How can I compete with another (very pretty) girl who wants to steal my boyfriend? How can I keep him interested in me? (Page 2)

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I can't say about myself that i'm pretty, but I also have a really low self esteem due to a tormented chieldhood. Even so, I ended up with Mr. Perfect. He's tall, handsome, well built, perfect smile, perfect attitude, smart, knows what he wants, he was the most popular and handsome guy in school... anyway you get the idea. He's basically almost every woman's dream. Now... the thing is... we were best friends and we ended up toghether... we've been dating for almost 2 and a half years. The problem is that he is a very wanted guy. A lot of pretty girls want him, and by that I don't play the jelous girlfriend, I actually see them flirting with him, Facebook messageing and the look on their faces. But I'm used to it, most of the time it amuses me how they try to get his attention but he's all over me. The problem here is that there is this one girl, who is absolutely gorgeous, and by that I mean drop. dead. beautiful. she has amazing body and face... and she keeps on showing up almost everywhere we go. And it's a big city here. This  Friday  we went to a club and she was already there (that was a coincidance) and i didn't notice her. My boyfriwnd did, talked like a minute to her, she asked him if I was there, when my boy confirmed my presence she laughed sarcastically, and after that my boy went on his way to the second floor where I was and where after 10 min that girl changed places and came up on the same floor as us where she began indirect flirting by danceing a few feet away in a very provocative manner, trying to tempt my boyfriend to go to her or notice her. I mean, how couldn't you? She was the epitome of beauty danceing right in my boyfriends face. Anyway... all I want is some advice as to how can I work this out. How can I be better than her, how can I keep my boyfriend from fleeing, I know he's faithfull but I'm still a bit on edge...(I'm sorry for any grammar mistake I made,  English  is not my native language and thank you for reading)

Vinvei · Answer

If you think that girl is prettier than you then she must be not from this planet.

You're very pretty in my opinion from what I see from your picture. Be more confident! What men see as beautiful in women can be very different from what women see as beautiful in other women ;)

reptocarl · Answer

There's not much you can do. You could beat the shit out of this flirt and tell her to stay away. Outside of that its up to him

truthhurtshuh · Answer

Have da confidence that ur high class and if he wants to find another then let em go. Us guys most of the time can't turn off the lust switch. Dont matter if ur Halley Barry, if keke from round da corner with ass is offering then he may c if he can get away with it. Not all guys so curb em and keep searching, they out there

Mihikko · Answer

Insecurities doesn't help, be yourself and confident, avoid negativity.. No one can compete with a good personality than a pretty face so just act normal and make an effort to make your boyfriend love you more like maybe cook for him.

Jerusha · Answer

He chose you, so the competition is over. You won. ^.^

No, seriously. One of the deadly things to a relationship is insecurity. There will always be someone better, someone prettier, you have to make yourself special in your own way.

JuicyBrain · Answer

There is no doubt. You are pretty. I think maybe your boyfriend is just profiting from those women's attention. He would have been crazy not to watch her dance if she was that beautiful. I think he knows what he wants and he can make a difference between a floozie and his girlfriend. He just watched the free show. Just tell your boyfriend: "You know what she's doing right?"

CCurlz120 · Answer

No such thing as the perfect guy or gal. If he leaves you for her because of her "looks" I would throw out all of the tall, dark, handsome crap that you care about, out the window because that is all superficial and shallow qualities to base a relationship on anyhow. Be true to yourself and your man and if he is good enough for you... that's right... then he will do the same for you.

Anonymous · Answer

I love when girls ask guys for opinions and then find another females opinion most helpful.

Here's a GUY's honest truth.
Chris Rock said it best. "A guy is only as faithful as his options"
You boyfriend has seen you naked (or done stuff with you), and he hasn't seen her naked (or done stuff with her)... therefore he will be filled with the desire to see the new, experience the new. REGARDLESS of how he feels for you! That drive will be there. We don't care about "better looking" or how they compare to you. We only care about "old and new".
That being said... it doesn't mean he will bow to that desire. If you are the cool girlfriend, he will most likely suppress that desire because he doesn't want to ruin a good thing. But if you become naggy, or insecure constantly about it, then he is more likely to see her as a better option.

SomethingWicked · Answer

Sounds like you don't need to do anything. It appears he's only interested in you.

Karas40 · Answer

Simple, don't compete, be yourself... if he steers away from you in her direction then he was never worth it to begin with... and certainly not deeply in love with you...

His_Baby · Answer

Nobody can be "stolen" they have to want to leave. If he is any decent boyfriend, you shouldn't feel like you have to compete with any other girl for his affection/attentions or anything else!

rUinSAYAN · Answer

nah, just the title says you are trying to avoid what can't be avoided.

you can't control your guy nor tell him what hiw preferences should be. the only thing you can do is make things worse by going psychopatic and jellyf8sh.

SuperMommie13 · Answer

Just tell your man how you feel about her. If he leaves you for her then he's not the one you want to be with anyways.

ThisAndThat · Answer

You are with him and he's with you and yet you are already looking at her as the winer. Tune her out I think is your best answer.

Hans222 · Answer

Just be sweet and make sure you stay in his heart :D
If he's an honest guy he'll simply tell her he's not single. Don't try to realize that with sexy clothes and make-up, do it with you nice personality. If he likes that he'll be a stayer :D

Anonymous · Answer

Always spice things up with different clothes, shoes, makeup, and new excited things with sex. Try a new perfume or lingerie. Be confident. I'm sure you're super pretty though. Leave him a love note or have quickie sex in a new unique place. Flirt with him in public.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm sorry I don't believe that women can steal a persons bf  He has to want to leave on his own will Boyfriends are not property.

Anonymous · Answer

Well it sounds like you are going to have to tell this girl something because she is flirting with a taken man or you could wait it out and she might back off... shoot must be feel good to be in his shoes haha

Anonymous · Answer

Might I recommend a few drops of potassium cyanide in her drink.

Flawless_Glamorous · Answer

You're beautiful, once you believe that you will show a good change with your boyfriend. He probably notices her trying too hard and doesn't pay her as close attention as you think.

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