Girls if you saw your boyfriend get beat up will you dump him?

[Anonymous]

I know some girls will lie and say no but be honest with me, if you were out somewhere in public and your boyfriend gets into a fight (not even starting the fight like a real situation to defend himself or to defend you from some guy harassing you) and he got beat up whether the fight was close or one sided will you dump him? Seriously be honest with me I even put up a poll. If you would dump him feel free to explain why. If you wouldn't dump him would you still be SEXUALLY attracted to him? thanks. By the way this didn't just happened to me I'm asking out of curiosity.

Yes

No

[Takenlove]

Hell no! I know my boyfriend would not lose in a fight because he's a black belt in karate and knows a lot of other self protection stuff and carries as backpack everywhere with a gun and different self protection things by the way his parents are police and his aloud to carry those things around lol.. But if he ever lost in a fight trying to protect me from some ass whole I wouldn't dump him at all! If the bad guy went away I'd run straight to him to help him! And I'd take care of him till he heals... And thank him for trying to help me! But it's just stupid to dump your boyfriend for losing a fight, especially if he is trying to protect you! I mean only an ungrateful idiot that doesn't see what's good and a real man in front of her would do that!! I mean seriously lol... But no I wouldn't... Instead I'd go up to him and tell him I love him! And kiss him!

[Asker]

Despite your boyfriend being a black belt at least you know shit happens sometimes. I'm glad to know you wouldn't think he's a loser or anything. I know girls like guys who protect them and it just seems that if they lost it's like the guy they lost can protect you better than he can. I know some of the stuff I'm saying may appear stupid, but it makes sense if you think about it.

[Asker]

they lost to*

[Takenlove]

I guess so it kinda does... But if she really loved her boyfriend for real she'd stay by he's side and do everything she can to raise him up in life and help him not to feel like a loser..

[Takenlove]

And reassure him that he is special I'm her heart!

[Asker]

Yeah, your right.

[BaileyisDarcy]

If anyone says yes to this Ill find them and beat their arses myself.

I already know my boyfriend would lose in a fight, am I going to leave him for it? Hell no!

Im not with him for protection. You don't have a boyfriend just in case. You get into a relationship for the emotional (and sexual) connection! Who gives a shit if they can fight?
Seriously.

Besides, if worst came to worse I would be the one protecting HIM. Those jarate lessons come in serious handy.

[Asker]

I respect your answer I really do. Us guys have some subconscious belief that if we get our asses kicked in front of our girlfriends she"ll lose respect for us... well in my case, but I'm trying to get over it.

[Floppy]

I'd like to say something funny but it actually happened to me. In college a guy took me out to dinner. We parked the car and started walking to the restaurant when a guy jumped in front of him shouting that my date cut him off in a parking lot. The guy was drunk so we sort of ignored him but the guy eventually confronted my date who put up his hands and got clobbered he fell to the ground. I started laughing. I went up to the drunk through a straight punch into his throat at his windpipe and knocked him out. Then I went over to my date and said, "do you have a boo-boo?" And we laughed about it all evening. No I didn't break up with him he was a nice guy.

[Asker]

That's awesome how you defended him like that, and nice for sticking with him.

[Floppy]

I am not a karate expert so don't think I'm bragging or anything like that. But I took one year of karate as part of my physical education requirement in college. So I straight shot him right at the throat

[Asker]

That's pretty cool, but i'm really curious. What did you go through in college that made you had to take karate for a year?

[xxThatQuietKidxx]

No, frankly that's just stupid. He had the guts to stand up and fight and take charge (especially if it was for me) I'm sorry if any of you girls answer this way but if you leave your boyfriend because he got beat up while standing up for you, he deserves better.

[Asker]

My girlfriend tells me all the time that I'm her big strong man and I can't help to think that if she saw another guy destroying me in a fight she"ll think I'm a loser and dump me. I never asked her personally though. I've been learning self defense just for this reason.

[xxThatQuietKidxx]

Well if you want to able to defend yourself that's great but don't let that thought be your only motivation. It would be simply dumb and would make me question the devotion of any girl who would do that

[Asker]

I'm a bit insecure about it. Happened to me before in public a few years ago. Also you know a website called misterpoll. com? If you type "lost fight in front of girlfriend" or something, the results are cringe worthy, but I understand what your saying. The right one won't leave.

[xxThatQuietKidxx]

Exactly. Work on you because YOU want to work on yourself not because of the fear of being left. Its silly. Work on yourself because you want to be able to defend yourself, not for what other, yes even a girlfriend thinks.

[Asker]

Your right I agree. It's amazing what insecurity can do to you. Thanks. But seriously though, have you ever seen that site?

[xxThatQuietKidxx]

Yeah trust me I'm right there with ya, I have a list of my own. No I've never heard of it.

[Asker]

This is just one of my few. And you should type in that question I said on that site, that's one of the reasons I had to ask this question.

[Tammy94]

Yeah, it's all about physical strength and getting into fights. If a man is caring, responsible, faithful, intelligent, has a good job with high pay, attractive, and treats me like a princess, but he gets beat up by some stupid druggie thug with a tire iron, I'm so throwing him out of my life.

[Asker]

Hey, I had to ask.

[Tammy94]

Sorry if I was snippy, but I did want to put things into perspective. Maybe there are girls who want a guy who gets in fights and beats people up and don't care as much about the other stuff, but I'm not one of them.

[Asker]

That's fine. Your right and I try to avoid them. Glad to hear.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, no I would not break up with him. I believe in the motto: you lose some, you win some. Contrary to today's society, but men do not always have to be big, bad and tough. He doesn't have to win a fight to show that he's a man. Personally, I think that when a man loses a fight, he is being a man cause he can take defeat and grow stronger from it. Anyways, no, I wouldn't leave my boyfriend if he got beat up, especially since it wasn't his fault. I'd take care of him for sure though. And I would still be sexually attracted to him, but for me, that has nothing to do with him getting beat up lol. If I was sexually attracted to him before, that won't change for me.

