I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year and a half now and we've been close friends for 3 years.
He hasn't been very masculine in our relationship at all but it hasn't bothered me this much before. Now, as I mature more and I realize I really want a masculine man.
At first I thought the problem was that he didn't in as much effort as me but now I see it's really that he isn't manly enough for me and I feel like the boyfriend.
He's really passive. He'll ask me to hang out but asks what I want to do instead of just planning something us himself. He'll ask me if I want him to do favors for me, like massage my feet, instead of just doing it and surprising me. He doesn't surprise or excite me.
We're in the same peer group and everyone tells me that I "wear the pants", "run the show", etc.
This goes for every department even in sex he prefers to be dominated and when he is "dominant" he always asks me if I want him to perform those sexual favors too.
It's been like this since the beginning though, he didn't even directly ask me out. We told he other that we liked each other and he asked me "What should we do now? What do you want to do?"
I understand he wants to accommodate me in our relationship but I feel more like he thinks I have to approve of everything first like I'm the supervisor or something.
I'd just like him to plan and do things for me and us on his own without always asking my approval, and just treat me more femininely.
How do you tell a guy this without tearing him down and sounding like a b****. I don't have any harsh feelings towards him about this, it's just not really what I want.
He hasn't been very masculine in our relationship at all but it hasn't bothered me this much before. Now, as I mature more and I realize I really want a masculine man.
At first I thought the problem was that he didn't in as much effort as me but now I see it's really that he isn't manly enough for me and I feel like the boyfriend.
He's really passive. He'll ask me to hang out but asks what I want to do instead of just planning something us himself. He'll ask me if I want him to do favors for me, like massage my feet, instead of just doing it and surprising me. He doesn't surprise or excite me.
We're in the same peer group and everyone tells me that I "wear the pants", "run the show", etc.
This goes for every department even in sex he prefers to be dominated and when he is "dominant" he always asks me if I want him to perform those sexual favors too.
It's been like this since the beginning though, he didn't even directly ask me out. We told he other that we liked each other and he asked me "What should we do now? What do you want to do?"
I understand he wants to accommodate me in our relationship but I feel more like he thinks I have to approve of everything first like I'm the supervisor or something.
I'd just like him to plan and do things for me and us on his own without always asking my approval, and just treat me more femininely.
How do you tell a guy this without tearing him down and sounding like a b****. I don't have any harsh feelings towards him about this, it's just not really what I want.
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