Do insecure people annoy you?

[Anonymous]

I've always been secretly annoyed by girls who are constantly asking how they look, apologizing, excluding themselves because they don't think they can do something, or worse, excluding themselves because they're worried they won't look good doing it. I've never said anything to these types of girls for fear of giving them more reason to be insecure, so instead I'll give them compliments, hoping to build their self-esteem, but nothing ever changes. I end up feeling so frustrated with these girls and end up avoiding them until we just drift apart as friends. I can't tell if I'm a terrible person or if other people get annoyed by them as well...

Yes, they can be a little annoying.

No, I don't find it annoying.

[AshleyWells25]

I completely agree with you insecure people are annoying. Mainly because they're always uncomfortable with themselves, and yes I know everyone gets uncomfortable but the difference between everyone and insecure people is that most people try to do better. Insecure people give up and then complain about how hard they tried when in reality they tried like four times and then gave up.
And to me, that's the thing that's most annoying about insecure people, they give up on themselves and then become dependent on others to make them feel good when in actuality they themselves are the only ones who can make themselves feel good. They are their own bully (in their mind) which means nobody can go in their mind and fight their own battles for them and if you do, you will forever fight their battles for them because you're enabling them to do it themselves which allows them to procrastinate, be lazy, make excuses and give up because You Are Always Doing Things For Them, instead of insisting them to try do things themselves, so they can know how to do things without you but since most people enabled insecure people by trying to be "nice" to them they will forever depend on people to fight their battles and issues for them so until they can stand up to their issues and shortcomings they'll never be happy on their own no matter how hard you try to help them.

And this is not intended to be a jab at insecure people although it sounds like it. Hell, I was an insecure person too! I believe everyone in the world is or has been. My issue was being a people please but I got over it by being broken down constantly by being treated like shit and I had to stop and think to myself Why do I keep doing this? Is their happiness really worth more than mines?
The answer is obviously No and from that point on I have been able to do things I like to do without the worries of others disapproval and yea obviously it might not be that easy for most insecure people to just gain confidence because you may have more issues that are way worse than that or just different. But like anything in this world you must work hard to change or do better because just giving up and complaining does change anything.

I just feel like everyone can be a confident person within themselves no matter how bad they think they can't change or do better. If they stop being making excuses and being a bully to themselves.

And just sit down and try to understand their insecurities, accept it or change it.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand why any time people discuss insecurity in girls they assume all insecure girls are primarily concerned with the way they look.

I'm very insecure myself, and no I'm not super happy with my appearance but its not what holds me back from shit. Its not what makes me shy.

Let me give you some perspective.
My entire life my mother has criticized everything I do. The way I run, walk, talk, kick a ball, brush my teeth, even the way I put peanut butter on a piece of bread. When I would go bowling as a kid she'd laugh and record me just to laugh some more later. If I asked to join a sport she'd break into hysterical laughter and tell me I can't run right or throw a ball right (I was 6 and wanted to play soccer. SIX!)
Still to this day she makes fun of me for everything I do. I just started making macaroni and cheese and she stopped me and told me to let her do it because I make the worst mac and cheese anyone's ever made. Tf?

So seriously, these issues go way way way deeper than you think. It isn't "aw pooey I look stupid doing this! Am I ugly? Am I? Tell me I'm pretty!1!"

Its more like... I hate everything about myself and anytime I do anything I am afraid that everyone will laugh at me. It causes me some extreme stress and anxiety.

[Asker]

I didn't say it was all about appearance. Trust me, I have my own story as well, and perspective to go along with it. I just feel like some people like to throw themselves a pity party rather than bettering themselves and growing from their experiences. I know it goes deeper, but rising above and shaping your own reality runs even deeper.

[Opinion Owner]

Well I'm willing to bet 90% of the girls who go around telling everyone they're insecure aren't actually insecure. They want attention.

I have never said "I'm so insecure" outloud.

[sammy_31]

I'm only annoyed by the ones that go back and forth with their insecurities by that I mean the ones who just seek attention and "feel" insecure when they're really not.

[Asker]

I feel that way with the whole "How do I look?" section of GaG. I always want to comment "Do you genuinely not know how you look, or do you know that you look hot and just want compliments?" lmao

[sammy_31]

I don't even bother honestly, legit I pretend I didn't see those. lol For reeeeeeeeaaaallllll! xD

[Anonymous]

Its easy for people like you to say such things, Im sure you have probably grown up, Nice body, Supportive family, Large group of friends all in a nice environment, But well some people haven't.

Take me, I grew up Obese as a child, Bullied every day of my schooling life, I had no friends because i was scared they would think of me as 'Their fat friend'. During all this i was completely alone socially and family wise,

My dad always worked and drank, My mom was always in and out of hospital and my sister was always guranteed to make me feel worse. And all my Grandparents were either dead or lives in other countries, So i basically had no family to rely on. I was a self sufficient child.

As of now im 16, Lost weight (Still not at my goal yet), But until you know the feeling, Of people actively looking at you with nasty looks, Whispering about you right next to you, Staring at you and laughing to their friends all the time having noone in your life to turn to then dont be so judgmental. People like you annoy me, You are too short sighted to see that some people have insecurities. I dont get bullied now anywhere near the level i did, But i still look in the mirror and feel sick about my body and how others will judge me. And believe me, Even the nicest people judge you, You can see it in their eyes.

Beauty is only skin deep. And until you have a bad outer layer you dont know what insecurity is.

[Asker]

I just find it amusing that just because I show confidence, you assume that I didn't have any struggles as well. We all have insecurities and our own sad stories, and a lot of us have tried so hard to rise above that we hate to see people throw themselves pity-parties. I'm a firm believer that we create our own realities, and though we can't change all aspects of our lives, we can improve them and better our own circumstances. Trust me, I know what it's like, but people who sit and wallow in their own misery is what bothers me.

[Opinion Owner]

Whilst i am not annoyed by People who have genuine, Visible insecurities, What does annoy me is when you get those Borderline Annorexic girls who have spent there entire lives at the centre of attention and the most ''Popular'' kid in school, And they always cry about how they are ''Really fat'' and all that bollocks, And they keep saying it until someone says something like ''no your not your fine !''. Those people really grind my gears when they use insecurities as a means of attention seeking.

[aamy811]

I don't find them annoying because I'm one of those girls. I don't really act self conscious or show that I am (I typically come off as the more confident friend), but I'm definitely not comfortable with myself or the way I look.
I've not got swimming with friend many of time because I'm really just not comfortable being in a swimsuit, I've slipped going to the mall or to a party because I don't like the way I look, and I've missed out on several occasions.
I don't miss out on huge things but small things here and there. I dot really want to be those way but I am and I understand how hard it can be for other people

[Asker]

That's normal though. I've gotten a pimple and decided to stay home from a party and watch netflix because of it lmao I'm talking about the kind of shy girls that can't stop talking about how shit they feel about themselves. I feel like they're having a pity party for themselves all the time, and it's so self-absorbed in a sense.

[BushBabyBoo]

You can't expect one compliment to cure a girl of her insecurities.

[Asker]

I'm not saying that it should, just that I get annoyed by that kind of behaviour after a while.

[BaileyJansen]

I'm one of those girls, so I'd need to basically find myself annoying

[Asker]

Why are you insecure?

[Anonymous]

It's annoying to keep reassuring them