[Asker]

Your right. I wish we all could have that mentality. It is tough to ignore biology though. Usually women want the big strong masculine man and losing a fight kind of takes away that imagine of you (well in some women's eyes). I'm trying to work on getting rid of this insecurity I have but it's going to take time.

[Mimi12345678]

Maybe! I just had this situation happen to me few days ago and I can’t get over it!
Me and my boyfriend were in his car (at a red light) 2 guys from the car infront of us came to his window and the moment he opened his window to understand what they want (and maybe scold them for literally breaking the law by getting out of a car in a red light) a guy reached with both of his hands and started beating him and slapping his face. I tried protecting him by putting my arm on him so i got also injured.
Anyways, since that day (5 days now) I can’t look at him the same! I really love him trust me i do... but everytime i try to forget it happened i still see the look he had on his face while being beaten up!!
I don't know what to do or what to think...

[Anonymous]

I actually had a boyfriend who got beat up and no I didn't dump him. I am gonna be really honest, even later on, the fact that he got his ass kicked did make him less sexually attractive, and I am guilty of fantasizing about the "winning" guy. Just some fucked up sexual fantasy, nothing I would act on of course. There is still some instinctive attractiveness to a physically superior male. The dominant one. That's how nature works. But of course we all learn that there is more to love than that.

[Asker]

Finally an answer like this! I appreciate your honesty. I really do. Did your break up with him in the future had an relation to that event or no? And I know this is personal so you don't have to answer if you want, but im curious as to what you were fantasizing about.

[Opinion Owner]

Not really. He started working, didn't give me much attention, the spark was gone. Then I just met another guy and we broke up since we both saw it died out.

[Asker]

Oh ok. I understand that. So, you did admit you were less sexually attracted to him which is fine, but how much exactly was less? Were you able to still have sex with him or did you still have sexual feelings for him but just not as much?

[Opinion Owner]

Like immediately after the incident, I didn't really feel like doing it. But afterwards I became attracted again. Only when I thought about it, I got turned off. Not that much though.

[Asker]

Ok. I'm glad instead of dumping him right after you decided to stick through it. I have one more question. About the guy who beat your ex... did you ever imagine would it be like to have sex with him?

[Asker]

Sorry I have 2 more. Even then you didn't dump your ex has it ever came across your mind to dump him for the other guy? (even though I know you didnt)

[Opinion Owner]

Yes like I said. I fantasized about him a couple times. The fight was also cause he was hitting on me so it's not like I just get turned on by the violence.

[Asker]

I get it, so this guy was hitting on you, so your ex came and tried to back him away but ended up being beat, Were you guys at a bar or something?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes exactly.

[Asker]

I see. Everything makes sense now, and, I know I keep saying one more question but I keep having questions popped up in my head lol. I just really want to know though, if your ex kicked his ass instead, like knocked him out cold or something... how turned on would you of been?

[Opinion Owner]

I have no idea actually. I guess it would turn me on.

[Asker]

Hmm alright then. Just real quick I'd like to share something with you. This is one of the things I came across that prompted me to ask this question. Just thought I'd share.

https://www.misterpoll.com/polls/369115/results
https://www.misterpoll.com/polls/186656/results
https://www.misterpoll.com/polls/321885/results

[BlastGrass]

No way...

It's easy to lose in a fight. It's easy to win in a fight. But it's hard to be gentle and kind, and love someone, and be such a good person, you eventually win their heart.

I'd fucking burn down the house of whoever hurt my boy.

[Asker]

"But it's hard to be gentle and kind, and love someone, and be such a good person"

It is

[shadowlegend]

The ONLY reason I would dump him for getting beat up is if I was physically threatened and he didn't defend me, and just let someone hurt me and him. ONLY reason.

[Asker]

That's acceptable. I'm starting to think most women probably won't care if the guy at least makes an effort to do something about the situation instead of pretending nothing is happening (which I heard some girls say about their bfs before).

[Lenlexyz]

If I had a boyfriend, hell to the no I would not dump him just because he got beat up. The fact that guys have to be "masculine" and "strong" is a stupid label made by society.

[Asker]

I agree that there is a lot of pressure on us to be masculine and strong, but you can't really blame us though. We just don't want to look weak in front of our girlfriends and getting our ass kicked makes the other guy look stronger and more masculine then we are, but... I do understand that it's not going to be the end of the world though.

[SweetHomicidalQueen]

Never, I'd feel sorry for my boyfriend, take care of him so he gets better physically and I'd probably hunt down whoever did so I could show him exactly what he should be afraid of.

[Asker]

That's a good mentality seeing your only 16. I remember back in high school seeing a handful of guys getting dumped for getting their asses kicked. Happened to me once 3 years ago but I was out of high school already.

[SweetHomicidalQueen]

That's fucking dumb.

"I know you just got your ass kicked but i'm gonna make it worse and dump you."

[Asker]

It is... I just wanna share something with you real quick. Just so I don't have to re-send them to everybody, if you scroll down to the anonymous answers, i sent one of them 3 links to a site. If you click them and read the question and the results, it explains why i feel sort of insecure about the subject and why I had to ask this on gag.

[SweetHomicidalQueen]

No I understand why you would be, but I don't care the reason someone asks a question on this site. It's being asked for a reason. And this site is made for that reason.

[Asker]

Yeah I completely understand and it's pretty embarrassing, but for the most part I'm over that incident that happened years ago. Thanks, I knew it be a good question to ask.