At what age should a daughter be allowed to wear thong panties and a push-up/demi-cup bra?

[laurieluvsit]

I never personally have had any restrictions from my parents on any underwear that I wore, but I know some parents take this very seriously and do maintain restrictions on it. But to what age can you really control that? ... and should it be controlled?

For this discussion, thong underwear would include g-strings, t-strings, etc.

I included one picture with the thong panties showing because I know that is one of the arguments against them but I think that is very rare for that to ever happen. Is it a big deal if it does? Why do some parents consider them slutty?

Are push-up bras considered slutty as well?

What restrictions would you insist upon for your daughter and what restrictions did you have from your parents?

What are the arguments against wearing either one?

If you're a guy and your parents have restrictions on thong underwear for you, or you just want to comment on it, feel free to chime in.

A. My daughter would not be wearing thongs or push-up bra's until she moves out on her own! Modesty in dress is, or will be, the rule in this house, whether over, or under

B. I will allow my daughter to wear them, but only after the age I am putting in my comments

C. She can wear thong panties as long as they are not showing, but not a push-up bra as that is too outwardly obvious

D. I have no problem with a push-up bra but for the thong panties she will have to be over a certain age first (see comments)

E. I would have no restrictions on her wearing whatever she wants to, it's just underwear... let's get real!

F. I have never had any restriction from my parents. I can wear any underwear that I want. I really don't think there should be any restrictions

G. OTHER, see my comments below, or just open the underwear survey

[TarrAva]

It is not so much at what age to wear what kind of underwear and bra but rather a question of:

A: Hygiene - G-strings are not very hygienic. Just think of that little string rubbing the anus after going to the washroom and you not having the possibility to properly remove all fecal matter. The string then moves back and forth and the risk is very real that fecal matter finds its way onto the vulva and the vagina with the consequences it implies.

B: Comfort: I do not find G-strings comfortable at all with that string permanently stuck in my crack (s)

C: Overall impression that is given when your crack is showing half way like in the picture above answer "C". Bending is a necessity and tight, low cut and pants are a fashion nowadays for girls and a 10 year old child wearing this combination of garments just sends the wrong signal.

Not having a child myself but transposing the rules that applied to me at home, I would say that I am fine to allow a teenager of 14+ to wear a thong and 16+ with a G-string. As for push up/demi-cup bras, it all depends on the size of breasts. Having a DD at age 16 does not require a demi-cup bra but a push-up bra would be ok in order to give a minimum of support.

Where I definitely have an issue is to allow a 12 yo to wear a T-string. That is a no-go for me as I see T-string as an object that has its place in an erotic environment between adults and not to be worn by a pubescent pre-teen or early teenager.

Call me old fashioned but that is the way I am.

[CarpetDenim]

I wouldn’t really have as much of a problem with my daughter wanting to wear a push-up bra because being insecure of breast size is understandable, and I get it considering I’m only an A-cup lol. I don’t think it’s slutty to wish they were bigger and closer in size to those of one’s friends and peers, I just see it as a way to feel a little better about oneself.

However, thongs serve no purpose besides deliberately showing off your ass, whether it be for allowing a girl to wear super short booty shorts without exposing the edges of her underwear or to wear skintight leggings without showing a panty line.

So, in my view, push-up bras are okay because they’re to feel better and more confident, but thongs are not okay, at least for a younger girl, because their only purpose is to facilitate showing your ass off to the world.

[MissKittyz]

Probably around 16. That's the age I started wearing thongs too. And I started wearing g-strings at 18. But I'd say 16 for both. I don't see why she should wear them at a younger age though.

I still remember in high school, all the young girls in my class would actually show off their ass in the locker rooms cause they would wear g-strings and thongs. Also show their thongs out of their pants in class too lol was fucking ridiculous. Hopefully my future daughters, if I have any, won't be this silly lol

[wingattebaby16]

My mom made me wear Walmart grandma briefs til I was 14yo..

she said bikinis, boyshorts, or smaller, were what whores and loose women wore.

My stepdad bought me bikini panties when I was 12yo.. I had to hide them at school...

