If your "Hot" and do something (anything more or less) and a non-hot guy does the exact same thing, your cute and he's a creep. Its how you look, not what you do.
its the same as. why do girls go to the bathroom as a group? Its a girl thing,and not a lot of girls do it, so if she is calling you creepy, maybe its how you are acting. otherwise I wouldn't really too much into it.
My co-worker's wife told her husband I was creepy so she could flirt with me and not alert her hubby. He felt perfectly safe leaving his beautiful wife alone with me.
So that isn't necessarily always the case.
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we are bitches, who easily judge. well most of the time. sometimes it depends on the guy. if there is a guy wearing strange clothes and saying weird stuff, then of course I am going to think he is creepy
I don't agree that girls should label a shy guy creepy...you should give him credit and be honored that he even has interest in you...especially when there are so many other girls out there.
I completely agree...it is a girls fault, it's not fair that they complain about aguy being a creep while they want their attention - that's stupid. I always say 'listen, I'm really not interested but I'm flattered so thanks'..if he sticks around after I've made my position clear, it's not right
Don't you think it's a little harsh to put someone who's just shy or introverted under the same roof as someone who's too sexually aggressive or mentally unstable? Since when did being shy make a guy dangerous or a bad person?
Women put them under the same roof all the time. Come on now. Be honest.
You are going to act the same way, and feel the same way so for you women it is the same.
And what's funny is that when a guy gets super touchy feely with her and does it like its normal an natural, or has been touching her all night and built it up to where its comfortable, suddenly touchy feely is nice and not creepy at all. Even if its technically more touchy than the last creepy guy that touched her.
You can't make a sweeping generalization like that about all women.
I still stand my remark that when a guy does something creepy (like seeming far too awkward or shy, says something completely strange or turns into an octopus) that makes him unattractive in my eyes.
Allow me to re-iterate my point, it sounds like I misunderstood your original point. It's clear that if a guy does something too forward, such as making physical advances too early, that it will make him less attractive in the eyes of a girl (rightfully so).
However, it's also a bit frustrating that women seem to immediately judge a guy who is less extroverted as being "awkward" and therefore "creepy".
Basically, this puts guys in an odd position because it's unclear just how "forward" he should be. If he's forward, some girls will call him a creep for making them uncomfortable.
If he's reserved, girls will still call him a creep because he appears socially awkward. The difference is that the more shy guy hasn't actually done anything to directly make the girl uncomfortable. He's actually "just being himself". Yet he's presumed to be a creeper by default.
Furthermore, it's made even more frustrating because women a girl behaves in a more reserved manner, it's not seen as creepy at all. In fact, some men prefer a girl who's more quiet and shy.
Overanalyzing? We're on a website that's purpose is to discuss and analyze the actions of both genders. If I were to go into this much analysis at a party...yea, that would be weird.
I guess the end point is that it's tiresome to see people passing judgment on each other so easily.
@Forte I can understand how women feel... sometimes... but since I side with logic, I have to give you the props. You made sense and she was struggling to make sense.
I'll never call a guy creepy again. Last time I did the [17 year old] guy found out and punched a hole into a wall. o.O Which kinda proved my point.
The only time I'll 'think' a guy is creepy, is if he is. If he acts like he likes me a little too much (aka creeper) then I'll think he's creepy. But that's my limit on being harsh.
What does liking you a little too much mean? Is it better he likes you too much or not at all?
Is it just another word for clingy? When girls are a little too attention seeking, like a friends sister who keeps hugging your leg, I think of it as clingy. Is creeper the male equivalent?
When I think of creepy, I think of a seedy guy hanging out by himself staring at some girls from a far. Thinking sexual thoughts about them. But judging by this topic, I got it wrong.
I wish I knew the answer to this. I showed interest a few months ago to a girl who had a boyfriend, and bam, I was viewed as a creepy "lurker". Which was simply not true. I'd blame it on immaturity.
