there's a quote that goes " girls work on their beauty instead of their mind, because they know boys are stupid but they are not blind."
also there's just pressure from everyone to be beautiful.
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"also there's just pressure from everyone to be beautiful." Everyone is a strong word. Define everyone, because I only see the media and other females telling women that looks are the most important thing!
P. S. A quote calling men or women stupid is gender bashing. I don't approve of any form of gender bashing
it's not bashing a gender. chill. it's just an old quote. the point of the quote is to say that women focus on their looks because that's what they know for sure men will pay attention to. and i say everyone in a loose way. men and women alike focus on looks.
I have some things to clear up: "men and women alike focus on looks" Yeah, men TOTALLY shave their legs, armpits, condition their hair, wear high heels, wear makeup, and wear lipstick! NOT! XD Men don't care that much about looks, whether it be their own, or the girl they love.
" women focus on their looks because that's what they know for sure men will pay attention to" True to some degree, but women place too high of a value on looks. They forget and neglect the things that matter, like personality and who you are as an individual on the inside!
I have to disagree on this one. I think men do what they feel they need to do so that women will find them attractive just like women do. and I think many men do care about a females appearance especially their girlfriends. Guy's don't date the un attractive girl for her personality. thats just in books and movies. I think guys want an attractive girl who also has some personality just like girls want the same in guys. and i wouldn't say women neglect their personality or being who they are. That's important to us too. But no ones gonna ask questions like "how do i make myself a more kind person?" because that's sort of thing you keep to yourself and work on internally.
"Guy's don't date the un attractive girl for her personality. thats just in books and movies." XD The last time I checked, it was the other way around. The media displays guys going for the attractive girls! Shows like: Friends 2 And A Half Men And others verify this for me.
"I think guys want an attractive girl who also has some personality just like girls want the same in guys." You are making a mistake that many women make, which is why I asked this question: You are placing too high of a value on looks. Most women do! But no ones gonna ask questions like "how do i make myself a more kind person?" Actually, you're wrong. People ask questions like that more then you'd think: www.girlsaskguys.com/search Just because YOU wouldn't ask that, it doesn't mean that other people wouldn't!
yea i'm sure some people do ask those questions but i don't think most people do. "The media displays guys going for the attractive girls!" yea thats exactly what I'm saying. guys like attractive girls. How is saying that people want looks and personality in a partner placing too high of a value on looks? looks are important to some degree in a relationship. so is personality.
"How is saying that people want looks and personality in a partner placing too high of a value on looks?" We're not talking about relationships. We're talking about women caring TOO MUCH about physical appearance in general.
No matter how beautiful a girl is never is happy with her body. And when she is, becomes a lesbian and cruel, and mean with guys.. So, mostly girls need to hear compliments every day, like a flower needs water and sun"
No, I disagree. Appearance is such a pivotal domain in their lives because it's the main factor that makes a man interested or not interested. We perpetuate that.
In the same fashion, women perpetuate men who indulge in status displays.
I just wanna look nice. If I look nice I feel positive, it's not always about other people or their opinions, I would Definitly not ask someone to rate me on gag or whatever that is but it makes you feel good when you take the time to look nice
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In general girls do care more about their looks than guys. Personally i dont wear makeup or high heels. But i do shave my underarms and other pubic places. I think girls are more clean and sophosticated thats why we shave more than men. But its just a part of bejng a girl. I dont think we can really help it.
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Men are valued more for what they DO and women more for how the LOOK. Neither gender is more "at fault" for that than the other and it's not something that's ever going to change. It's human nature and it's part of our genetic makeup.
I will say this though... if most men had their way women would wear A LOT LESS makeup.
i think women can place too much emphasis on looks. Guys want personality, being pretty/sexy/hot/whatever else is extra. There are guys that are smart and not necessarily the cutest or hottest and they dont get chances because looks hold them back.
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Yes! But think about for a second why. If we dont look like sexy hotties, no guy wants us.
We need to be in shape and thin, but have big butt and boobs. We should wear make up or we are ugly, but not too much. We should look good and attractive and dress so that our figure shows, but still not look slutty.
And that is just a small part of things we "should" do. Also often if we refuse to do some things we are "lazy" or "feminazis"
Guys who demand what you say are guys who like insecure women. Abusers like insecure women. Guys like that are the ones who will more easily approach a woman and some women only know these kind of guys.
Of course we do! Appearance is everything! Life is much harder when you don’t care about how you look. maybe I am being dramatic but this is the truth in my life
Girls spend HOURS a day getting ready to look their best for that day and the days to come. Anyone can improve their looks greatly with the time and some money so spend an hour a day to improve yourself
And to be honest i dont blame them, you can say its shallow or whatever but im not going to be interested in someone who doesn't take a little bit of time a day to do basic stuff to take care of their body..
Lol I like how you mentioned conditioning hair as a ridiculous beauty treatment. If you have hair past your ears, you HAVE to condition it for it to be manageable.
And just remember WHY girls torture themselves.
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"And just remember WHY girls torture themselves." ... I was never told why... I think...
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I do not care even a little. I do not need any confirmation. I like what i see. That counts for me more.
i like this answer. we should all strive to be more like this.
Lol thanks :) @backdoorman
there's a quote that goes " girls work on their beauty instead of their mind, because they know boys are stupid but they are not blind."
also there's just pressure from everyone to be beautiful.
"also there's just pressure from everyone to be beautiful."
Everyone is a strong word. Define everyone, because I only see the media and other females telling women that looks are the most important thing!
