You can tell the pain of a human being through the Eyes.

[MoonNieve]

A 'regular' photo of me.

For me, the eyes always tell the amount of pain a human being is in. They may be able to cover that pain up with a smile but the eyes will always give it away. On the outside, this human will always fight, because I have 3 beautiful children to live for, that on its own is enough worth attempting to smile. Looking at those 3 beautiful faces and realised that I put them on this planet, therefore I will guide them through this life, but good lord is it hard.

This earth is weird, being that we are one of the only species to have feelings of intimacy and love. Sometimes I often wished I was an animal so that feelings of love didn't exist unless it was for important things like children. That way it would be so much easier than facing the realisation that you're not really good enough. Or trying to pull apart the reason someone treats you the way that they do.

Forgive me for this quite sad take tonight. I am so grateful for my beautiful children and family. I just needed somewhere to air my feelings and maybe get opinions on my take of this.

Thank you

[Lliam]

I'm sorry that things look so bleak to you these days. Just remember that things pass. Life goes on. You are a beautiful woman and you have a beautiful spirit. You have a lot to give. There is a lot of joy and wonder to be had from the world outside. I, myself, find solace in nature when things look bleak. We are surrounded by beauty and wonder. And there are wonderful people, too.

As far as relationships are concerned, they aren't essential to be happy. But it's nice to be loved and treasured by someone special that you also love, admire and treasure.
You don't have to actively pursue that. All I would say is, don't shut people out. Don't run from possibilities when they present themselves. You never know what will happen if you are open to opportunities. Magic can happen.

You have so much to give. Some guys are the same way.

[MoonNieve]

Thank you so much :) x

[TonyMetal___86]

Like i said, what your wishing boobsee lady is something beautiful, youe feeling like that because youe searching in the wrong place and asking the wrong person, it's like entering a butchery shop and asking for a cake, you ask for a cake and the butcher laughs and wouldn't be able to give you what you want...

You have to go to a pastry shop to ask for a cake...

Your good enough gor any nice person because you have this sweet beautiful heart, never lose hope...

You will get what you deserve one day, better falling for the right one instead of falling in hell!

[MoonNieve]

This really cheered me up thank you =)

[TonyMetal___86]

Your welcome and keep smiling 😊

[jennifer_bloom]

Everybody has bad days but Good can come out of every situation and in every situation and you are good enough for love, you just don’t feel that right now because somebody fed you with false information about who you are. I’ve met gorgeous woman that look like super models who were anorexic and insecure about their looks and I’ve met Ivy League students who cried during their SATs cause they thought their test scores were too low. Low self Esteem is not a condition that only affects some and not others. Even Harvard doctorates have been known to suffer from low self esteem. Remember and tell yourself everyday that God loves you, Jesus died for you, you are precious and beautiful and sacred and dearly loved.

[proNutro]

I would say so. Personally I’ve been told people struggle to read me so I would say this is not true for me but people like my mom and brother, they can tell by looking at my eyes if I’m okay or not.
I would say people can just be different in that way

[virtue2332]

I understand how you feel. We obviously evolved with the ability to feel and have emotions experience pain. Most of these are needed for survival of our species. We will continue to evolve and develop based on the environment that is around us. We only ultimately can control ourself even though we are often influenced by the people we come in contact with day to day. I know it's never easy but it shows how important it is for people to surround themselves with the things that bring positive things to thier lives. It's time for us to evolve just a bit more and learn to think a bit more logically so we can better understand how we feel and why so we can better manage being influenced solely on them. I would never want to lose these abilities just be able to appreciate them and influence them more. We just all need to pay more attention to the happy and good vs the sad. If there aren't many happy things around we should come up with ways to create them. I much rather have had the chance to experience this existence than not and it's up to us to make it an enjoyable one.

[anupamagrawal]

The eyes are the keys to open the secret chamber of your emotions and yes, I too believe that the eyes mirror the inside pain. But, like the facial expressions and smile - they too can be deceiving. So, for most of the people eyes can tell the story, but there are some who have even closed the door to their emotions through the eyes.
So, the only best way is to talk and comfort, so that they tears roll on the faces and the secret would blow out to relieve the burden.
We all have our share of low moments even though we have beautiful persons in our lives who take care of us, but still, we human, are made complex.

[Hans222]

No problem at all, if you need to vent you need to vent. It's important to do it 😉😃.
Enjoy you 3 children and all the love you get from them.
You ARE good enough okay. Don't let others intimidate you too much, just make an honest assessment for yourself if their criticism is to some degree right or not.
If yes, try to do something about your weak points but don't consider yourself inferior, that's not true.
We all have our strong and weak points. It's important not to focus on either, but to be aware of both!

[Jjpayne]

I think eyes are complicated but while your hurting inside, sometimes behavior can be more telling than the eyes.

