Would you prefer a more manly boyfriend or a more feminine boyfriend?

Question

Would you rather date a guy that's more of a typical guy, competitive, less emotional, etc. or would you rather date a guy more in touch with his feminine side, less confrontational, more emotional, etc?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Interesting question with interesting comments. I think its an age thing honestly, because I found as I grew older, I turned more into a feminine guy. By that I mean, I might not be into cars or motorcycles or building or fixing things. I lost interest in video games and tv to some extent. But I do love sports especially hockey and football. I hike, climb and camp regularly. I'm completely 100% straight. Never thought about cock for a second. However I guess I'm caring and attentive and share household and child raising responsibilities 50/50. I hate body hair on me and my girl. Luckily she agrees and hates it too including facial hair. I shave pretty much everything including below which she once requested, i obliged, she loves, and I still do for her all the time. Does that make me feminine? Maybe? I'm not a womanizer. I care for and devote completely to women. I was raised to treat them right and with respect. I pay attention to a females needs before my own including in the bedroom. I always light candles and give massages. I like showers and baths together. I like to cuddle and hold hands. Is that such a turnoff and make me a boyfriend you would not be interested in because most likely you don't see those signs of love and affection with a "manly" man that often? I have a LOT of guy friends and coworkers and they all want to get out of the house and golf and things like that. I want to go home to her. Most of them have or are going through divorces too. Weird? But i guess they are more "manly" than me and won that debate to your comments here. Just curious. I could care less as I'm confident and happily married for 16 years and my lady loves the man that I became and the things i happily sacrificed for her. What's better in the end? Thanks.

looneymalooney · Accepted Answer

i'm a baby faced 1.90m guy.
I'm not complaining and never whining about things, about a splinter in my finger, about falling, scratches, face hits, bruises, so on.
Besides my height, I'm pretty athletic and I like to win, but at the same time, I like to win fair and square and definitely am not a sore loser.

I am in no way confrontational as in triggered. I'm not triggered and you have a shitty life if you get triggered by everything that moves.
On the other hand, when situation asks for it, I would rip you apart: physically or psychologically, depending on the nature of the conflict.

Recently someone snapped at me out of the blue and it was totally uncalled for. These things piss me off. You notice I mind my business and take you for who you are, without placing a tag on you. On the other hand you find it ok to take advantage of my kindness of letting you live and feast on my greatness.
Hell no. I made sure I showed that person what I'm capable of when pissed off. Just a short burst of my savage/animal me.

Laid back, funny, can take jokes, can be poked with a stick and I will roll over on the other side.
Yet when situation asks for it (and when I'm in the right), I get the job done and make sure to show who is boss. And girls seem to appreciate that. At least the ones I encountered so far in my life.
So based on that, maybe they like a bit of both.

CubsterShura · Accepted Answer

I'd say a balance between both is best.

I'm very emotional and everything associated with femininity. So if I have a rough and tough masculine guy that would be a really good balance between us. :) But again, if my guy turns out to be more emotional and less traditionally masculine then we could relate so much and understand each other so well, we'd complement each other perfectly. <3

In conclusion, both type of guys are cool in their own way and I freaking love both. My only requirement is that he HAS to be intelligent and nice, because a traditionally masculine guy or a less traditionally masculine guy can both end up being jerks in their own way too. -_-

dragonfly6516 · Accepted Answer

I prefer males, born as males, who enjoy sex with females, and are more dominant in the bedroom. They could be bi, or hetero.

If you consider the fact that I am completely heterosexual, and most people assume that I'm a lesbian when they meet me, you'll understand why I have an issue with your question.

I think it's wrong to associate certain traits with one gender over another, because it sets unrealistic standards of what is "normal", when in reality we're ALL on a spectrum of what it means to be human.

Astoriana · Accepted Answer

I have no patience for that childish bullshit. It's childish to be competitive. It's childish to be confrontational. Act like a fucking adult and use your words, not your fists.