[No_Archons]

Ewwwww

[wingattebaby16]

tbh, when a teenage girl is "ready/mature" enough to wear them, that's the time I will let them. I want to encourage my daughters to be healthy, not sexually uptight, not old fashioned, and definitely not prudes.

also, having been picked on and teased in jr high school for wearing grandma panties when the other 12 to 13yo girls were wearing bikinis and such, I will not put my own daughters through that torture, EVER!

[VaIiant]

I've worn thongs since I was 12? 13? To avoid panty lines. My parents were both fine with it. How can underwear be slutty when no one is seeing it except a SO when you're older?

[Grond21]

I am single, and my wife will obviously have a big say in this when the time comes. But my inclination right now is to say that she can wear thongs whenever she wants as long as they are not showing. As for the push-up bra, it seems like the only purpose is to make the breasts look bigger and more enhanced, and I can't see that as being non-sexual. If it is purely for support I don't mind her wearing them, but I wouldn't want her to wear them if she is just seeking attention

[Smf1989]

I would have no restrictions on her wearing whatever she wants to, it's just underwear... let's get real!

[modeve]

Very thought provoking question. I have been wearing thongs etc since 15/16 of age. My mom knew it. I would rather say that it was her permission, but with some restrictions. Now myself a mom tho daughter is only 3, I should admit that earlier I never thought of it that at what age my daughter should wear such stuff. Having read your question, I am constraint to think that fast changing world around us requires us to compromise the situation. However, I would allow my daughter at the age of at least 15/16 to wear thong bikini etc but has to be careful not to expose it while sitting.

[Elliegirl]

I’m not too concerned about it as long as she isn’t showing her thong. I was about 15 when I started wearing thongs. I think around the beginning of high school is probably the most age appropriate. For demi and push-ups, when she had boobs, she can wear them.

[elizamichale1]

My parents never ever restricted me on my dress choices
whatever bra or panties i wear or even if i dont wear at all they never put any restrictions on me
only instructions i used to get was when my tops were a little transparent
and i believe that there shouldn't be any restrictions in this matter at all to be honest

[DianaWest]

16. heck, i can't stand thongs cause they're always in my ass, and i feel the need to pull them out. i like the big, granny underwear. sexy right? heck, my mother, who is in her fifties, keeps trying to get me to wear thongs. and i am 20, and can't stand them. ladies, enlighten me. what's so good about these stringy things that offer no support whatsoever and makes it extremely uncomfortable when your jeans go inside your butt hole?

[DianaWest]

umm. and seriously, that's up to the mother. not trying to be sexist here, but it seems a bit distasteful for a guy to be telling his daughter what to wear underneath her clothes. let the mother do that, dude.

[Dlg1979]

I agtee, that's too creepy

[DesiUwU]

i'm young and i have pushup bras and lacy panties, gifted to me from my mother and grandmother cuz they said when they were my age they remember wanting to feel pretty when they're alone, and they would wear lacy undies and push up bras to achieve that

[Britantic]

I dont think thongs are that popular anymore. A girl in my opinion shouldn't be wearing push up bras until they are 16.
There's a lot of stuff teen girls wear that I wouldn't mainly because it looks trashy like a bra with a see through top

[VIVANT]

Jeez s mean a push up bra just makes everything more comfortable bc it supports the creatures... I can’t imagine having a rule against that

I also don’t see why underwear should be policed

Exposing underwear sure but wearing it 🤷‍♀️

[SjE78]

16-17 if they are legal to have sex at that age then wearing provocative clothing to attract guys etc to their presence would not be a serious issue...

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I'd not be very strict about it, in fact it wouldn't even be my concern.

[convo_king89]

The father thinks it’s only about sex and nothing else

The mother thinks it’s about panty lines and self confidence.

So as guy I would pick one that a father would say and I would pick 16 years old. Until then it’s granny panties and a non push up bra.

[AuroraRoseat]

I don't care for them so I wouldn't buy them for her. But as soon as she leaves or makes her own money, I don't care what she wears (she's an adult).

[Dragon_Rises]

I would be fine with a daughter wear thongs when she's 12+ but I voted I wouldn't have any restrictions because it's just underwear.

