities in past
First off, extroverts have just as many disadvantages. There is no perfect person. So take advantage of being an introvert, like being more self-sufficient.
Life is about pressuring yourself into difficult situations and learning from them. Just because it’s harder for us to meet people doesn’t mean we can’t do it.
Being introvert is different. I've been through all of the above situations and I can say it's anxiety and social phobia. I'm glad I managed to overcome my fears and now I'm happy to have a good social circle and positive life.
I share with you. Keep smiling and be happy as you can/want. Best wishes.
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