P. S. A quote calling men or women stupid is gender bashing. I don't approve of any form of gender bashing
it's not bashing a gender. chill. it's just an old quote. the point of the quote is to say that women focus on their looks because that's what they know for sure men will pay attention to.
and i say everyone in a loose way. men and women alike focus on looks.
I have some things to clear up:
"men and women alike focus on looks"
Yeah, men TOTALLY shave their legs, armpits, condition their hair, wear high heels, wear makeup, and wear lipstick! NOT! XD Men don't care that much about looks, whether it be their own, or the girl they love.
" women focus on their looks because that's what they know for sure men will pay attention to"
True to some degree, but women place too high of a value on looks. They forget and neglect the things that matter, like personality and who you are as an individual on the inside!
I have to disagree on this one. I think men do what they feel they need to do so that women will find them attractive just like women do. and I think many men do care about a females appearance especially their girlfriends. Guy's don't date the un attractive girl for her personality. thats just in books and movies. I think guys want an attractive girl who also has some personality just like girls want the same in guys.
and i wouldn't say women neglect their personality or being who they are. That's important to us too. But no ones gonna ask questions like "how do i make myself a more kind person?" because that's sort of thing you keep to yourself and work on internally.
"Guy's don't date the un attractive girl for her personality. thats just in books and movies."
XD The last time I checked, it was the other way around. The media displays guys going for the attractive girls! Shows like:
Friends
2 And A Half Men
And others verify this for me.
"I think guys want an attractive girl who also has some personality just like girls want the same in guys." You are making a mistake that many women make, which is why I asked this question: You are placing too high of a value on looks. Most women do!
But no ones gonna ask questions like "how do i make myself a more kind person?"
Actually, you're wrong. People ask questions like that more then you'd think:
www.girlsaskguys.com/search
Just because YOU wouldn't ask that, it doesn't mean that other people wouldn't!
yea i'm sure some people do ask those questions but i don't think most people do.
"The media displays guys going for the attractive girls!" yea thats exactly what I'm saying. guys like attractive girls.
How is saying that people want looks and personality in a partner placing too high of a value on looks? looks are important to some degree in a relationship. so is personality.
also in the examples you showed me of people asking of ways to improve their personalities, it was only 3 people.
"How is saying that people want looks and personality in a partner placing too high of a value on looks?"
We're not talking about relationships. We're talking about women caring TOO MUCH about physical appearance in general.
well then i already answered your question.
I see more fat and ugly women with boyfriends and husbands than fat and/or ugly males with girlfriends and wives.
As do I. Women think we care about looks WAY more then we actually do!
No matter how beautiful a girl is
never is happy with her body.
And when she is, becomes a lesbian
and cruel, and mean with guys..
So, mostly girls need to hear compliments
every day, like a flower needs water and sun"
I see a lot of guys ask to be rated as well. Anyway, I do wish girls in general would be a little more secure with themselves.
If we compare it with men. We definitely care more than them.
No, I disagree. Appearance is such a pivotal domain in their lives because it's the main factor that makes a man interested or not interested. We perpetuate that.
In the same fashion, women perpetuate men who indulge in status displays.
I just wanna look nice. If I look nice I feel positive, it's not always about other people or their opinions, I would Definitly not ask someone to rate me on gag or whatever that is but it makes you feel good when you take the time to look nice
In general girls do care more about their looks than guys. Personally i dont wear makeup or high heels. But i do shave my underarms and other pubic places. I think girls are more clean and sophosticated thats why we shave more than men. But its just a part of bejng a girl. I dont think we can really help it.
Men are valued more for what they DO and women more for how the LOOK. Neither gender is more "at fault" for that than the other and it's not something that's ever going to change. It's human nature and it's part of our genetic makeup.
I will say this though... if most men had their way women would wear A LOT LESS makeup.
If women cared less about physical appearance maybe they wouldn't be so insecure.
yes its nice to take care of our appearance... but we are not to be blamed for this because guys mostly rely upon appearances
On point
yeah but some guy has downvoted me for telling the truth.. not cool
Yes, not to mention women care about the men's looks too much too.
i think women can place too much emphasis on looks. Guys want personality, being pretty/sexy/hot/whatever else is extra. There are guys that are smart and not necessarily the cutest or hottest and they dont get chances because looks hold them back.
Yes! But think about for a second why. If we dont look like sexy hotties, no guy wants us.
We need to be in shape and thin, but have big butt and boobs. We should wear make up or we are ugly, but not too much. We should look good and attractive and dress so that our figure shows, but still not look slutty.
And that is just a small part of things we "should" do. Also often if we refuse to do some things we are "lazy" or "feminazis"
Guys who demand what you say are guys who like insecure women. Abusers like insecure women. Guys like that are the ones who will more easily approach a woman and some women only know these kind of guys.
Kep79 you put in words what i've been trying to say for years! Fantastic analysis :D
I think thats true. They want insecure woman to match their own insecurity. Woman that is easy to control and ruke
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Of course we do! Appearance is everything! Life is much harder when you don’t care about how you look. maybe I am being dramatic but this is the truth in my life
Girls spend HOURS a day getting ready to look their best for that day and the days to come. Anyone can improve their looks greatly with the time and some money so spend an hour a day to improve yourself
And to be honest i dont blame them, you can say its shallow or whatever but im not going to be interested in someone who doesn't take a little bit of time a day to do basic stuff to take care of their body..
Lol I like how you mentioned conditioning hair as a ridiculous beauty treatment. If you have hair past your ears, you HAVE to condition it for it to be manageable.
And just remember WHY girls torture themselves.
"And just remember WHY girls torture themselves."
... I was never told why... I think...
As they have got negative habits to envision about a prince with white horse, it's on the increasing trend.
Guys are more physical while girls can be won over by charm sometimes.
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