[matchrestore]

E. It's just underwear. I'll worry about other things, thank you.

[loveslongnails]

First off... I don't get "thongs". They look uncomfortable and well, pointless. As to the bra, if you don't have anything to push up, wait until you do.

[electroon]

Once you get used to it, thongs are way more comfortable for moving around, especially while doing sports. And it isn't visible in tight dresses, skirts or leggings.

[loveslongnails]

@electroon But there's nothing to them and they don't "protect" or shelter any part of the female anatomy... really... so... what's the point?

[electroon]

I'll be direct: because vaginal discharge, periods and I doubt a lot of girls go commando. It's not just used to "protect" and shelter.

[loveslongnails]

@electroon How much "coverage" does a thong offer for vaginal discharge? I'm not saying go commando, I'm asking how is it really different from going commando? If you're concerned about discharge and coverage, how can a thong be effective?

[electroon]

@loveslongnails You put toilet paper down there... But most "normal" thongs do offer enough space to cover the necessary parts. It's just really useful when wearing tight clothing and moving around more freely.

[loveslongnails]

@electroon I'm going to of course, have to take your word for that :)

[Finchie40]

Any age ,. let your kids be who they want to be., they will respect. ya more in the long run

[DianaWest]

great advice dad! in the meantime, give them some booze and let them take your car out for a ride. let them be independent. let them have their freedom. let them develop and grow and "discover themselves." right. that's what gets mindless teens into trouble.

[Finchie40]

LOL i didn't go that far , clothing material shouldn't be that big of a deal it's just clothes. If they feel comfortable in it and makes them happy then why ruin their parade , just clothes not that big of a deal , How would you feel if everytime you put clothes on someone criticized you? Thats whats wrong with this world everyone is judgmental , you know kids r bullied cuz they dont have expensive clothes or the new shoes etc.. You know who's fault that is? The parents cuz they can't keep their fucking mouths shut and dressing their kids the way they want to dress them just let your kid express the way they want to be whether u agree or disagree with what they wear. As a parent its ok to guide your child tell them hey sweetie , kids might make. fun of you if you wear that but if it makes u Happy thats all that matters. Let your kid decide what they want to wear it isn't hurting anyone and 99 percent of the time its just a faze Thats how kids learn and respect one another

[DianaWest]

ok, that's fine. but i'm not letting my 14-year-old future daughter walk around with a miniskirt and belly top.

[Finchie40]

Why not? She is going to do it whether u tell her no or not , way waste the energy , u can teach her what could happen if she wears that stuff but you shouldn't force her , when u try to force someone to do something it makes them want to do it. more. but if u guide them. and per them look at it from both ways then they will realize hey maybe Mom is right , i dont need to do that

[DianaWest]

no, sorry. i won't have my young future daughter dressed scantily. the way you dress also is a large reflection of your character. i am not 80 and against dressing a bit sexy, but i have my limits. nothing whorish. nope. if she wants to wear a skirt that's closer to her knees, that's fine. it doesn't have to be all the way to her knees, but not too far up either. as long as she is under my roof, she lives by my rules man. you give them too much freedom and then they fuck their lives up. that's just my opinion, or maybe i've been watching too many movies. i'm 20 and i don't act like some airheads my age. there are some 20-year-olds that are very mature, and others that are not so much.

[Finchie40]

Understandable well by you not dressing whorish will hopefully guide your kids not to as well

[sean1234]

Bras cause sagging and breast cancer, so those are out. As for panties? Whatever works works.

[electroon]

I'd say around 16 years old, when she's conscious of the kind of attention she'll be drawing.

[No_Archons]

Its funny lol... for guys we feel we need to switch to loose boxers to be cool in highschool... they cover far more. For women y'all think its cool to slim down and wear less?

[miniskirtcaley81]

My daughter is 13 and she only wears/owns thongs/gstrings. My husband and I are totally fine with it. Now if I find crotchless panties in her laundry that could be a different story.

[girly_gal_88]

I was wearing push up bras and thongs when I was 14/15. It was not that big a deal and my mom was OK with it.