She rejected me but why she still cares about me?

[Anonymous]

We met on a website and met up for a coffee date, she is physcially very very attractive and she seems to be very inteligent, she is very feminine yet with a guy styyle sense of humor, what's more important is she seem very loving and I can totally picture myself with her.

After first date i told her I like to catc up again she told me sure, when I call her she told me she sees me as a friend and hope it's ok that we hang out as friends and she said that cos she didn't want to lead me on.

Since then she would still text me to check in and she is very caring and asking about my cold / back and such.

She said she doesn't want to lead me on but the level of her caring seems a bit too much for just a friend? What does she want?

[Antizzl]

Who cares what she wants. Do you want to be friend zoned or do you want a relationship or actually get laid by something more than your hand? If you pick A keep doing what you're doing. If you pick B drop the dead weight and the hope of she's gonna come around. You met her ass in a website. Sweet there are 50 million other chicks to the roll the dice on. If you're as old as your age bracket claims haven't you played the "I see as a friend or you're like a brother to me" enough? I don't see how anybody can get so wrapped up in something or someone that isn't going to grow and has actually been cut off at the root. I'm gonna say it again. Be about your money first. Because love is played out like Cavaricci's.

[Asker]

Damn right there are many chicks out there. This one is a model who cook and clean and went to college. She is also very athletic and good with finance. She is almost perfect. I have not yet met any other girl like her.

What do I want? I blocked her on the website and actively looking for other girls. However I can't get my mind off her and whenever she checks in on me I smile like a dork...

[Antizzl]

She's just fucking with your mind. You went on one date everybody cooks and cleans. She went to college big whoop. My 17 yr old niece went to college. Doesn't make her Ivy League SEC or PAC 12. You can't even prove any of her claims. She may be athletic so is half of America. She's good with finances. So am I. Are you not as well? She is a model, or has model good looks? Doesn't matter because looks fade anyway. So what is her contingency plan? Look man I'm not trying to bust your balls over this chick. If it were me I wouldn't smile like a dork when she checks in on me I would shake my damn head and laugh a little as I deleted that stupid bitches text. Good luck though man. Who knows maybe you can turn her ass around. You may have come off a little too eager with the 2nd date bullshit. Next time go on a first date be a slight asshole. Then she will be intrigued as to why you're not rimming her model ass. It will force her to play a different hand than pulling the friend zone card.

[Antizzl]

This one though is a wash.

[Asker]

I've seen her work, she is a model. When I say she cooks and clean she shown me pictures of her cooking. If she sell a cookbook I will buy it. Her cooking looks THAT good, Good with finance as it she is living in good area and she has her own investment properties in good area as well.

You might be trying to help me here but calling her name is a bit over the top. If she wants to lead me on she can or she can simply vanish like most of those girls do out there.

[Antizzl]

Not calling her a bitch dude. Putting myself in your situation. Was actually thinking of a "bitch" I know when I wrote it. It's not over the top. You just don't see the world as I do. There's nothing wrong with that. If I can shed light great but I'm not trying to help you. I'm giving my opinion. 99% of the questions asked here can be answered by the asker. You're no different. If it really doesn't matter if she leads you on or vanishes like the others then it really doesn't matter why she cares about you does it? See how it easy it is.

[Balcazaurus]

She cares because she values you. Even though it's not at the romantic level, it is still love. And the love others feel for you is something you should value as well.

[Asker]

Her caring does seem very sincere.

[RationalLioness]

She seems like a very genuine friend to me, a woman who cares about those she considers friends and checks up with them. That's how I am with people. What she wants is what she said: a friendship.

She's not sending any mixed signals from what I can see.

[Asker]

I guess I should take it as a compliment

[RationalLioness]

You should.

[Anonymous]

May be she really like to be your friend?

[Anonymous]

well she kinda made it clear she didn't wanted to lead you on, but she as the one who is checking on you is refreshing, most i heard about girls rejecting a guy leaves them high and dry, but just enjoy the friendship but don't be afraid to create some distance if you can't get over her, you should be looking for the next girl

[Asker]

Right so I'm better than being ignored

[Opinion Owner]

yea but you have to be a real friend now, and by that I mean like how you would treat your other friends, don't be accommodating, you should just tell her up front look I can't be friends right now, I just need some time to get over you and maybe we can be friends again sometime in the future,

[Asker]

Been there done that. Told her I need a break and one week later she text me to check in with the injuries I told her previously.

[Bluemax]

She wants you to be her friend. She cares for you as a human being, but not on a romantic level. It's up to you to decide where to go from there.

[been_waiting]

She likes you as a friend as she's already stated

[xxbebosxx]

Friend zoned 101