I also hate how "attractive" guys can leave (what I'd call creepy) comments on pics or whatever on MySpace/Facebook and its ok... Or an attractive guy can throw out "i love you" immediately after meeting a girl he's attracted to or something and that's ok too.
cause they had a bad day and decided your the unlucky guy they're gonna make feel bad about yourself so they can feel a bit better about themselves... cause some of em are just bitches like that.
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women are more immature than men, they like to thik otherwise, but their behavior and actions speak for themselves
Thats not really creepy though, is it? I mean, that's just being stupid. Creepy would be like, building a table out of your stray hairs, or something, LOL.
If they tell you "No" once and you keep trying, that's when it gets creepy.
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It would only affect you if you are really "creepy" if you are not then that's just another word. Just like how girls call guys jerk, and asholes just another word.
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I don't do that. I only call guys who are actually creepy, well, creepy. Only if I don't like a guy but he still pushes for me to date him or sends texts that are flirty and I clearly told him not to do that, would I consider him a creep.
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its massive double standards.
If your "Hot" and do something (anything more or less) and a non-hot guy does the exact same thing, your cute and he's a creep. Its how you look, not what you do.
its the same as. why do girls go to the bathroom as a group? Its a girl thing,and not a lot of girls do it, so if she is calling you creepy, maybe its how you are acting. otherwise I wouldn't really too much into it.
My co-worker's wife told her husband I was creepy so she could flirt with me and not alert her hubby. He felt perfectly safe leaving his beautiful wife alone with me.
So that isn't necessarily always the case.
we are bitches, who easily judge. well most of the time. sometimes it depends on the guy. if there is a guy wearing strange clothes and saying weird stuff, then of course I am going to think he is creepy
What are strange clothes?
I don't agree that girls should label a shy guy creepy...you should give him credit and be honored that he even has interest in you...especially when there are so many other girls out there.
it's the guys that don't leave you alone after you've told them NO THANKS you call a creep..for me, anyways
I've never had a girl tell me NO THANKS. if I did then I would leave them alone. It's their fault if they didn't make their feelings clear.
I completely agree...it is a girls fault, it's not fair that they complain about aguy being a creep while they want their attention - that's stupid. I always say 'listen, I'm really not interested but I'm flattered so thanks'..if he sticks around after I've made my position clear, it's not right
because the unwanted forwardness of a guy we find unattractive grosses us out, and creepy is a good word to describe that.
i don't. I call the guy I went out with just now a lying cheating douche which is so true and he's creepy too. his face is creepy.
When a guy does something creepy it makes him unattractive is better wording for it.
I don't like when a guy is too awkward or shy, or says something totally weird, or makes physical advances far too early.
Don't you think it's a little harsh to put someone who's just shy or introverted under the same roof as someone who's too sexually aggressive or mentally unstable? Since when did being shy make a guy dangerous or a bad person?
When someone is a total introvert it's just awkward, hence creepy. You need to come out of your shell a little bit, at least on a date!
You're taking my words out of context. I don't like when a guy gets too touchy too early on a date, I don't mean he's trying to rape me.
And when did I mention mentally unstable?
And I never said being creepy automatically makes someone dangerous or a bad person.
I think you're over-analyzing. Everything. It's creepy. ^.^
Women put them under the same roof all the time. Come on now. Be honest.
You are going to act the same way, and feel the same way so for you women it is the same.
And what's funny is that when a guy gets super touchy feely with her and does it like its normal an natural, or has been touching her all night and built it up to where its comfortable, suddenly touchy feely is nice and not creepy at all. Even if its technically more touchy than the last creepy guy that touched her.
You can't make a sweeping generalization like that about all women.
I still stand my remark that when a guy does something creepy (like seeming far too awkward or shy, says something completely strange or turns into an octopus) that makes him unattractive in my eyes.