So, in short, I want an adult man, not the man-boy that you believe to be the "typical" man.

Bleh-___- · Accepted Answer

I like a guy who's able to have typical "female" traits such as:
- talking out their problems rather than being avoidant
- being honest about their feelings
I find it makes the relationship run much more smoothly and they're still manly af.

ClassyMe · Answer

Manly of course. Why would I want to date a flamboyant/feminine guy who either is gay or gets confused for being gay. I feel if I date a feminine guy that I would be considered the "manly" one in the relationship even though I'm a girl. I don't want to confuse some guy for an emotional chick.

_lauren_ · Answer

I don't know the guy I like is just a guy. I love the fact that he calls things cute and pretty. Although he doesn't open up easily, he still tries to talk about his feelings and what's on his mind. He also genuinely listens to me when I talk about my issues. I don't really see him as feminine or masculine, I just see a guy.

Italiangirl99 · Answer

I would prefer a man who is feminine at heart, but has a masculine physical appearance. Feminine men are easier to relate to and seem more genuine in expressing their true thoughts and feelings than masculine men, who try to put on a macho "I have no emotion" show. Genuinity and being able to have a good time are the most important qualities to me in a relationship.

Raine_Shine1994 · Answer

I want to date someone who isn't a Dick. If you can hold a conversation with me and not be an @$$ then I like you already. Now, if you are protective and able to be honest with your feelings then you are mine!! :) Good to have the best of both worlds!

WhereIsMyMind · Answer

I'd like a guy who physically looks masculine and is more "dominant", but personality wise I'd like him to be in touch with his emotions, not afraid to show his feelings, also not purposely confrontational but isn't afraid to stick up for himself and those he cares about when needed.

TheOtakuMaid · Answer

sorry boys but I am the king of the feminine side no one has more fabulous hair or nails than I

Toreno · Answer

Ok, I just see that some girls talking that "feminine guys" are the ones that expose your feelings. But it has nothing to do with being feminine.
I mean, I'm not feminine because I show my feelings to you. I just feel, as any human.

FEEL very much more than an average guy, most similar to a girl, can be classified as a feminine behavior, 'cause guys don't "hide" their emotions, but just feel in a different way from a girl.

Anonymous · Answer

Definitely manly. I'm not confrontational but sometimes it's needed esp if we're mad at each other. I won't be the one to bring it up, i let things build up.

Also I can be emotional but i don't want a guy who's really needy. Been there and it was a disaster. We were both indecisive and I ended up taking charge but i didn't like it. Later he says that he didn't feel needed and that he wants another type of girl

Anonymous · Answer

Definitely manly. I'm not confrontational but sometimes it's needed esp if we're mad at each other. I won't be the one to bring it up, i let things build up.

Also I can be emotional but i don't want a guy who's really needy. Been there and it was a disaster. We were both indecisive and I ended up taking charge but i didn't like it. Later he says that he didn't feel needed and that he wants another type of girl

This_is_my_username · Answer

I want to date a man. Just a man without the labels 😂😂

XRabbitHeartX · Answer

Why not both? All my ex's were manly but at same time emotional too.

Nefeli1 · Answer

As long as he doesn't wear make up i have no problem

BrittBratt2416 · Answer

Look if I wanted to date a woman I would.. and no thats not saying its bad for guys to show their emotions...

SteppingOnRoses · Answer

If manly means... lacking emotions... then i prefer a mix of manliness and of a feminine side as well Though I think real men already have both sides well developed.

Girl7150 · Answer

I like them a bit metro :')  Every girl in the comments are saying "manly of course" but, not for me

HungLikeAHorsefly · Answer

I prefer feminine boyfriends. So feminine, in fact, that they're actually a woman.

JustBoredGirl · Answer

A nice mix of both according to every situation. But maybe a bit on the manly side. I need someone to support me not the other way around.