But eyes at a certain time are windows to the soul

And my heart does go out to you. Heartache/Heartbreak is not fun, stay close to family and friends to heal

[Andres77]

I agree with you mostly... but with the amount of suicide going on there are so many that can hide the pain too well until it's too late.
Blessings on you and your family.
I truly hope you find and get everything you and your family needs but no one is a mind reader.
We can't see the depth of pain in some.
I've got friends that committed suicide and other that dealt with horror story trauma and are still making the best of it.
No one cares how much you know until they know how much you care.
It's hard, constant communication with those we love and having to analyze every look, act, e attitude just to make sure we're doing as much as we can. Sometimes we do everything right and still... we can barely control our own brain. How much kess can we control those around us?
Blessings and wisdom fill you in every decision that you make concerning your family.

[Anonymous]

I think you should consider the Peter principle : https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Peter_principle and also that if you dont know that you dont know something you can't possibly fix it. It is therefore inevitable that you are incompetant at whatever point you have plateaued; that doesn't mean you 'aren't good enough' it just means you are imperfect as all humans are.

Maybe someone out there is doing a better job than you are, the shear numbers involves make that extremely likely actually, but so what?

If the minimum acceptable requirement is being better than everyone else we are at best, all but one of us, damned.

[ZackBan]

But you'd be surprised how much pain hides behind a happy face too.

The wider the smile the deeper the wounds.

Most suicide cases are usually reported happy in their last days before doing it somehow they go numb to the pain and pretending to be ok turns into something a bit more psychotic as they smile to everything and then end it all

[HiveBee]

I guess so.

One time recently one of my friends ran up to me and hugged me and she snapped a pic of us together on her phone.

Then when she looked at it, she said "why do you always have to look so sad?"

I didn't even know I looked sad all the time. That really hit me hard though cuz I never knew... damn.

That's life though. shit sucks lol. But Covid actually has been a benefit for me and now I'm hoping things will be better!

[RaijuRainBird]

Love exists for animals too. I have personally seen mothers starve themselves so that their babies could canabalize her and survive when she could have easily eaten them instead. I was moving, and I was breeding fish and I got caught up in the process and unfortunately things did not go as planned and this happened. Harsh but true.

[humanearth]

I have had a life time of pain, starting from birth.
Being raised with a alcoholic abusive father for starters and it only gets worse from there on.

Sure things slowly turned around for me, but the painful memories will always be there.

People wonder why I am such comedian. The truth is to hide myself my painful childhood to young adulthood.

I know someone can see my pain though my eyes. They just won't know from what

[888theGreat]

Your kids are more important than any man. A woman's greatest achievement is her kids turning out successful. Men just don't spend as much time with their kids. If you are lucky you will meet a guy that really loves you and accepts your kids as his kids.

[MoonNieve]

You’re absolutely right thank you so much :)

[Gosceewual]

Lol no you can’t, you can tell their pain if something is below the eyes... tears.. but jus eyeballs alone is impossible to read anything from them, they all look the same.. round reflective shiny balls of water n nerves n blood... dunno what you can read from that

[Gosceewual]

Takes 10 eyeballs out of a corpse n tell me what emotions you can read from those 10 deceast people

[Gosceewual]

It’s mainly your facial muscles/ expression that says how you feel. Not the eyeballs

[djfhsjk]

Well obviously your eyeball looks pretty much the same at all times except for redness or moisture or dilation. I assume that "the eyes" includes the area around them

[Gosceewual]

@djfhsjk yeah lol. As the face on a whole you can probably guess someone’s feelings, but the eyes alone say nothing lol

[OlderAndWiser]

You seem to be a very good person and if I was in the UK, I would find you and take you out for a drink just to cheer you up! (Not a date; I already have a girlfriend. Just a friendly get together.)

[Waldoe]

I realized this many many years ago... When they said God made us in His image... they did not mean our body, or our color... it means that.. we Love, we feel betrayal, we yearn for companionship, we get angry... we are hurt by those that we hold dearest, our children, I am often sorry that so many have bad relationships with their parent or parents...

[Nigjt]

Well Baby girl if u like only if u like u can follow me an then I will see that u have an that will let me know that u would at least to be friends an then I'll send u my number an no matter how personal u want to be with me we can text or talk so the ball is in ur Park now u tell me.
I'll even send u a friend request first hope to hear from u soon.
God Bless

[DeeDeeDeVour]

I've "read" the life of other people through their eyes not because I have a gift of insight but because their experiences are so intense that their eyes give away their lives.

[Toast792]

Not for me personally. I typically have a super blank expression (eyes included) and it freaks people out.

Hope things get better for you, just know you aren't alone.

[Dragonpurple]

I tend to be able to sense someone's pain just from their comments or pictures. Tones of voice, it never occurred to me the pictures could be the eyes.

[worldscolide]

I think you can see a persons pain through the eyes. at least i know i have seen it. I do know that it only works if that person is expressive in that manor.

[MoonNieve]

Yeah forgive me, I’ve had a bit of a bad day where I’ve had to close the door on a situation I didn’t want to, and now I’m using my writing as a release :) I’ll be ok tomorrow x

[worldscolide]

nothing to be sorry for. I hope you feel better my friend.

[exitseven]

I grew up thinking that guys didn't cry and you had to be tough. I dated somebody that really hurt me and I just sat there and absolutely showed no emotion. Sometimes I wish things were not like that.