Allow me to re-iterate my point, it sounds like I misunderstood your original point. It's clear that if a guy does something too forward, such as making physical advances too early, that it will make him less attractive in the eyes of a girl (rightfully so).
However, it's also a bit frustrating that women seem to immediately judge a guy who is less extroverted as being "awkward" and therefore "creepy".
Basically, this puts guys in an odd position because it's unclear just how "forward" he should be. If he's forward, some girls will call him a creep for making them uncomfortable.
If he's reserved, girls will still call him a creep because he appears socially awkward. The difference is that the more shy guy hasn't actually done anything to directly make the girl uncomfortable. He's actually "just being himself". Yet he's presumed to be a creeper by default.
Furthermore, it's made even more frustrating because women a girl behaves in a more reserved manner, it's not seen as creepy at all. In fact, some men prefer a girl who's more quiet and shy.
Overanalyzing? We're on a website that's purpose is to discuss and analyze the actions of both genders. If I were to go into this much analysis at a party...yea, that would be weird.
I guess the end point is that it's tiresome to see people passing judgment on each other so easily.
You can think what you want, but awkward and creepy aren't the same things.
You also can't make a sweeping generalization on all shy or awkward men.
Jesus. Are women completely devoid of logic?
@Forte I can understand how women feel... sometimes... but since I side with logic, I have to give you the props. You made sense and she was struggling to make sense.
A good friend of mine said something once that was very interesting.
If the girl doesn't like you, you are creepy. If she likes you, you are Romantic.
I'll never call a guy creepy again. Last time I did the [17 year old] guy found out and punched a hole into a wall. o.O Which kinda proved my point.
The only time I'll 'think' a guy is creepy, is if he is. If he acts like he likes me a little too much (aka creeper) then I'll think he's creepy. But that's my limit on being harsh.
What does liking you a little too much mean? Is it better he likes you too much or not at all?
Is it just another word for clingy? When girls are a little too attention seeking, like a friends sister who keeps hugging your leg, I think of it as clingy. Is creeper the male equivalent?
When I think of creepy, I think of a seedy guy hanging out by himself staring at some girls from a far. Thinking sexual thoughts about them. But judging by this topic, I got it wrong.
I wish I knew the answer to this. I showed interest a few months ago to a girl who had a boyfriend, and bam, I was viewed as a creepy "lurker". Which was simply not true. I'd blame it on immaturity.
Agreed... I can relate.
I also hate how "attractive" guys can leave (what I'd call creepy) comments on pics or whatever on MySpace/Facebook and its ok... Or an attractive guy can throw out "i love you" immediately after meeting a girl he's attracted to or something and that's ok too.
I agree it's just immaturity
It's not your loss. You wouldn't want to put up with that kind of immaturity anyway.
Same reason we call cute girls "clingers" but we call hot girls "sweet". It's all weird man & I have no idea.
cause they had a bad day and decided your the unlucky guy they're gonna make feel bad about yourself so they can feel a bit better about themselves... cause some of em are just bitches like that.
women are more immature than men, they like to thik otherwise, but their behavior and actions speak for themselves
That's not true. Guys are creepy when they don't stop tryna talk to you and you've already made it clear you're not interested.
If you don't tell them to their face "Sorry I'm not interested" then you aren't being clear.
it's because guys we aren't attracted to approach us, hit on us, and still hang around when we give them signals to leave. thus, they are creepy.
Thats not really creepy though, is it? I mean, that's just being stupid. Creepy would be like, building a table out of your stray hairs, or something, LOL.
Yes, it's creepy. we call it creepy, for lack of a better word.
If they tell you "No" once and you keep trying, that's when it gets creepy.
It would only affect you if you are really "creepy" if you are not then that's just another word. Just like how girls call guys jerk, and asholes just another word.
I don't do that. I only call guys who are actually creepy, well, creepy. Only if I don't like a guy but he still pushes for me to date him or sends texts that are flirty and I clearly told him not to do that, would I consider him a creep.