Alifa · Answer

I like imagining that I prefer manly guys, but in reality, I always seem to get attracted to guys with mild feminine qualities. Ofc who am I to judge whether something is feminine or not, but if I stick with society's standards, that is what I think.

Browneye57 · Answer

Really? You're really not sure? Or just trolling.
Women like manly men. Period. Stop. Done.
Unless they like women. [shrug]

Now, hit the gym, hard, and make lots of money. You'll have all the girls you can stand.

007Bond · Answer

Women dont reallu know what they want. If they say A they mean B. I think they like manly but don't know or admit it when they say feminine

karahiri · Answer

I don't agree with your definitions of masculine or feminine. But i am not a fan of confrontational people, so I'd take the one less so.

homemadeddddynamite · Answer

i don't really care as long as they're not an asshole

alice55 · Answer

Only manly men. There's tons of feminine men in my country and it's boring as hell.

Jemini_Crocket · Answer

Manly and that doesn't mean he's emotionless. Rather keeps his emotions on check.

ColoradoChick84 · Answer

I like feminine and submissive guys who ride horses, ride street bikes, etc

Anonymous · Answer

I absolutely hate the whole manly thing of acting of roughing things out and all that  I guess my favorite part of a guy is his feminine side because I love a guys soft side Especially since I'm a

Asad1ONE1 · Answer

What kind of a stupid a** question is this? LOL!!! Do you like masculine women?

Those qualities have nothing to do with gender and everything to do with the individual person. DO NOT confuse "masculine" with "built", "muscular" or "brawny".

AlwaysBelieving · Answer

Just here to see the opinions of women. BTW: what's so wrong with a guy that expresses himself and shows his emotions? Why does that have to be labeled as "more feminine"?

Peachman · Answer

Well if I HAD to date a guy I would prefer feminine

lovelyhoneybones · Answer

What straight women in her right mind would want a feminine boyfriend?

Anonymous · Answer

I asked my girlfriend the same question and she said she's always liked the more feminine ones in terms of sensitivity (I'm one of them) and mature ones (I'm mature as well).

datgirl · Answer

I'm a straight woman, so I prefer dating manly men.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Someone a bit more on the manly side. Or at the very least more manly than I am.

SupMates · Answer

My girlfriend likes that I'm more feminine while at the same love sports and love riding motorcycles.

Anonymous · Answer

Women think they want the feminine side of a man but trust me they will cheat on your ass if your not manly enough

Ahmed_Sy15x · Answer

So being emotional means less manly?  i don't get that one...

Heartpoint · Answer

I would prefer a boyfriend with good heart and helpful personality.

Anonymous · Answer

Manly of course! Submissive guys are a turn off. At least for me. I know some girls may like it out there, but they're a minority.

AleDeEurope · Answer

Why would any woman want a feminine boyfriend

Anonymous · Answer

Fr some reason, i always date more emotional guys... we get in touch much better

Anastasiya00 · Answer

manly! I want hip to be like an alpha male

Lovebird90 · Answer

I like a guy who have good balance of both.

Mimiclarissa · Answer

I just get along better with manly boyfriends

nowhere_dani · Answer

A typical manly boyfriend

LoloWaye · Answer

Manly. I'm the feminine one.

Tanisha69 · Answer

Manly but not some kind of uber jock douche

Anonymous · Answer

More manly definitely. But not macho

red324 · Answer

Girls prefer me:) I'm the perfect combination :P

mickymousie · Answer

Femboy <3

Anonymous · Answer

Manly with a sliver of femanine.

JailbaitGamerGirl · Answer

Feminine

shreya_shiry · Answer

manly

Penged · Answer

feminine

girlinthisworld · Answer

More manly.

indie_rock_chick · Answer

"Feminine" I guess

Pink2000 · Answer

Manly all the way

millaalexia · Answer

Manly of course

Ladyslipper · Answer

Manly all the way

catelyntje · Answer

Manly of course

Anonymous · Answer

Manly and roughed

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